why do girls like pain?

[benjamin96]

why do girls like pain so much more than males do?
in movies i don't think males ever ask for pain.
i'd love to slap my budding girlfriend's bare buttocks if she undresses tomorrow.

 

[RawHumor]

In movies? You're talking about porn?

Please don't ever mistake porn for reality. It's not an indicator of what women want, how most women act, or how men should act.

Some of it is hot, yes, but it's made by men for men (98% at least).

There are masochistic men just as there are masochistic women. However, you're right that more women are probably masochistic than men are. That could go back to long ago days...

 

[benjamin96]

In movies? You're talking about porn?

Please don't ever mistake porn for reality. It's not an indicator of what women want, how most women act, or how men should act.

Some of it is hot, yes, but it's made by men for men (98% at least).

There are masochistic men just as there are masochistic women. However, you're right that more women are probably masochistic than men are. That could go back to long ago days...

yeah its kind of complicated.
plus their bottoms are softer so more suited to spanking, except for the stupid muscular girls.

 

[Super-Surprise]

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[Ikklerockchick]

Oh sweetie ignore porn. And fifty shades of shit. Yeah some girls will like a bit of hair pulling or a graze of teeth on their nipples but the kind of slapping etc you see in pornos? It's a no from me.

 

[curiousdreamer51]

Ex Wife

My ex loved her nipples bit, twisted and pulled incredibly hard. A subsequent GF didn't care for nipple play but loved having her hair pulled and ass slapped doing it doggy style. Now my wife of 34 years, not into either. Some do some don't! My recent discovery - as I near orgasm I love having my right nipple abused.... Bit, pinched and twisted! Yessssssss!

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

And here I was thinking it's because we can handle it without being pussies like men are..

Slap a woman's hooha, and she might moan or squeak a little.
Slap a man's dick and he cries like a little bitch.



Jk.

I'm in terribly foul mood over my Panthers today. Nothing some scathing sarcasm won't cure.

 

[FGB]

yeah.

If they hand you a flogger, cuffs and a spread bar I thank it's a pretty safe bet that they may be into a little pain.

Hey, it happened to me once!

 

[jonpatato]

And here I was thinking it's because we can handle it without being pussies like men are..

Slap a woman's hooha, and she might moan or squeak a little.
Slap a man's dick and he cries like a little bitch.



Jk.

I'm in terribly foul mood over my Panthers today. Nothing some scathing sarcasm won't cure.

Speaking for myself, I enjoy a,little pain. I have a prince alert. I get tattoos because I like the pain.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Speaking for myself, I enjoy a,little pain. I have a prince alert. I get tattoos because I like the pain.

Oh, I know. I was just kidding. I had a lover who insisted I get a really good grip on his balls and hold them like that when I performed fellatio. As tight I had them, I'm sure he was a bit of a glutton for punishment. Not in my nature to dole out pain willy-nilly, but if you are going to ask for it, who am I to deny you? n'est–ce pas?

 

[TomPal]

Porn and real life are different...there are different women as well- some do and some don't

 

[deedee94]

Movies is not real life.
And its just not women, but men also enjoy this.
There is a point where the pain becomes pleasurable and one can get lost in that pleasurable plateau. Some people call that plateau sub space, or head space. Remember the brain is an organ too and has much to do with how we garner out sexual experience.
Everyone’s pain threshold is different. The experience isn’t limited to the receiver of said punishment, but also the giver. You can really apply a beginners flogger as hard as you want, and not inflict much pain, and have the pleasure of seeing that person writhe in front of you
Also it isn't about punishing your partner, and that's it!, but the tender and intimate after care. Applying scented oils and lotions, massaging them, kissing the weal mark you left on her buttocks.
For me, my body hums for days afterward. Bruised, whipped and bitten nipples, are tender for days, and a gentle abrasion of them against the material of the top Im wearing can bring me off to an orgasm, without touching myself.
This subject can be as deep and philosophical as you want it to go, or as fanciful as the movies makes it out to be.

 

[HoldYouDown]

In my experience women enjoy some BEARABLE pain. I believe it goes hand in hand with wanting domination. That's been my experience anyway.

 

[Dirtyslut4U]

In my experience women enjoy some BEARABLE pain. I believe it goes hand in hand with wanting domination. That's been my experience anyway.

I love pain maybe to much during sex but yes in my mind it goes hand in hand with being dominated and the erotic strength of a man.

 

[HoldYouDown]

I love pain maybe to much during sex but yes in my mind it goes hand in hand with being dominated and the erotic strength of a man.

I like you.

 

[Dirtyslut4U]

Lol why thank you kind sir.

 

[LWulf]

I don't think (most) girls "like" pain, so much as (most) girls are willing to "endure" more than a man. Mythbusters did an episode where they found women "tolerated" more than a man.

