regrets about turning your woman into a slut??

[naughtoldperv]

Just wondering if I should listen to my 'little head' and continue trying to transform my [somewhat] normal, but hot wife into a cumslut? She kinda warned me to watch out what you wish for, as I might be opening a can of worms or unleashing a monster..........[monster uncontrollable cumslut]
I have learned after a decade with her not to push her into something she maybe wouldn't do on her own.
feedback appreciated..............

 

[davenjenn]

Just wondering if I should listen to my 'little head' and continue trying to transform my [somewhat] normal, but hot wife into a cumslut? She kinda warned me to watch out what you wish for, as I might be opening a can of worms or unleashing a monster..........[monster uncontrollable cumslut]
I have learned after a decade with her not to push her into something she maybe wouldn't do on her own.
feedback appreciated..............

As a cumslut myself, I wondered what are you doing to make her slutty?

 

[naughtoldperv]

As a cumslut myself, I wondered what are you doing to make her slutty?

Verbalizing and suggesting that I would love to watch her suck a stranger's cock in a gloryhole or anywhere for that matter and preferably a BBC, but any bigger cock than mine would do.

 

[Sheana_V]

Just wondering if I should listen to my 'little head' and continue trying to transform my [somewhat] normal, but hot wife into a cumslut? She kinda warned me to watch out what you wish for, as I might be opening a can of worms or unleashing a monster..........[monster uncontrollable cumslut]
I have learned after a decade with her not to push her into something she maybe wouldn't do on her own.
feedback appreciated..............

I would take the hint, or explore this with lots of open communication and well established boundaries. My instinct here is you're going to get burned if you play with fire here. I don't think others experiences are likely to mirror your own.

 

[DarkRefuge]

I would take the hint, or explore this with lots of open communication and well established boundaries. My instinct here is you're going to get burned if you play with fire here. I don't think others experiences are likely to mirror your own.

Maybe dabble a little into it first, get your feet a little wet and then sit down and talk?

 

[tishadomina]

Maybe dabble a little into it first, get your feet a little wet and then sit down and talk?

Seconding this advice.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I doubt she will become an uncontrollable monster. She is a woman, not a porn cartoon. And while she may "lose" control with some of her lovers the overall reality will more likely be the opposite - she'll compartmentalize those experiences at her discretion and assume total control of her sex. Frankly I think it is the only sensible option for a sexually active woman, but what do I know. Once that happens and she is opened up and experienced as a hot wife there will be nothing you can do to turn it off or at least anything you try to do may well be detrimental or fatal for your relationship.

Personally I think that women are the natural leaders when it comes to sex now that we live in an era where pregnancy is not a nearly automatic by-product of having sex. There are a whole bunch of societal pressures that have combined to keep them in check many of which women have internalized. Once she gets over those internal constraints which have been conditioned into her for her entire life there is no way to re-assert them.

Gone will be the days when she feels that she is "supposed" to be monogamous or even that your marriage contract is that she will be monogamous. Once you agree to eliminate that part of the contract so to speak you have no right to re-assert. Meanwhile whatever hesitation or apprehension she has will disappear after her first one or two lovers.

Regardless of your fantasies it is and always has been her sex and she will do with it as she pleases. You will no more have any input into her sex life than you do into where she has coffee with her friends.

This may not be the case for you but I think that a lot of men imagine their wives becoming a dirty slut in a very compartmentalized way but under the man's influence and for his pleasure. But as I say the reality is that she will become empowered. She will be much better at compartmentalizing than you will and at most you will maintain the right to solicit her attentions.

Don't think so much of the dirty wife coming home to you dishevelled after her lover fucks her. Think of the put together wife who won't be the slightest bit worse for wear and will come home whenever she damn well pleases.

You can't expect her to open up to the unknown and agree with clarity what will happen in advance.....

 

[screwher]

my wife

Depends on your definition of a "slut". I certainly wouldn't want a different guy in my bed every night. But I'd love for my wife to take a lover where once a week he comes by and spends the night pleasuring her. Then maybe the odd one night stand. That would be hot!

 

[Debbie920]

lmfao you are trying to turn your wife into a cumslut!!! you cant turn women into what you want them to be they either are already but dont practice it or they vanila and if so wont probably go full force into the opposite end of the rainbow.
she says watch what u wish for which could either be her way of saying dont go there because she knows what its like and therefore made her mind up to leave that life behind or she just knows it cause trouble...

why cant u just let her be who she wants to be.

 

[mikendel]

The joy of watching my wife is she loves being a slut. I don't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do. She loves sex and can flip a switch to turn it off and on. When its flipped on she is sexy cum loving slut. There are times it is off for months.

 

[bunny4med]

being a cum slut myself. you can not turn someone into one. it is something that develops in a person over time. if you 2 are monogamous, then by all means explore, role play, experiment. that is how I became a cum slut.

 

[bibethhotwet]

As always, communication is key and it sounds like she is thinking about it to a degree. While we enjoy a multi partner sex life it isnt for everyone. In our case communication from the start has been important. Nothing wrong with limiting your desires to fantasy chat and making her your own cum slut if she is willing. But as always, when you cross the line in reality, you cannot go back. In the swinging world we have seen both the positive and negative aspects. Usually it goes negative when there is little communication or one partner is demanding to have their way.

Personally I would classify myself as both a cum and pussy slut. He is ok with it and so am I

 

[Justfantasies]

I have had open relationships with women the whole of my adult life and I have never regretted them. I love to hear about my wife/girlfriend's adventures, especially while we are fucking and I usually make her go into a lot of details.

