What is the problem with a character cheating in a story?

[hfernandez1983]

Hi,

I am a new author to the site. I am currently working on a couple of stories right now and one or two of them include a cheating partner.

Now when I read the comments a lot of the reader leave behind on a story all of them don't want to see a partner who cheats. I mean, what is the problem. Maybe the cheating partner is just a way for the central character to finally move on and find someone better. Or maybe the central character can use the partners cheating as a means to get revenge.

I want to know do other authors get the same kind of response? What are your thoughts?

 

[Setanta84]

In general, never let others dictate what you write. Artistic expression is called that for a reason. It's something coming from you and should be true to and of you. Censoring that is basically the beginning of living in fear and is the antithesis of art.

Also, the internet in general is where maladjusted internet tough guys hang out to vent frustrations and anger they are too afraid to engage in real life. Unfortunately, sites that traffic in free sex-related content tend to attract a particular strain of that, i.e. especially sexually frustrated and socially inept trolls. In general, there is no pleasing this type of person, you shouldn't try, and you shouldn't take their comments or 1-bombing seriously.

I write and not for here, for the most part. However, I have published stuff here--mainly prose renderings of SRPs with other users. And I got some pretty vile comments for weird reasons--one guy posted a comment that had slurs and sexual insults that would make a mafia don blush because I didn't make the fact the story was written as the introductory chapter of a series clear in the title.

Stuff like that happens, just delete and don't give it too much thought.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Now when I read the comments a lot of the reader leave behind on a story all of them don't want to see a partner who cheats. I mean, what is the problem. Maybe the cheating partner is just a way for the central character to finally move on and find someone better. Or maybe the central character can use the partners cheating as a means to get revenge.

I want to know do other authors get the same kind of response? What are your thoughts?

If you read the comments on stories in the Loving Wives section you'll see that cheating wives (not so much husbands) are pretty much guaranteed to get you angry comments. I get the impression there's a small number of obsessive readers who can't distinguish between reality and fantasy.

 

[Handley_Page]

You write what YOU want.
Not what someone else thinks is better.

 

[SusanJillParker]

Hi,

I am a new author to the site. I am currently working on a couple of stories right now and one or two of them include a cheating partner.

Now when I read the comments a lot of the reader leave behind on a story all of them don't want to see a partner who cheats. I mean, what is the problem. Maybe the cheating partner is just a way for the central character to finally move on and find someone better. Or maybe the central character can use the partners cheating as a means to get revenge.

I want to know do other authors get the same kind of response? What are your thoughts?

First of all, this isn't the Harvard Review. It's a porn board and you either write erotica of pornography. You have the liberty to write more for yourself than for your audience.

The only ones you must be true to are your characters. Once you develop your characters, once you make them three dimensional, and once they move off your page to stand behind your chair and whisper in your ear what to write, you'll know what you must write.

Good luck.

 

[hfernandez1983]

Thank you all for responding.

I agree that the readers should not dictate what we write. I get better reviews from women who would rather read what happens next than men who would want to see a woman cheat. Guess those men are just trying to fight some complex inside them that makes them want to see a faithful woman than one who would go behind their backs and commit the act.

 

[lovecraft68]

It makes the 'real men' upset when a wife cheats in a story because they transfer themselves into the story and they know they are too much man for women to ever cheat on them

That and many have been cheated on and they live to spew their frustration on those stories.

The fragile male ego.

Men period.

 

[GoldenCojones]

Hi,

I am a new author to the site. I am currently working on a couple of stories right now and one or two of them include a cheating partner.

Now when I read the comments a lot of the reader leave behind on a story all of them don't want to see a partner who cheats. I mean, what is the problem. Maybe the cheating partner is just a way for the central character to finally move on and find someone better. Or maybe the central character can use the partners cheating as a means to get revenge.

I want to know do other authors get the same kind of response? What are your thoughts?

Everyone who posts in LW gets them. I've even seen comments like that on stories that didn't have a cheating spouse in them. Not mine, almost all of my have a cheating spouse My guess is some of the trolls don't even bother to read the story before commenting.