I see one issue with those results from my perspective. I think (more) men are capable of enduring more than the average woman, IF they feel it's necessary. I think (most) women are more inclined to put up with more without asking "why?" by and large.

Consider the amount of BS a man will go through for the CHANCE of getting some pusoir. That's one reason why I think men are more inclined to "endure" pain, mental or physical.

After that, both sexes are inclined to like rough sex, though in varying degrees. Anything that gets the blood flowing and get naughsty thoughts going, works.

 

[LWulf]

...by the way, seconded on all the "reality vs porn/movies" comments. Ignore such things (porn/movies) if you are really into impact play. It will do absolutely NO good for you but make a fool of you if you try to do it for real with a woman.

 

[beingtrue2me]

I dunno why I enjoy it. I just do. The only problem that I have on occasion is that most guys don't really know how to spank a girl. I get the whole don't want to hurt me thing but after we watch a spanking video and I tell him that's exactly what I want.......he still usually taps me. I am not into getting my hair pulled but I simply love having my nipples pinched and pulled and having my boobs treated roughly. I have limits but they are seldom approached.

 

[LWulf]

I dunno why I enjoy it. I just do. The only problem that I have on occasion is that most guys don't really know how to spank a girl. I get the whole don't want to hurt me thing but after we watch a spanking video and I tell him that's exactly what I want.......he still usually taps me. I am not into getting my hair pulled but I simply love having my nipples pinched and pulled and having my boobs treated roughly. I have limits but they are seldom approached.

Are you one of the "I like the upswing, not downswing" spankee types, or anything that puts a sting in your tail?

My first girlfriend I spanked was like you, but she would absolutely want to bitchslap me if I tried to tweak her nipples.

 

[Monica_112]

I think there's a pleasing your partner aspect to this that goes hand in hand a lot of the time with submission, pain is an extension of the control dynamic.

It is less common for women to crave dominance and for men to crave submission, not uncommon just less but IME men enjoy pain as much as women. Tbh in my limited experience I find pain play more initially interesting with female submissives than male as there is a more honest and immediate reaction.

 

[beingtrue2me]

Are you one of the "I like the upswing, not downswing" spankee types, or anything that puts a sting in your tail?

My first girlfriend I spanked was like you, but she would absolutely want to bitchslap me if I tried to tweak her nipples.

I just like feeling the sting and feeling his hands holding me with a firm grip. I like forceful. There's bad pain and good pain. I actually like being a bit sore the next day. In more areas than one. I understand your last line too cause I used to be like that really. I kinda morphed into liking my nipples pulled. Always loved having my breasts handled roughly tho.

 

[LWulf]

I just like feeling the sting and feeling his hands holding me with a firm grip. I like forceful. There's bad pain and good pain. I actually like being a bit sore the next day. In more areas than one. I understand your last line too cause I used to be like that really. I kinda morphed into liking my nipples pulled. Always loved having my breasts handled roughly tho.

While I associate with your "he still usually taps me" comment, which is how I usually approached my first few girlfriends I spanked, one of the last girlfriends I spanked claimed to be a devout spankee, I unleashed and gave her a "medium" tail warming to start with and to say the relationship was over before it began is being mild.

My point is, it's difficult to know who to feel safe unleashing some serious whup ass with and who just fantasizes about it. It's safer to start out slow. You can always work up to harder. Either that or maybe you should do what Miss Goldie used to say, yawn outrageously while being spanked, or tie their shoelaces together while bent over their knee.

Then again, when I was younger, I used to be capable of spanking much harder but never found someone to unleash fully with. Today, I am restrained by the limits of the flesh. The last gf I mentioned before, though only a "medium" spanking, my hand was bruised clear through to the other side for a couple of weeks. It didn't hurt but it was sightly to look at.

 

[beingtrue2me]

It's funny you mentioned that the relationship was over after that. I told someone in a pm tonight that I once started a fight with a guy I was dating just to get him to show some passion. Make a long story short I finally got in his face and slapped him and dared him to take me. It was the only time he was ever forceful during sex and we split very soon after. I pretty much freaked him out.

 

[Setanta84]

It's funny you mentioned that the relationship was over after that. I told someone in a pm tonight that I once started a fight with a guy I was dating just to get him to show some passion. Make a long story short I finally got in his face and slapped him and dared him to take me. It was the only time he was ever forceful during sex and we split very soon after. I pretty much freaked him out.

The only time I was ever freaked out by a woman in bed was the by the woman I almost dated very shortly after my engagement went down in flames. She was a singer, had an anxiety disorder, and asked me to hit her in the face about ten minutes into some vigorous fucking.

I come from a home that was both traditional and the setting of a physically abusive marriage. I just can't hit women in the face.

Her psychiatrist apparently advised her to not date me based on that.