Pet and Little

[CollarsAreVarar]

I'm a Pet, but I have some Little tendencies. Is this at all common? Littles, Pets, how much do they overlap?
Owners and Mommies/Daddies can weigh in too.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Somnolence]

As the above said, do you really need the tick firmly in one or the other?

"Better for thee to say: "Ineffable is it, and nameless, that which is pain and sweetness to my soul, and also the hunger of my bowels.""

Quite frankly I doubt anyone perfectly fits into just one category, especially given the subjective nature of allot of them

 

[cascadiabound]

I have never fit neatly into a single category of anything, anywhere in my entire life.

That is certainly the case for any continuum of where I might fit in the kink world as well.
The categories of these things are rather arbitrary to my mind, and are only useful to the degree it helps you to communicate with your partner what it is that YOU want with Him/Her. I find that different elements of my sub-ishness seem to be at the fore at different times. It depends on how I am feeling and who I am interacting with. These are subtleties of relationships not just how you might define yourself.

I am definitely submissive in my relationship with my Dom. He is still evolving in how he wants to be a Dom - which means I am evolving in how I am his sub.
The degree to which the D/s aspect of our relationship permeates all aspects of our lives is currently fluid. Sometimes it feels like an almost 24/7 thing... other times it is more of an aspect of our intimacy with D/s casting a shadow over other parts of our lives - sometimes this shadow is more perceivable than other times.
I like the idea of pet play and I love to be petted and cuddled - but the formal aspects of pet play are not a part of our D/s. Does this mean I am not a pet? Does this mean I am a pet, but the part of me that is a pet is unfulfilled? Does it matter? I say this is an aspect that is evolving.
I like pain mixed with pleasure. But I hesitate to characterize myself as a pain slut. But the fact that when he spanks me I get unaccountable aroused ... well... it seems my body gives me away every time. And He says I am impossible to punish because I like everything he might do to me too much. So - the only punishment He will give me is the absence of Him. I would take 100's of lashings over this. And so - perhaps I am a pain slut.
And I find I am a bit of a "Little"
In fact - I wish my Dom were more comfortable being a Daddy Dom.
But - there are lots of aspects of classic "little" behaviors that I cannot abide and is no part of me. I have no interest in age play. I want to be comforted and held, but I do not want to be infantilized. I want to be His beautiful girl - but never on a pedestal. I have little interest in the girly girl things that seem to be typical of the "little" model. Does this mean I am not a "little"? No - it means that I am my own kind of "little" and I am working this out in real life.

No categories. Everything is a continuum. Don't worry about checking boxes.
Just be who you are - allow it to be a wonderful discovery of your sexuality and what makes things tick between you and your sexual partner. What works with your current PYL will likely not work with your next PYL.

Enjoy the ride. Just be YOU.

 

[Que]

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[box13]

This must be why I asked my little if she'd ever worn any fuzzy ears before.

 

[babslovesherdaddy]

And He says I am impossible to punish because I like everything he might do to me too much. So - the only punishment He will give me is the absence of Him. I would take 100's of lashings over this. And so - perhaps I am a pain slut.

I can SO relate to this.

 

[Belle_SS]

I'm a Pet, but I have some Little tendencies. Is this at all common? Littles, Pets, how much do they overlap?
Owners and Mommies/Daddies can weigh in too.

Hiya! Just wanted to join in the convo ^^
I am both a little and a pet. To me, I'm a hybrid of the two. When I am kitten-like, I also go into little space.

For some, they are two completely different spaces that people can go in at different times. For others, it may be an overlap. And then, there are people who don't define themselves as either.

It is completely normal (and really common) to have both pet and little tendencies (and so much more!). You have the right and the choice to label yourself (or not) as whatever you want to be.

So keep exploring and pet/little on! <3