Do humor and sensuality mix?

[NotWise]

On another thread, Pilot wrote:

"Not to mention that humour kills the emotion of sensuality. It doesn't mix well with arousal."

Correct me if I misquoted.

The idea may not be universally accepted. A lot of women I've known think they combine pretty well.

 

[TxRad]

On another thread, Pilot wrote:

"Not to mention that humour kills the emotion of sensuality. It doesn't mix well with arousal."

Correct me if I misquoted.

The idea may not be universally accepted. A lot of women I've known think they combine pretty well.

Laughter is a very good way to a woman's heart. Among other places.

 

[Serafina1210]

I posted this in the other thread but duplicate it here and hope folks won't mind.

I'm game. Index where you think you have managed to do humor and sensuality simultaneously. I'm not talking about the element being in the same story; I'm talking about them being managed at the exact same time. (Horseshit right back at'cha.)

The moment you move into (what you think is) humor, you evaporate sensuality.

Ho-kay.

This is not everybody's cup of erm, nevermind, not even mine, but I've found that humor and fetish go together very well. My "Brenda" series does very well with readers, both in number of views and in ratings. I'd particularly point to Ch. 6 (towards the end, where the reverend is simultaneously preaching and facefucking our heroine) of "God and the Cum Dump" and, well, just a whole lot of "The Rent-A-Slave" and "The Taming of the Shithead" (trigger warnings: piss, scat, and all kinds of awful stuff in both stories). The Brenda stories are basically long-form strokers: readers sometimes report multiple orgasms, though I take this with a grain of salt.

I think gangbangs are inherently funny. People fumbling around trying to do anal sex for the first time can be very funny. I exploit those things in "Amy Says Yes."

My "Cunnilingus: A Short History" did very well. It's a collection of six mini-stories, three of them humorous. Full of biblical and classical allusions, too, but I don't think that accounts for the fact that readers have liked it.

Now, if humor kills the sensuality for you, you're not going to like these stories. That's fine. We've all got our preferences. But I will say that humor doesn't kill sensuality for me, but rather enhances it. For me, anyway, a laugh is a turn-on--a fact that has often redounded to the benefit of a certain well-hung personage in my life; and even reading a funny story can leave me a little hot.

My experience here is that this is also true for a number of my readers.

Oh, and I'd say these are pretty good stories, independent of ratings, partly because of the humor; but how could I prove that?

 

[NotWise]

Laughter is a very good way to a woman's heart. Among other places.

Laughter before bed is a good thing; laughter in bed is (usually) a great thing.

One of my frequent self-criticisms is that my stories should be funnier. There are a lot of stories out there that are more popular than the few of mine, but my most popular are a little light-hearted in bed (or on the couch or -- maybe coming to a web site near you -- in a car). No Rodney Dangerfield jokes, but laughter just the same.

 

[Hypoxia]

Laughter lofts love.

Try it some time.

Like right now.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Sure they do. Flirting is often sensual and funny at the same time.

I've used humour in sex several times in my stories here. "Counting to Eleven" is named for a bit of silliness that happens during a BDSM scene, and according to the comments at least one reader was turned on by the horror/comedy/sex in "Red Callum, Sweet Cate".

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I suspect PILOT had some hurtful collisions with laughter in bed.

 

[Carnal_Flower]

Spot on.

I suspect PILOT had some hurtful collisions with laughter in bed.

 

[McKenna]

If nothing else, a good sense of humor often opens the door for more intimate encounters. That said, sex IS funny. The noises, the "oopses", the fumbling in the dark... laughter is an efficient way to increase intimacy by decreasing nervousness. Humor can bond two people.

Also, if humor weren't important, it wouldn't be one of the top things listed on dating profiles, i.e., "Must have a sense of humor."

Perhaps the question shouldn't be if sensuality and humor mix, but rather what type of humor.

 

[JKendallDane]

I suspect PILOT had some hurtful collisions with laughter in bed.

In spite of all the Trumpisms you post, James, it's stuff ^^like that^^ that guarantees you will never be on my ignore list.

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[sr71plt]

In spite of all the Trumpisms you post, James, it's stuff ^^like that^^ that guarantees you will never be on my ignore list.

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And you running around with both James' and your noses in my ass in some sort of "I wish I could be you" dance is why I never put YOU two clowns on my ignore list.

Take heart, though, Duane. In a rare instance, you're on the "Today" popular authors' list at GM and I'm not--I know that gives you a thrill. Of course, I'm on the 7-day list and at the top of the 30-day list and you're not on them, but you can just pretend those don't exist.

And I'm still laughing at Naoko's idiotic suggestion that JBJ is goaded into trolling folks.

