What is harder? (Sex drive)

[wishingyou]

many relationships seem to have an imbalance in sex drives between partners.

Do you think it's harder for the person who has the higher sex drive feeling like they aren't satisfied here and there and wanting to explore or for the person with a lower sex drive thinking they're disappointing their partner or living up to an expectation?

 

[DesEsseintes]

many relationships seem to have an imbalance in sex drives between partners.

Do you think it's harder for the person who has the higher sex drive feeling like they aren't satisfied here and there and wanting to explore or for the person with a lower sex drive thinking they're disappointing their partner or living up to an expectation?

I assume most people will only have experience of one.

 

[Noor]

Harder for the one whose partner expects more than they can give.

 

[tishadomina]

Difficult. Some couples with sexual drive imbalances may not have issues and merely accept the difference. I, for example, have a lot higher drive than my partner. But I get around that by enjoying being denied/teased (also being ill 'helps'). Do I regret or resent him for having a lower drive than me? No. I also now work eight hours a day for five days a week, so the time that I'd normally spend wanting to jump him is now reduced by practicality. Does he feel like he is disappointing me? No. See the part about denial and teasing. Yes, there is a libido difference but we implement it into our dynamic.

 

[OjosMojo]

many relationships seem to have an imbalance in sex drives between partners.

Do you think it's harder for the person who has the higher sex drive feeling like they aren't satisfied here and there and wanting to explore or for the person with a lower sex drive thinking they're disappointing their partner or living up to an expectation?

You understand this isn't the Seeking Justification for Already Cheating on My Partner Thread, right?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

It's always harder for the one that perceives they are not getting what they need, because, ultimately, they really only care about themselves. And the weird part, those roles often change, or even reverse if a relationship lasts long enough.

Sometimes they even balance out.

 

[wishingyou]

You understand this isn't the Seeking Justification for Already Cheating on My Partner Thread, right?

Haha yes. I'm just wondering what people think, which or if either side has it more difficult than the other. Not saying anything about cheating or exploring alternative options.

 

[Lancecastor]

I assume most people will only have experience of one.

On the GB...really?