Do You Call-Out Impostors?

[DawnODay]

I received an unsolicited PM from an ostensible "married, 46 year old mom of 2... to talk on here about experiences, fantasies, and interests." We chatted about ourselves back and forth for a bit. Ultimately, it led to "her" suggesting we role-play by PM. By this time, it was pretty clear to me that "she" was actually a "he." I declined the role-play, but did not explain why. (If he reads this post, he will know, but I get the impression he does not bother reading posts of even the people with whom he wants to chat.) I did not want to embarrass or anger him.

Should I have let him know I was on to him, or do what I did and simply come up with an excuse not to role-lay?

What would you do?

 

[yossi]

People are on here for all sorts of reasons, to play out all manner of fantasies that they can't in their real life. It's best to always keep that in mind. If someone randomly PMs me, I just assume that he/she isn't being truthful, but if they're simply trying to play, I also don't hold it against them.

I never feel the need to make excuses not to engage in or continue a conversation if I don't prefer to, and I don't feel the need to call people out for not being who they say - it's usually no more than a gut instinct.

 

[adrina]

Nah, just decline or quit responding. Not my monkey, not my zoo.

 

[DawnODay]

People are on here for all sorts of reasons, to play out all manner of fantasies that they can't in their real life. It's best to always keep that in mind. If someone randomly PMs me, I just assume that he/she isn't being truthful, but if they're simply trying to play, I also don't hold it against them.

I never feel the need to make excuses not to engage in or continue a conversation if I don't prefer to, and I don't feel the need to call people out for not being who they say - it's usually no more than a gut instinct.

Nah, just decline or quit responding. Not my monkey, not my zoo.

Thank you both! I feel better about my decision now.

 

[Lancecastor]

I received an unsolicited PM from an ostensible "married, 46 year old mom of 2... to talk on here about experiences, fantasies, and interests." We chatted about ourselves back and forth for a bit. Ultimately, it led to "her" suggesting we role-play by PM. By this time, it was pretty clear to me that "she" was actually a "he." I declined the role-play, but did not explain why. (If he reads this post, he will know, but I get the impression he does not bother reading posts of even the people with whom he wants to chat.) I did not want to embarrass or anger him.

Should I have let him know I was on to him, or do what I did and simply come up with an excuse not to role-lay?

What would you do?

Don't mind luk, he's harmless...

 

[Down4fun91]

Yesss

Nah, just decline or quit responding. Not my monkey, not my zoo.

Perfect response.

 

[done_got_old]

I agree with Adrina.

 

[Liar]

I received an unsolicited PM from an ostensible "married, 46 year old mom of 2... to talk on here about experiences, fantasies, and interests." We chatted about ourselves back and forth for a bit. Ultimately, it led to "her" suggesting we role-play by PM. By this time, it was pretty clear to me that "she" was actually a "he." I declined the role-play, but did not explain why. (If he reads this post, he will know, but I get the impression he does not bother reading posts of even the people with whom he wants to chat.) I did not want to embarrass or anger him.

Should I have let him know I was on to him, or do what I did and simply come up with an excuse not to role-lay?

What would you do?

Hey, it's a step above unsolicited dick pics. Which is a thing. Or so I've heard.

 

[starrynightin64]

Nah, just decline or quit responding. Not my monkey, not my zoo.

On spot advice not just for here but in real life too!

 

[ydahecnot]

I am so a woman!

Er, I mean, good call, Dawn!

 

[KarenB59]

I did once. Kind of. There was a guy I used to chat with who disappeared for a few months. Came back with the wildest story I'd ever heard about why he hadn't been on. I asked him if he making it up and BAM! Window goes down. Door is slammed and locked and I never heard another word from him. Touched a nerve maybe?