Cheated-on husbands and boyfriends

[Kolejdayz]

Years ago my wife accused me of cheating because an ex and I had texted and DM’d, on my part there was zero emotional connection and because we lived in different time zones there was definitely no physical connection, just chatting.
My wife couldn’t get over it, we went to counseling and I eventually got to the point where I told the counselor that maybe she should “get even with me” by cheating or sleeping with someone else. It got to the point that I literally didn’t care! Make it make sense”even” then let’s move on together.
That was the first time I knew I could handle her fucking someone else and I would be okay with it.
I know it sounds fucked up but that’s the truth

Did she do it?

 

[Cardinal]

Did she do it?

No she didn’t but the counselor said that me wanting her to “even the score” so to speak is a common feeling for men who have been caught cheating, even though I didn’t cheat

 

[Beachsyrf]

No she didn’t but the counselor said that me wanting her to “even the score” so to speak is a common feeling for men who have been caught cheating, even though I didn’t cheat

Sounds like the incessant nagging and (FALSE) accusations, not to mention being dragged through "counseling" sessions, would be enough to kill any romance that remained ... much easier to go your own ways. I did after my wife cheated on me with our neighbor.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife and I started dating in high school. We went to different colleges, and I only saw her once or twice a month so she was free to date others. After we married, she confessed that she had been a real slut before we became engaged, having regular sex with other guys in college. I would have been devastated if I had known about it at the time, but when she told me, I was turned on and loved to hear her stories as we fucked. In our 30's, I gave her permission to have sex with others, and she did a few times. It was with my permission, and she told me all about it. She could only have sex with each man one time, and she obeyed that restriction. She stopped all "outside activity" when she turned 40.

 

[Nellie60]

My wife and I started dating in high school. We went to different colleges, and I only saw her once or twice a month so she was free to date others. After we married, she confessed that she had been a real slut before we became engaged, having regular sex with other guys in college. I would have been devastated if I had known about it at the time, but when she told me, I was turned on and loved to hear her stories as we fucked. In our 30's, I gave her permission to have sex with others, and she did a few times. It was with my permission, and she told me all about it. She could only have sex with each man one time, and she obeyed that restriction. She stopped all "outside activity" when she turned 40.

Well organised and stress free understanding!

 

[gtnlynn]

Well organised and stress free understanding!

It worked for us.

 

[Silvergrizzly31]

My wife and I started dating in high school. We went to different colleges, and I only saw her once or twice a month so she was free to date others. After we married, she confessed that she had been a real slut before we became engaged, having regular sex with other guys in college. I would have been devastated if I had known about it at the time, but when she told me, I was turned on and loved to hear her stories as we fucked. In our 30's, I gave her permission to have sex with others, and she did a few times. It was with my permission, and she told me all about it. She could only have sex with each man one time, and she obeyed that restriction. She stopped all "outside activity" when she turned

I love hearing how couples turn something potentially relationship breaking and make it a strength. I am curious with the "sex one time" part. Was it one orgasm or one "time" meaning if he isn't a one and done, multiple times with wifey? What do you think shifted in you about the timing of hearing her activities?

 

[gtnlynn]

I love hearing how couples turn something potentially relationship breaking and make it a strength. I am curious with the "sex one time" part. Was it one orgasm or one "time" meaning if he isn't a one and done, multiple times with wifey? What do you think shifted in you about the timing of hearing her activities?

"One time" meant one date. Multiple sex acts on that date were fine. I was terribly jealous when she was dating others in college. I found hickeys on her tits and other signs she was having sex, but she promised me she was not. I'm glad I didn't know for sure. Once she was mine, I was no longer jealous. I was not afraid of losing her. She convinced me that her sex in college was just a physical thing and if her partner wanted a romantic relationship, she dumped him. I talked to a couple of them, and they confirmed her story.

