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PegMeKatePlease
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So the 'intellectual man' has come up with a way to be degraded and abused. Just not physically.
Another way of saying beta male.
Let's be honest here. At least a good old fashioned Type A of the old school would take his paddling/spanking/hawsing from a dominatrix as it was intended. He'd relish his stripes and move on.
Here, I just don't know.
If my partner wanted another man for the thrill of it, well it would be a threesome and at some point I'd negotiate the same benefit. Egalitarianism and all that.
On the other hand, like Conrad and Roberts and a bunch of others - I ain't no intellectual. So o' course I dinna ge' it.
Another way of saying beta male.
Let's be honest here. At least a good old fashioned Type A of the old school would take his paddling/spanking/hawsing from a dominatrix as it was intended. He'd relish his stripes and move on.
Here, I just don't know.
If my partner wanted another man for the thrill of it, well it would be a threesome and at some point I'd negotiate the same benefit. Egalitarianism and all that.
On the other hand, like Conrad and Roberts and a bunch of others - I ain't no intellectual. So o' course I dinna ge' it.
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I have been a cuckold, and it still is a powerful memory, but I would never call it intellectually demanding.
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You're putting a slant on this that is not in the original article. By heading the thread up with the words "the province of the intellectual man" you seem to be implying that being a cuckold marks you out as being intelligent and that cuckoldry is something that only an intelligent man could enjoy. I may be reading more into your words than was ever intended but, if that is what you were trying to suggest, that is not what the article is saying and nowhere does the article use the term "intellectual man". It simply argues that cuckoldry is a form of masochism in which the impact is to the mind (ie the intellect), not the body.
Many cuckolds may derive masochistic pleasure from the situation - nothing wrong with that - and it may even be that the wife and other man derive sadistic intellectual pleasure from it too. But I am sure that some would (and no doubt will) argue that S&M isn't a factor for them.
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The association between cuckolding or being cuckolded (and I love both) and intelligence or intellectualism is weak.
High IQ types like to experiment and need to try new things because they get bored easily. Cuckoldery fits this bill
High IQ types like to experiment and need to try new things because they get bored easily. Cuckoldery fits this bill
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I've only been into this cuck, share type of fetish since the spring. I find there are so many levels to each fetish. I'm very interested in finding out more at the psychology level of this.
You could have ten cuckolds and all look at this fetish differently, all want different things from it. I'm still trying to figure out where exactly I fit into this. I'm sort of half cuck, half share. It's early and I still haven't had a coffee so I'm not going to into it right now. The intellectual angle of the article, not sure about that.
You could have ten cuckolds and all look at this fetish differently, all want different things from it. I'm still trying to figure out where exactly I fit into this. I'm sort of half cuck, half share. It's early and I still haven't had a coffee so I'm not going to into it right now. The intellectual angle of the article, not sure about that.
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It is such a complex and unique thing like so many human urges and practices that I don't think it can be boiled down to any correlation with being intellectual.
Whether or not anyone should embrace a poly lifestyle is an entirely personal question and it probably isn't right for the vast majority of people. However, men are conditioned to believe that cuckoldry is inherently and immutably wrong and no other conclusion is acceptable. The result is a hard-wired inclination towards jealousy and enormous pressure (in the form of shame) to comply by never allowing a cuckoldry circumstance to exist (he must leave or restrain her).
The rare few who resist this pressure and conditioning therefore need some notable impetus to do so. That may well be the intensity of his urges or the nature of his circumstance or any number of other reasons. But in all cases the ability to see that certain baseline assumptions are flawed is an aid in understanding and coming to grips with his feelings.
Married women are attracted to other men, don't have to be in love to enjoy sex and can appreciate sexual variety as much as a man. Likewise we are able to enjoy casual sexual relationships without automatically falling in love. The vast majority of us chose monogamy for solid reasons and we stick to it. Why isn't that enough? Why must you also believe that we are incapable of contemplating the alternative regardless of the adequacy of our husbands?
An intellectual man may be more inclined to consider that some of his contrary assumptions about female sexuality are flawed. Will that lead him to cuckoldry? No of course not. But for the tiny fraction for whom it has appeal a bit of intellectual thought will remove the barrier of those flawed assumptions.