Don't worry about the trolls. Laugh at them, but don't worry about them.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

It makes the 'real men' upset when a wife cheats in a story because they transfer themselves into the story and they know they are too much man for women to ever cheat on them

That and many have been cheated on and they live to spew their frustration on those stories.

The fragile male ego.

Men period.

Too funny.

I invented Real Man. I went to war. I fought fires. I tied up a huge boy with a knife while the SWAT boys watched from a safe distance. I've been in 100s of brawls. I stopped 2 black riots by myself. Women fuck around. They all do it. Some are better at hiding it and better at the clean-up.

 

[Weird Harold]

Now when I read the comments a lot of the reader leave behind on a story all of them don't want to see a partner who cheats.

To confuse matters even more...

If you post a story to "Loving Wives" where there is no cheating, you get one-bombed and derided in comments by the other faction of LW Trolls because there is no cheating. You really can't win in that category.

A lot of the negative comments and votes are just Trolls who don't bother to read the story and just Troll anything in the category they disagree with -- Non-consent/Reluctant gets a lot of that kind of Troll as does "Loving Wives."

 

[Tasha7]

Hi,

I am a new author to the site. I am currently working on a couple of stories right now and one or two of them include a cheating partner.

Now when I read the comments a lot of the reader leave behind on a story all of them don't want to see a partner who cheats. I mean, what is the problem. Maybe the cheating partner is just a way for the central character to finally move on and find someone better. Or maybe the central character can use the partners cheating as a means to get revenge.

I want to know do other authors get the same kind of response? What are your thoughts?

Most of my stories include cheating partners. It makes for good drama and the main character either sees error in their ways. I just think it makes for good storylines

 

[HandsInTheDark]

Men like to cheat. Women resent it.

Yes, that's wildly oversimplified. But when I have guys sleep with more than one woman, it's the women readers who complain, if anyone does. (And my characters aren't even married.)

Lit's a fantasy site. Women adore the fantasy that they're so desirable that a man would never need anyone else. Men adore the fantasy that they're so study they'll get women lining up for it. No matter what you write, someone's unhappy.

Welcome to Literotica. This place is a crash course on psychology if anything is, and I don't just mean the author population.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Men like to cheat. Women resent it.

Yes, that's wildly oversimplified. But when I have guys sleep with more than one woman, it's the women readers who complain, if anyone does. (And my characters aren't even married.)

Lit's a fantasy site. Women adore the fantasy that they're so desirable that a man would never need anyone else. Men adore the fantasy that they're so study they'll get women lining up for it. No matter what you write, someone's unhappy.

Welcome to Literotica. This place is a crash course on psychology if anything is, and I don't just mean the author population.

The girls are notorious bull shitters or all the guys are fags.

 

[Nathan_Brazil]

That guy in Colorado Springs

You know... The one with the AK-47 and the bad hair.

He is the personification of the Loving Wives troll.

He's unhappy.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Most of my stories include cheating partners. It makes for good drama and the main character either sees error in their ways. I just think it makes for good storylines

yeah, but you hide in N&N.

 

[loquere]

Hi,

I am a new author to the site. I am currently working on a couple of stories right now and one or two of them include a cheating partner.

Now when I read the comments a lot of the reader leave behind on a story all of them don't want to see a partner who cheats. I mean, what is the problem. Maybe the cheating partner is just a way for the central character to finally move on and find someone better. Or maybe the central character can use the partners cheating as a means to get revenge.

I want to know do other authors get the same kind of response? What are your thoughts?

The readers are putting their personal experiences into their comments. You will get a lot of backlash for a cheating woman, I don’t know about a cheating man.

 

[Hypoxia]

Stories containing infidelity can fit in most categories; you need not run the LW gauntlet. I have cheating partners in Incest, EC, F&SF, Group, NonCon (that one was supposed to be in LW), and Mature. Any BtB probably belongs in LW or maybe NonCon though. I've not written GM, Lesbian, BDSM, or IR, but cheating can fit those too IMHO.