 

[Nellie60]

"One time" meant one date. Multiple sex acts on that date were fine. I was terribly jealous when she was dating others in college. I found hickeys on her tits and other signs she was having sex, but she promised me she was not. I'm glad I didn't know for sure. Once she was mine, I was no longer jealous. I was not afraid of losing her. She convinced me that her sex in college was just a physical thing and if her partner wanted a romantic relationship, she dumped him. I talked to a couple of them, and they confirmed her story.

As I guy I am quite happy to just make out with her without sex if she didn't want at that moment. I honestly would be just as happy with some hand action. I enjoy the intimacy of it all even if it doesn't led to a full romantic relationship. If she wants sex, OK let's do it

 

[gtnlynn]

As I guy I am quite happy to just make out with her without sex if she didn't want at that moment. I honestly would be just as happy with some hand action. I enjoy the intimacy of it all even if it doesn't led to a full romantic relationship. If she wants sex, OK let's do it

I think she had a few of those situations. I know she was fingered in bars a couple of times, and I think she gave at least one hand job to a guy.

 

[Nellie60]

I'm a mature married man who found out years ago that his loving wife had cheated regularly while traveling on business. At least three coworkers of hers, one was a tall, good-looking single stud, ex college football player with a huge cock and (apparently) incredible sexual skills who she saw 3-5 times a year for 10 years before I found out. l was shocked, hurt, very angry at first, but we stayed together and over time her cheating became an intense turn-on for me. Love to connect with other cheated-on husbands and boyfriends who have experienced this and anyone else who's turned on by wives and girlfriends who are bold enough to go out and get what they want or need sexually and enjoys chatting about female infidelity and cuckoldry.

I had suspicion of an ex girlfriend when we were together many years ago.

She worked for a law firm and usually dressed in short skirts and uniform style. She been to many conferences with her boss and co workers.

My suspicion arises from her telling about being hit on by every guy including her boss, so I wonder what really happens when she is away on those trips.

I imagine and fantasied about her giving hand action to some of them in order to keep them away. Its a real turn on those thoughts.

 

[liqueur]

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Do not post identifiable photos of other people here!

It's illegal as well as just plain bad ethics

 

[live4thebj]

If you agree to an open relationship it isn’t cheating. I found I don’t like it.

I did go on a date with a mom that told me after her divorce she was engaged 3x’s and cheated on all 3 fiancés. Why would I bother getting into a relationship with her? Better yet why doesn’t she just have an open relationship?

 

[lifeis2short2b]

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Dude ! Have some respect for her. At least black out her face . SMH

 

[RTFLDGR]

My first wife and I dated from the time she was in high school and I in college. She was a looker. She went away to college and stayed with me on weekends. The whole time we were dating I was the good guy and she was banging guys on the side. I was clueless and on my purpose.

 

[lc69hunter]

I'm a mature married man who found out years ago that his loving wife had cheated regularly while traveling on business. At least three coworkers of hers, one was a tall, good-looking single stud, ex college football player with a huge cock and (apparently) incredible sexual skills who she saw 3-5 times a year for 10 years before I found out. l was shocked, hurt, very angry at first, but we stayed together and over time her cheating became an intense turn-on for me. Love to connect with other cheated-on husbands and boyfriends who have experienced this and anyone else who's turned on by wives and girlfriends who are bold enough to go out and get what they want or need sexually and enjoys chatting about female infidelity and cuckoldry.

Let's be honest. A random one-off a thousand miles from home, away from friends and family, is not threat to a strong marriage. In fact, if it turns up the libido and recharges the sexual energy, and you bring that sexual energy home to the marital bed it is actually a good thing. That is why, after the first time, and the lengthy discussion about it, we both gave each other a hall pass when on the road

 

[naughySoul]

In fact, if it turns up the libido and recharges the sexual energy, and you bring that sexual energy home to the marital bed it is actually a good thing.

Isn't part of that due to the adventure and 'forbidden' nature that causes it? If you have a hall pass, I expect it would have a lesser impact on sexual energy.