I think there was also the suggestion that an intellectual man may be more able to appreciate the psychological stimulus. I am not convinced that such a man has greater capacity to experience that side of it. But again maybe the ability to see past his own flawed assumptions make his mind more open.
Frankly I believe that any man regardless of his relationships will do well to see female sexuality for what it is. Stop pretending she lacks the sexual depth to have lustful attraction and accept her as that much more appealing because she has chosen to share it only with you. Don't insult her or take her for granted by behaving as though you are so fucking amazing she could never want another. I don't diminish communication by constantly needing her to feed your delusions. Sexually speaking you should be happy to be her #1 of all time......don't make her lie and tell you that there never was or could be a #2.
Whether or not anyone should embrace a poly lifestyle is an entirely personal question and it probably isn't right for the vast majority of people. However, men are conditioned to believe that cuckoldry is inherently and immutably wrong and no other conclusion is acceptable. The result is a hard-wired inclination towards jealousy and enormous pressure (in the form of shame) to comply by never allowing a cuckoldry circumstance to exist (he must leave or restrain her).
The rare few who resist this pressure and conditioning therefore need some notable impetus to do so. That may well be the intensity of his urges or the nature of his circumstance or any number of other reasons. But in all cases the ability to see that certain baseline assumptions are flawed is an aid in understanding and coming to grips with his feelings.
Married women are attracted to other men, don't have to be in love to enjoy sex and can appreciate sexual variety as much as a man. Likewise we are able to enjoy casual sexual relationships without automatically falling in love. The vast majority of us chose monogamy for solid reasons and we stick to it. Why isn't that enough? Why must you also believe that we are incapable of contemplating the alternative regardless of the adequacy of our husbands?
An intellectual man may be more inclined to consider that some of his contrary assumptions about female sexuality are flawed. Will that lead him to cuckoldry? No of course not. But for the tiny fraction for whom it has appeal a bit of intellectual thought will remove the barrier of those flawed assumptions.
I think there was also the suggestion that an intellectual man may be more able to appreciate the psychological stimulus. I am not convinced that such a man has greater capacity to experience that side of it. But again maybe the ability to see past his own flawed assumptions make his mind more open.
Frankly I believe that any man regardless of his relationships will do well to see female sexuality for what it is. Stop pretending she lacks the sexual depth to have lustful attraction and accept her as that much more appealing because she has chosen to share it only with you. Don't insult her or take her for granted by behaving as though you are so fucking amazing she could never want another. I don't diminish communication by constantly needing her to feed your delusions. Sexually speaking you should be happy to be her #1 of all time......don't make her lie and tell you that there never was or could be a #2.
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In my observation most willing cuckolds are sexually adventurous men bored with traditional views of sexuality. Few that I have met fit the stereotype of a beaten down weakling or sexually inadequate male.
They seem to be disproportionately white collar. I don't know why that is but based on anecdotal observation I speculate that it is because those men are more likely to exist in a liberal environment where narrow and rigid interpretations of sexuality are less prevalent or at least not so obvious......and presumably they share those more liberal leanings.
Not to be trite but being a willing cuckold is roughly analogous to being a gay man 50 years ago. The one who "comes out" will all other things being equal be the one who exists in the most accepting environment - and that ain't a blue collar, traditional values, anti-intellectual shop room floor. That doesn't mean there are fewer gay or potentially cuckold men in that environment only that they are less willing to admit it because of a heightened prospect of non-acceptance.
Perhaps it isn't that intellectuals are more likely to be cuckold.....but they are the first to accept the possibility.
They seem to be disproportionately white collar. I don't know why that is but based on anecdotal observation I speculate that it is because those men are more likely to exist in a liberal environment where narrow and rigid interpretations of sexuality are less prevalent or at least not so obvious......and presumably they share those more liberal leanings.
Not to be trite but being a willing cuckold is roughly analogous to being a gay man 50 years ago. The one who "comes out" will all other things being equal be the one who exists in the most accepting environment - and that ain't a blue collar, traditional values, anti-intellectual shop room floor. That doesn't mean there are fewer gay or potentially cuckold men in that environment only that they are less willing to admit it because of a heightened prospect of non-acceptance.
Perhaps it isn't that intellectuals are more likely to be cuckold.....but they are the first to accept the possibility.
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