What helps you manage your depression?

[LostBabygirl3489]

I say depression but I mean all mental illnesses. What helps you feel better?

I am not officially divorced yet so unfortunately, I don't have health insurance anymore because I can't afford it. I am going to see a therapist early next month at the community health center. My depression and anxiety have been really bad. I've been crying myself to sleep almost every night and I've been feeling nauseous and dizzy. I hate to say this but I am scared of it getting worse...I keep wondering if I'm going to make it by the end of the year.

I am trying to make new friends in this area, but that's very hard because I am more creative and artistic and people like me are hard to find here. I've been here all of my life and honestly, I don't fit in here. I really am looking forward to moving somewhere new. I think I will have a better chance of making friends then. I do have two friends in the area but they are almost always busy and I don't hold that against them. It just gets very lonely and I definitely think that a friend would help right now.

The things that do help me are exercise like walking, which I do almost everyday. Journaling, writing, listening to music and being outside also help. I am going to try to get back into playing the guitar, too.

I would love to hear about how other people cope with their mental illness. I've had it for ten years now and my therapists have said it is most likely a life long thing for me so I definitely want to learn how to manage it better.

 

[Recidiva]

I hope things get better for you.

Depression runs in my family, and I was prone to it for most of my life due to chronic illness - migraines. My brother killed himself. I've decided I won't, but it is a lifelong issue and a problem that you might think you've beat back and then it resurges. It might be situational, it might be chemical, it might be both.

I think when Robin Williams killed himself a great number of people finally realized that "depression" does not mean "sad." It is unpredictable and insidious and most people who are depressed are also good at 'passing' - looking normal.

What works for me is to try to be my own best friend, route positive messages through my internal monologue and find something to care about. I likely wouldn't live for myself. Maybe find a local charity that gets you out and reassures you that you have parts of yourself you could share to make the world better.

Meditation has also helped me a great deal, just being in the moment and focusing on one breath at a time.

If you would like someone to talk to, feel free to send me a PM.

 

[pink]

I wish I could help you. You mentioned taking walks, just get out of the house. This might sound silly but take up a hobby. Try to count your blessings. Keep a journal or a blog and just write. That does help. Ok, I just went back and read the bottom of your post and you already said all those things.

I don't know if you'll like it here but I find Lit to be very entertaining.


Best of luck to you.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I say depression but I mean all mental illnesses. What helps you feel better?

I am not officially divorced yet so unfortunately, I don't have health insurance anymore because I can't afford it. I am going to see a therapist early next month at the community health center. My depression and anxiety have been really bad. I've been crying myself to sleep almost every night and I've been feeling nauseous and dizzy. I hate to say this but I am scared of it getting worse...I keep wondering if I'm going to make it by the end of the year.

I am trying to make new friends in this area, but that's very hard because I am more creative and artistic and people like me are hard to find here. I've been here all of my life and honestly, I don't fit in here. I really am looking forward to moving somewhere new. I think I will have a better chance of making friends then. I do have two friends in the area but they are almost always busy and I don't hold that against them. It just gets very lonely and I definitely think that a friend would help right now.

The things that do help me are exercise like walking, which I do almost everyday. Journaling, writing, listening to music and being outside also help. I am going to try to get back into playing the guitar, too.

I would love to hear about how other people cope with their mental illness. I've had it for ten years now and my therapists have said it is most likely a life long thing for me so I definitely want to learn how to manage it better.

Friends are overrated.

 

[Fata Morgana]

Friends are overrated.

How the fuck would you know? Cunt.

 

[Beco]

How the fuck would you know? Cunt.

haha!

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

He started another trolling depression thread in the AH and never made a second post.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1231748

But I'm sure Fata can cure him.

 

[moocha01]

Drink, drugs, friends, family, work, pets, music, every day is different, every day I feel different, so it takes different things on different days but getting out of bed is always a good start. Living one day at a time without my heart or my brain falling apart.

 

[girlsmiley]

How the fuck would you know? Cunt.

I reckon!

 

[GuyJD]

Working out in the gym

 

[yossi]

Meditation, yoga, being kind to myself when I'm going through a rough time, journaling, talking to friends, getting outside in the sun, Vitamin D. Sex, can't believe I forgot this one. And masturbation.

 

[pointless]

murder.