 

[Nellie60]

If you agree to an open relationship it isn’t cheating. I found I don’t like it.

I did go on a date with a mom that told me after her divorce she was engaged 3x’s and cheated on all 3 fiancés. Why would I bother getting into a relationship with her? Better yet why doesn’t she just have an open relationship?

If you got into an open relationship with someone like her, you might as well be in a fwb, unless you just like to hear about her frequent escapades.

She will potentially be out with guys every day and us guys will find it a struggle to even meet someone else willing to accept you being in that type of relationship.

 

[SmallHubby7897]

In my case finding out that my wife cheated on me with a man for almost two years without me knowing, and me being excited and not bothered when I found out was like a switch being flipped on me.

But I'm sure the things like having ex-girlfriends complained about my performance in bed several times during our relationships, then afterwards some had cheating/broken up with me to be with other men, and the fact that I became curious after getting married about the hotwife and bull lifestyle certainly contributed to my acceptance.

Since I talked to her after finding out that she cheated on me she has been a hotwife for almost 7 years.
I love knowing or seeing her getting fucked in ways I never could.

 

[Kolejdayz]

I'm a mature married man who found out years ago that his loving wife had cheated regularly while traveling on business. At least three coworkers of hers, one was a tall, good-looking single stud, ex college football player with a huge cock and (apparently) incredible sexual skills who she saw 3-5 times a year for 10 years before I found out. l was shocked, hurt, very angry at first, but we stayed together and over time her cheating became an intense turn-on for me. Love to connect with other cheated-on husbands and boyfriends who have experienced this and anyone else who's turned on by wives and girlfriends who are bold enough to go out and get what they want or need sexually and enjoys chatting about female infidelity and cuckoldry.

I had a similar experience with my first wife who was very attractive (she looked like a young Ava Gardner and was 5' 8" and about 115 lbs with long dark hair) and was always being hit on -- even at our wedding party. She told me when we first met that she had been with five guys before me, but that number grew until, after careful consideration, she said that the number must have closer to 70.

Later she took a job that involved a lot of trips to conferences and conventions and eventually confessed that she fucked some guys on those trips, some complete strangers. She always went after the older professorial types and I would say that she quickly let them get into her panties, except she hardly ever wore panties

 

[Matt3427]

I had a similar experience with my first wife who was very attractive (she looked like a young Ava Gardner and was 5' 8" and about 115 lbs with long dark hair) and was always being hit on -- even at our wedding party. She told me when we first met that she had been with five guys before me, but that number grew until, after careful consideration, she said that the number must have closer to 70.

Later she took a job that involved a lot of trips to conferences and conventions and eventually confessed that she fucked some guys on those trips, some complete strangers. She always went after the older professorial types and I would say that she quickly let them get into her panties, except she hardly ever wore panties

Our experience happened when I was overseas with work but it was her at home that was having fun. I found out 2 years later that she had slept with 5 different guys while I had been away. I got over the shock and it turned out to be such a turn on.

 

[Kolejdayz]

Our experience happened when I was overseas with work but it was her at home that was having fun. I found out 2 years later that she had slept with 5 different guys while I had been away. I got over the shock and it turned out to be such a turn on.

Some girls can't help themselves and their men need to enjoy them being who they are. What does she look like

 

[Matt3427]

Some girls can't help themselves and their men need to enjoy them being who they are. What does she look like

Yes, totally agree. It's difficult to explain this to people who haven't lived it. She's lovely, reddish blonde hair, athletic build, but of extra weight these days after the kids but still very sexy and still having fun.

 

[Kolejdayz]

I have a thing about skinny women they stay tight longer, although my current wife tells me that big cocks still hurt her

 

[screwher]

Some girls can't help themselves and their men need to enjoy them being who they are.

This has definitely been my experience with my wife. No matter how amazing our sex life is, she needs that variety. Fortunately, for us it just kind of worked out that we both desired her to have sex with other men.