 

[sr71plt]

I quite agree that the sex act is laughable (and have posted that from time to time). And I agree that you can be giddy with laughter during sex. I also combine humor and sex in some of my stories (just did so in my "Luther" series--also including mental deficiency, as related to another recent thread). I just believe that the mood of humor is the antithesis of the mood of sensuality and that this is why humor doesn't fly that well in Literotica stories where readers are looking to be sexually aroused in their read (which, I believe, is how this issue came up).

 

[TxRad]

I quite agree that the sex act is laughable (and have posted that from time to time). And I agree that you can be giddy with laughter during sex. I also combine humor and sex in some of my stories (just did so in my "Luther" series--also including mental deficiency, as related to another recent thread). I just believe that the mood of humor is the antithesis of the mood of sensuality and that this is why humor doesn't fly that well in Literotica stories where readers are looking to be sexually aroused in their read (which, I believe, is how this issue came up).

Actually, the discussion was on low scores in humor and satire as a category. I was saying it was a low vote count in the category and that peoples perspective on humor differ greatly. You were the one who said humor didn't go with sex.

First time sex is usually a comedy of errors. Laughter and charm go hand in hand. If you're not having fun, you're doing something wrong.

 

[sr71plt]

Actually, the discussion was on low scores in humor and satire as a category. I was saying it was a low vote count in the category and that peoples perspective on humor differ greatly. You were the one who said humor didn't go with sex.

First time sex is usually a comedy of errors. Laughter and charm go hand in hand. If you're not having fun, you're doing something wrong.

It's a sex reading site. I think I was speaking directly to why humor might get a low vote comparatively on Literotica. They came for sexual arousal and got "please laugh" and I think those two are antithetical.

Low votes for satire can be pretty much assigned to the reading level of readers. I sometimes get an "it wasn't funny" comment on satires. Well, no. Satire doesn't have to be humor.

 

[Nathan_Brazil]

Humour scores poorly

I suspect that the one-handed crowd is largely composed of slack-jawed yokels. You know, folks that think snot bubbles and poo poo jokes are the epitomy of wit.

You know... Trump voterz.

 

[LadyVer]

On another thread, Pilot wrote:

"Not to mention that humour kills the emotion of sensuality. It doesn't mix well with arousal."

Correct me if I misquoted.

The idea may not be universally accepted. A lot of women I've known think they combine pretty well.

Humor can lead to intimacy, especially when combined with sex. Most women don't want to go to bed with a killjoy. Killjoys kill intimacy, and sex.

 

[sr71plt]

Give a horse laugh and keep laughing when the guy sticks it in you, and report back on what effect that had on his stamina.

 

[LadyVer]

Give a horse laugh and keep laughing when the guy sticks it in you, and report back on what effect that had on his stamina.

Says the killjoy.

 

[SamScribble]

In my experience, it's difficult that have one without the other. Although you can have the other without the one. If you see what I mean.

 

[Noor]

If nothing else, a good sense of humor often opens the door for more intimate encounters. That said, sex IS funny. The noises, the "oopses", the fumbling in the dark... laughter is an efficient way to increase intimacy by decreasing nervousness. Humor can bond two people.

Also, if humor weren't important, it wouldn't be one of the top things listed on dating profiles, i.e., "Must have a sense of humor."

Perhaps the question shouldn't be if sensuality and humor mix, but rather what type of humor.

I agree that humor bonds and what kind of humor is a good question. I also think that when weird things happen during sex, a person can either react with humor or not, I prefer the person who reacts with humor.
I find mutual laughter to be very sexy.

 

[JKendallDane]

And you running around with both James' and your noses in my ass in some sort of "I wish I could be you" dance is why I never put YOU two clowns on my ignore list.

Take heart, though, Duane. In a rare instance, you're on the "Today" popular authors' list at GM and I'm not--I know that gives you a thrill. Of course, I'm on the 7-day list and at the top of the 30-day list and you're not on them, but you can just pretend those don't exist.

Buwahahaha! Put the claws away, pilot.

See! You can write humor! Just throw in some hot sex with all that and there ya go.

 

[sr71plt]

One thing is quite clear here, Duane--although Naoko may not be able to grasp it--both you and JBJ trolled me on this thread. Which just shows how much you are obsessed with me. Neither one of you is my type. Never was attracted to the limp wristed.

By the way, how is your "best writers of erotica" anthologies doing? The eXcessica ones I have works in are doing very nicely.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

In spite of all the Trumpisms you post, James, it's stuff ^^like that^^ that guarantees you will never be on my ignore list.

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A good carpenter does not blame his tools.

 

[Altissimus]

I am trying to resist an urge to hijack this thread into a discussion about vote-bombing and stupid comments.

 

[sr71plt]

I am trying to resist an urge to hijack this thread into a discussion about vote-bombing and stupid comments.

Like we don't have enough of those threads already.

Oh, I get it . . . that was your point.