 

[yossi]

https://33.media.tumblr.com/f5c827c70118aad7044e406f24bb3222/tumblr_nj0uldJNnv1r6guz4o1_500.gif

 

[pointless]

word.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Meditation, yoga, being kind to myself when I'm going through a rough time, journaling, talking to friends, getting outside in the sun, Vitamin D. Sex, can't believe I forgot this one. And masturbation.

The best things in the world. Plus books and laughing.

 

[pointless]

i just wanna know what vitamin d sex is. does it involve tanning and/or vitamin enriched milk products?

 

[yossi]

i just wanna know what vitamin d sex is. does it involve tanning and/or vitamin enriched milk products?

There was a period in between those two things!

 

[pointless]

yes, but it amuses me to pretend there wasn't. now i want there to be porn with tall, cool glasses of milk and girls tanning together.

for the lesbians.

make it happen. you have maybe three hours before i'll be bored enough to masturbate again, so be quick.

 

[lovetoread]

When I was really deep in my depression, I started running. It saved me, I think.

I did get a bit addicted and killed my knees, but aside from that running is my lifeline.

Reading is very good too. When I run in the gym I read my kindle so I think of it as a health combo.

 

[cleaver]

if indeed
you are canvassing these pages
for insights and shortcuts
in traversing through
your own personal issues...

you have already lost
and should
most certainly
know it by now.

if indeed you are phishing
for freely offered info
and personal dirt
from some of out most...
"giving" contributors
then...

nice tactics, bro!

 

[SweetCupcake]

I haven't really had to deal much with depression because my mother believed early on that many forms of it could be avoided by simple healthy living. We call her "Little Miss Sunshine" because she is always so happy and motivated to stay that way. Of course, we all have things in life like job loss, death, divorces, money problems, but an overall healthy lifestyle can help us through those difficult times as well. These are key things to keep me physically and mentally balanced: (Disclaimer: These things work for me and many people I know, but I am not a doctor. I would put these in the category of tried and true common sense approaches.)

1. Nutrition. We all know what eating better means now -- limit sugar, alcohol, crappy carbs. Eat more vegetables, hormone-free meat and poultry. And know what you are sensitive to. Lots of people are sensitive to wheat, dairy, nuts, etc. They can really do a number on your brain health if you are eating things you are sensitive or allergic to. Also, it is a good idea to take some supplements as someone else here mentioned. Vitamin D is good especially if you don't live in a sunny climate or get out much. Also, omega 3, calcium for some. These are quite specific to the person so you should do some research on this.

2. Pay attention your hormones. Not just older women, but men and women of all ages. Hormones affect ability to sleep well, have good sex (remember testosterone?) And hormones like cortisol can badly affect things like anxiety. Hormones can get seriously out of whack from diet, lack of exercise, sleep deprivation, etc. in addition to menopause and other health problems.

3. Get wonderful and restful sleep. Make it a priority (see comment about hormones affecting sleep). But make your bedroom dark, cool, comfortable which contribute toward quality sleep. We are chronically sleep deprived in America. Very rare that someone gets too much, so try adding more.

4. I am a believer in detoxing. Lots of crap in our world and we should do what we can to stop putting more crap out into the world and keep it out of our bodies. So, drink lots of good quality water and don't put more bad non-food into your body.

5. Exercise. I don't run marathons but I believe you need to breathe hard sometimes, but most of my exercise is lifting weights, yoga, etc. Strength type stuff that keeps your body shapely and strong. And those great exercise endorphins are not a myth. Your brain loves them. I am not a slave to exercise -- once you get in shape, 30 minutes of effective exercise every day or so will keep you in very good mental and physical condition.

6. Calm your mind through deep breathing, relaxing, meditation, listening to music, etc. This one is important and also doesn't take a lot of time.

And as to not having insurance -- this will probably get me boo-ed off the boards, but I think Obamacare works very well. Go to healthcare.gov and check it out. If you don't have money, you should get a subsidy to help.

And finally, you are doing many of the right things to help yourself and are focused on helping yourself which is very good and healthy. Keep the faith and you can get through it.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Knowing I'm not anyone here keeps me happy. I'd cut my throat if I were some of you.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Knowing I'm not anyone here keeps me happy. I'd cut my throat if I were some of you.

You're not here?

 

[doctor_insanus]

Guinness.

 

[doctor_insanus]

Margaritas.

Malibu and pineapple is good, too.


Don't take my advice. Listen to everyone except that Noir asshole.

Fuck him.