I have just found out that my life is to be broadcast on the web....

[warrior queen]

My ex (father of two of my kids) has made a website and is planning to put details of our relationship on there.
Never mind that it will be all one-sided, and that he will paint his affair with rose....

I don't want my personal and private life out there!

Anyone faced this?
What did you do to stop it, or at least make it a more truthfull account?

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

Ignore it until it becomes worthy of civil proceedings.


:shrug:

 

[Debbie]

He could be saying he is going to do it to wind you up?



Have you contacted a lawyer for advice?

 

[warrior queen]

He has already put up some info.... most of it rants about how badly he feels my country treated him....
But he plans to put up much more detailed information (he has said this already)...

So far, from what I have seen, his rants are not entirely factual. He has missed several key pieces of information. Not sure what to do about that yet.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

So what's his following?

A million or so?

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[Debbie]

I wouldnt take much notice - it does sound like he is trying to get under your skin.

Plus I doubt he is going to get much internet attention and suddenly have an influx of readers.

 

[richard_daily]

I mean, you're crazy as fuck, so I'm sure he's got plenty of ammunition.

Will he be putting your racist rants up on the website?

Keeping my fingers crossed.

 

[warrior queen]

His site has a number of followers already and has only been going for 2 months.

 

[Debbie]

If it's bugging you that much then I would engage a lawyer and seek their advice but for free I can tell you the ones you love and care about know the truth about what sort of person you are and he is a probably being an ass on purpose.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

His site has a number of followers already and has only been going for 2 months.

Two is a number...



100,000 in this world, might be a significant number to worry about.

It will peter out as soon as they discover that he's just not that interesting. Hate never is.

 

[warrior queen]

So far, his rants have been about how he's been so hard done by Oz because he never amounted to much....
But he's threatened to put his entire life story up - including his time with me.

The worst thing? He sent his youngest son a link to the site, inviting him to join.
Our son is fanatically loyal to Australia and was deeply hurt when he read what's been written

 

[Debbie]

Just because someone types stuff on the web doesn't make it true and Im sure your son knows that.

 

[parodyluvr75]

I agree with Debbie, contact a lawyer and see what your options are.

 

[RobDownSouth]

Just because someone types stuff on the web doesn't make it true...

I suspect quite a few Lit conservatives here would disagree with you.

 

[oggbashan]

So far, his rants have been about how he's been so hard done by Oz because he never amounted to much....
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If that is true his site is likely to attract much more abuse than anything you could do.

Back in my day, wingeing Poms were seen as the lowest of the low, especially as they were vastly outnumbered by Poms who had found Australia a great place to live and prosper - if you worked hard and tried to adapt.

Australia was a destination for Pommy losers - people who had failed in the UK and didn't or wouldn't recognise that the main reason for their failure was their own attitude to hard work or commitment.

Australia was also a destination for many who wanted to make something more for themselves and their families, no matter what length of time and effort would be required. They didn't worry about the conditions in the transit camps, did what they could to make the best of what was available, and aimed to move out and onwards as soon as they could.

If you are an immigrant to a country, you have to work to be accepted. It might take decades and a generation or two to become truly assimilated but complaining about your new country is a good way to be seen as an asshole.

 

[Lancecastor]

What could your Ex possibly say that is more detailed and personal than the stuff you post here about yourself?

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

What could your Ex possibly say that is more detailed and personal than the stuff you post here about yourself?

Lance has found a new thread to tug at...



Which sleeve will fall off first?

 

[Penuche]

If that is true his site is likely to attract much more abuse than anything you could do.

Back in my day, wingeing Poms were seen as the lowest of the low, especially as they were vastly outnumbered by Poms who had found Australia a great place to live and prosper - if you worked hard and tried to adapt.
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If you are an immigrant to a country, you have to work to be accepted. It might take decades and a generation or two to become truly assimilated but complaining about your new country is a good way to be seen as an asshole.

Word. Warrior queen, sorry that your ex is behaving so badly. I hope that it will backfire on him - these things usually do.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Link?

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

tee hee

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

...You're kinda broadcasting it here...

 

[OjosMojo]

Funny that you've done nothing but bad mouth him here - ONLINE - since he's become your ex, and now you're, naturally, whining that he's doing the same about you.

No doubt why two losers as yourselves still make a perfect pair.

 

[stickygirl]

Sorry to hear WQ...sounds like a loser

It will peter out as soon as they discover that he's just not that interesting. Hate never is.

*coffee spew* fuck me - it's the only thing that keeps the GB going

 

[Colonel Hogan]

He has already put up some info.... most of it rants about how badly he feels my country treated him....
But he plans to put up much more detailed information (he has said this already)...

So far, from what I have seen, his rants are not entirely factual. He has missed several key pieces of information. Not sure what to do about that yet.

You don't HAVE any options. Do you have any idea as to the total volume of public commentary around the subject of what a "bitch/bastard my EX- was"? If any of this vitriol had transgressed into the realm of slander, do you not think that there would be countless examples of successful civil judgments?

Simply expressing his opinion about what a lousy wife and mother you were does not constitute unlawful conduct. Neither is it unlawful just because some of it may be based on lies or arguable "facts" as to what is or isn't true. Aggrieved domestic partners have been known to greatly exaggerate the alleged wrongs done to them. Courts need to see a lot more than just the standard pissing match between hot heads before they will interfere with someone's right to free speech or punish them for something they already said.

 

[thør]

You don't HAVE any LEGAL options.

FYP, YW.