 

[HandsInTheDark]

Stories containing infidelity can fit in most categories; you need not run the LW gauntlet. I have cheating partners in Incest, EC, F&SF, Group, NonCon (that one was supposed to be in LW), and Mature. Any BtB probably belongs in LW or maybe NonCon though. I've not written GM, Lesbian, BDSM, or IR, but cheating can fit those too IMHO.

Ugh. Thus just makes me wish categories were a Choose Many not a Choose One. If there are three kinds of stories people might not want to stumble into by accident, they'd be noncon, incest and infidelity. The first two are well marked but not the last one.

Wouldn't it be great if I could specify reluctance, under 30, no infidelity, no incest and rated over 4.5 and get a list. Clearly that system means more data entry for authors but it's not like submission is drag and drop anyway. I'd put in more details if it helped the audience find things.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Wont be long before Laurel embraces Safe Places and the immediate disposal of anything offensive to anyone. You know its coming to LIT.

 

[HandsInTheDark]

Wont be long before Laurel embraces Safe Places and the immediate disposal of anything offensive to anyone. You know its coming to LIT.

I can't actually claim to know Laurel enough to comment, but looking around the site I don't believe it. The GB makes my skin crawl and looking at the stories themselves, she's way more tolerant of way more offensive crap that I'd ever put up with. Consider that she's presumably skimmed every story here. How much crap have you closed after one paragraph, either because of the writing itself or the content? She doesn't get to move on. Give the woman a damn medal for putting up with as much trash as she does.

Besides, it's not like the mods close many of your threads. You've got the non-specific obnoxiousness thing down to a science. It's other people who get stupid and target specific posters too directly and earn a lock on threads.

 

[TamLin01]

For the record, at a quick count I have 20 stories about infidelity (of one stripe and degree or another) and zero negative comments about it.

Then again, I also don't have that many readers in the first place, so possibly this is not the most representative sampling.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

For the record, at a quick count I have 20 stories about infidelity (of one stripe and degree or another) and zero negative comments about it.

Then again, I also don't have that many readers in the first place, so possibly this is not the most representative sampling.

drop one in Loving Wives.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I can't actually claim to know Laurel enough to comment, but looking around the site I don't believe it. The GB makes my skin crawl and looking at the stories themselves, she's way more tolerant of way more offensive crap that I'd ever put up with. Consider that she's presumably skimmed every story here. How much crap have you closed after one paragraph, either because of the writing itself or the content? She doesn't get to move on. Give the woman a damn medal for putting up with as much trash as she does.

Besides, it's not like the mods close many of your threads. You've got the non-specific obnoxiousness thing down to a science. It's other people who get stupid and target specific posters too directly and earn a lock on threads.

I have so few talents I feel sad when folks begrudge me a lil obnoxiousness. The word you want is PARTICULAR, SPECIFIC refers to groups of similar people. If I targeted Muslims or Frogs I'd be specific.

I rarely last a paragraph with most LIT stories. Their high scores are like teddy bears so they wont cry.

 

[TxRad]

I rarely last a paragraph with most LIT stories. Their high scores are like teddy bears so they wont cry.

Have you ever considered that it might be the reader and not the writer.

You've only been writing for a couple of years and all of your early stories are gone so no one can compare what you write to what you say about others stories.

Give it a rest. You're negative and most people are positive. No wonder sparks fly.

 

[Hypoxia]

If there are three kinds of stories people might not want to stumble into by accident, they'd be noncon, incest and infidelity. The first two are well marked but not the last one.

Reality: People in relationships fuck around. It's expected in some cultures. It's common in probably most or all cultures. LIT stories reflect the universe of human sexual behavior. Much of the drama in erotica reflects desires for variety and 'strange'. Readers wishing to avoid infidelity stories should probably stick to Disney flics and SUNSET magazine. LIT will not cater to their stunted tastes.

Anyone seeing content they don't like is free to hit the BACK button.