Delayed Gratification

[Iamsubmissive]

Nothing is more stimulating to me than the anticipation or buildup of something you really want. Not just sexually but in all things. I start shopping for Christmas in July, decorate before thanksgiving, and add presents under tree for weeks ahead of time. If I'm buying a new car I pick one out, watch my money jar grow for the down payment, maybe even visit my new car at the dealership a few times before I actually walk in and buy it. I'm also the type of person that when told not to do something, that's the first thing I want to do. I'll drive myself crazy trying to resist until I finally give in and just do it. So, combining those two characteristics I'm not suprised that spills over into my sex life as well.

I enjoy bondage but it's even more arousing for me if I'm ignored, teased, ignored, teased...
One time my D asked me not to touch myself all week, but each day there was some kind of task to arouse/torment me...watch a porn on masterbation, read masterbation stories, search the Web for masterbation pics to send him, dirty talk on the phone where he got to masturbate, etc. By the time we met up at the end of the week, I was going crazy and the first thing he had me do was get naked, describe how I felt all week, and finally masterbate for him. It didn't take long for me to come but OMG it felt better than any other time I touched myself.

So, I was just wondering if anyone else feels this kind of thing. Or if you have any similar stories to share or any goods ideas and suggestions for delayed gratification...

 

[Nezhul]

Seems like you're into long-term orgasm denial. That's a pretty common fetish to have.

I suggest you try edging too. Next time you see each other, have your master bring you to the edge of orgasm, and then stop before you can have it. Repeat it several times, and you get incredibly horny and frustrated, but the orgasm that follows will feel very good too. You can do the same during masturbation, but it takes some self control.

I also suggest you visit the site called Milovana. It's a community dedicated to orgasm denial, chastity, waiting for your release and stuff like that. A lot of helpful people there, at least there were when last I checked.
There are a lot of "webteases" too, but they are mainly targeted at males.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Seems like you're into long-term orgasm denial. That's a pretty common fetish to have.

I suggest you visit the site called Milovana. It's a community dedicated to orgasm denial, chastity, waiting for your release and stuff like that. A lot of helpful people there, at least there were when last I checked.
There are a lot of "webteases" too, but they are mainly targeted at males.

Thanks, I'll check it out. I would'nt really say I'm into long-term orgasm denial...I doubt I could have lasted any longer than that week! Maybe that's considered long-term but that was kind of a one-off thing. It doesn't have to be orgasm denial...mostly just the anticipation and build up of something.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

I suggest you try edging too. Next time you see each other, have your master bring you to the edge of orgasm, and then stop before you can have it. Repeat it several times, and you get incredibly horny and frustrated, but the orgasm that follows will feel very good too. You can do the same during masturbation, but it takes some self control.

Yeah, edging works for him to tease me but I don't have that kind of control to do it myself...plus I'm not that mean to myself ☺

 

[Nezhul]

Delayed gratification it is then.
However, are you sure there's much besides sex that can be "delayed" so you could get excited in the right way? Like, going to the movie you want to see - and your BF tells you that you can only go next week?

Either way, maybe you are more into control in general than delaying/withholding something?

I don't know. Either way, I'm glad you have what you want. =)

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Naturally, I don't get sexual gratification from simple normal things in life, but I do find the reward much sweeter when it's something you have to work for or wait for...most of the time. If I'm craving chocolate cake, I'd rather get it as soon as possible because any chocolate cake is good. But if I'm craving seafood and I know THE BEST seafood place is three hours away, I'd rather wait and plan a trip to go because it will be so much more worth it than running down to the nearest Red Lobster for something mediocre.

And sexually, maybe it does have something to do with control, or lack of control. Then again, I think a lot of people like longer foreplay as opposed to getting right to it. It's kinda like that but for me...more drawn out than that. Idk, that's why I asked for feedback. Maybe I'm just weird and nobody else gets it?

 

[Primalex]

And sexually, maybe it does have something to do with control, or lack of control. Then again, I think a lot of people like longer foreplay as opposed to getting right to it. It's kinda like that but for me...more drawn out than that. Idk, that's why I asked for feedback. Maybe I'm just weird and nobody else gets it?

Delayed gratification in itself? Not enough torture for me.

Now...doing a sexual marshmallow test with you....that would be interesting.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Delayed gratification in itself? Not enough torture for me.

Now...doing a sexual marshmallow test with you....that would be interesting.

That was great! Those kids who waited probably had the sweetest marshmallow they ever tasted. Not sure exactly how a sexual marshmallow test would go but I can imagine it would be just as delicious!

 

[MistressMoira]

To everything there is a season.

It is the Lent Season now. I don't eat hot cross buns in Lent. I don't eat Easter Eggs in Lent. I don't decorate my home in Lent.

I have a kinky Catholic friend. Or should that be a Catholic kinky friend. She doesn't even have sex in Lent.

The reality is that the delayed gratification pleases me. It makes it better when I do it.

So, I like to offer my subs the same experience sexually.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Iamsubmissive]

To everything there is a season.

It is the Lent Season now. I don't eat hot cross buns in Lent. I don't eat Easter Eggs in Lent. I don't decorate my home in Lent.

I have a kinky Catholic friend. Or should that be a Catholic kinky friend. She doesn't even have sex in Lent.

The reality is that the delayed gratification pleases me. It makes it better when I do it.

So, I like to offer my subs the same experience sexually.

I like that answer. I find that when the thing you want is easily accessible you don't desire it as much. If you could have something anytime you want then it's no big deal because you know it's there when you want it.

I had a friend that smoked occasionally. If she ran out of cigarettes, she freaked out, had to have one. But if she had a pack in her purse, she rarely even smoked one.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Delayed gratification when you really really want can be truly torturous. But if I am not allowed I make it clear that I want, that's obviously part of it for him, but I am good with boundaries. I try not to sulk and enjoy what I am allowed instead.

I agree that it can be torturous...but a sweet kind of torture, to me. Sounds like your PYL enjoys it more than you do, but you're a good sport about it

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Quint12]

i absolutely love when my wife doesnt let me cum. it usually requires me being locked up in a cage, which I find extremely arousing. I can only last a few days and she pushes me to my limit until I will do ANYTHING she wants. It has quickly become my favorite thing!!!!!

 

[Iamsubmissive]

she pushes me to my limit until I will do ANYTHING she wants.

Yep, that's the good stuff!

 

[FrozenBlaze]

Hot stuff for sure.

I'm new to kink and there's something about denial that temps me up. It's going to be my theme in my first story.

Thank you for the thread, I'm onto it

 

[Farawyn]

Is marshmallow a euphemism?

 

[NewSubQuestions]

Hahaha I want a marshmallow test!

 

[Primalex]

Is marshmallow a euphemism?

I have thought quite some time about this question, but I think it's only a metaphor.

 

[Farawyn]

I have thought quite some time about this question, but I think it's only a metaphor.