Most of the time though, it seems that the woman is already slutty. I don't really make that happen. It's just that they are very easily sexually aroused and not shy at all about taking a nice big cock in their pussy. I have never heard any such woman regret being a slut either.

I do think though that sometimes sluts have "dry periods" when they aren't active. But it isn't that difficult to get them back on the path.

 

[Rob1973]

As always, communication is key and it sounds like she is thinking about it to a degree. While we enjoy a multi partner sex life it isnt for everyone. In our case communication from the start has been important. Nothing wrong with limiting your desires to fantasy chat and making her your own cum slut if she is willing. But as always, when you cross the line in reality, you cannot go back. In the swinging world we have seen both the positive and negative aspects. Usually it goes negative when there is little communication or one partner is demanding to have their way.

Personally I would classify myself as both a cum and pussy slut. He is ok with it and so am I

Looking at your profile pic, I would be ok with it as well ;-)

 

[MyRubiLips]

I may not be the best to answer this because I am a slut of my own free will, but it seems there certainly are men who can't handle it. My EX husband and I met in a fetishy chat room on AOL many moons ago. He said he was into all the same things as I and "loved" the slut-wife porn, old Yahoo Egroups, etc. Turns out I couldn't have married a bigger fucking prude had I tried.

 

[Justfantasies]

I may not be the best to answer this because I am a slut of my own free will, but it seems there certainly are men who can't handle it. My EX husband and I met in a fetishy chat room on AOL many moons ago. He said he was into all the same things as I and "loved" the slut-wife porn, old Yahoo Egroups, etc. Turns out I couldn't have married a bigger fucking prude had I tried.

Some guys say anything to get a girl, including that they are OK with the woman being slutty. But often they aren't OK with it at all. My last slutty GF, practically interrogated me about whether I would accept her being with other guys.

I was able to assure her by telling her about other open relationships that I had had. But she soon tested me out, by telling me about another guy she had fucked the night after she had been with me. it was a real turn on for me. So I guess I passed the test.

 

[MyRubiLips]

So I guess I passed the test.

lol

 

[Nor_Man]

I believe there is a significant difference between being open, adventurous, and enjoying sex (I'll refrain from using the word slut) with mutual consent than cheating behind your back with random men. I'm sure that goes without saying, but sometimes there seems to be some confusion.

 

[Debbie920]

I believe there is a significant difference between being open, adventurous, and enjoying sex (I'll refrain from using the word slut) with mutual consent than cheating behind your back with random men. I'm sure that goes without saying, but sometimes there seems to be some confusion.

this is Lit... i think a lot of people are confused about what they fantasise about and whats real in their lives. if we was all so amazing sexually surely we would be too busy as sex gods to be able to write all about it in here.

back to topic though i still struggle to understand anyone wanting their long term partner/wife to become a cumslut

 

[hotwifeandhubby]

I have to say that I agree partially with probably all that have written here thus far. It is definitely about communication, communication, communication. After that it is about understanding and trust...those are paramount in our relationship behind communication. I was sort of a wild woman before we were married, wouldn't necessarily admit that to myself, but looking back on how and who I dated tells me that.

After our marriage I was stunned at first to give that up, but thought I wanted one person in my life. What I had to take some married life time to wrap my head around was that I could be a hot wife and still be a married wife at the same time. I know my dates are all 100% just that, dates. I come home to the love of my life. Our sex life has always been strong, but as we've grown older, my drive has surpassed his, no doubt.

I'm so very fortunate to have a loving man in my life that understands he cannot provide the kind of activities in our bedroom or out in public when we play outdoors that will totally satisfy me. He has been so good in knowing I need more and allowing that to happen as is necessary from time to time. I don't go looking for a lover every week, but it is quite frequently. Sometimes he is present, sometimes he plays too, but often he is my voyeur or he hears about the details later.

It has been and is an exciting life for us both. No I wasn't coerced into this, he didn't have to beg me, but I did have to work through some things in my head to make it right to have other lovers, but that did happen and we've never looked back and have never had a moment we truly regretted from our life choices.....hope this helps.

Hot Wife

 

[hotwifeandhubby]

this is Lit... i think a lot of people are confused about what they fantasise about and whats real in their lives. if we was all so amazing sexually surely we would be too busy as sex gods to be able to write all about it in here.

back to topic though i still struggle to understand anyone wanting their long term partner/wife to become a cumslut

I'm thinking that maybe "cumslut" is probably the wrong choice of words....just my opinion.

HW

 

[Justfantasies]

I'm thinking that maybe "cumslut" is probably the wrong choice of words....just my opinion.

HW

Definitely the wrong word -- a cum slut to me is someone who is really into cum. A hot wife may or may not be a cum slut.

I suspect there are a lot more hot wives around than may be obvious. With marriages lasting a long time these days and people being active into their 80s, it just seems natural that they wouldn't want to restrict themselves to just one person.

 

[Debbie920]

Just wondering if I should listen to my 'little head' and continue trying to transform my [somewhat] normal, but hot wife into a cumslut? She kinda warned me to watch out what you wish for, as I might be opening a can of worms or unleashing a monster..........[monster uncontrollable cumslut]
I have learned after a decade with her not to push her into something she maybe wouldn't do on her own.
feedback appreciated..............

his own words..... cumslut is what he wants

 

[Justfantasies]

his own words..... cumslut is what he wants

Fair enough -- but hot wives are a broader and more interesting group

 

[Justfantasies]

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