Women, do you find your pussies beautiful?

[jehoram]

I got to thinking the other day about how people regard their own genitalia. I think that most men feel no shame about their cocks, and like to check themselves out in the mirror when they're aroused. And many of us feel that other men's cocks are fun to look at, or at least not a source of shame. I've only met a few men who go out of their way to conceal their cocks when they're in the gym shower.

I have to say that, as a man, I've never found any woman's pussy to be anything but beautiful. But I've been with a few women who don't seem to feel that way about their vulvas. One of them, a woman who had some distinctly large inner labia, said that she didn't like them to be seen at all, even in supposedly neutral settings like communal showers ... she felt like a freak. Another one told me that she was brought up to feel ashamed about having her pussy and tits on display, due to a strict upbringing. She eventually got over the latter, and would go topless, but she could never shake her associations with showing her vulva in public.

Two women are obviously not a statistically significant sample, but it got me wondering if other women felt that way. So I have two questions to ask you ladies out there:

1. Were you brought up to feel shame about your genitalia?
2. Did you ever get over it? If so, when and how?

I know that a lot of women feel very insecure about their breasts, to the point of having them surgically altered, but I figured that that was because they're constantly compared to the supposed ideal that the media is pushing (whatever size and shape that happens to be at the time). But since vulvas aren't generally put on display the way breasts are, there wouldn't be that sort of tendency to compare, would there?

 

[jomar]

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1164063

 

[DirtyAllie]

This belongs in fetish

 

[legerdemer]

Pussy Song

This just asks for The Lords of Acid:

Pussy Song

 

[Tio_Narratore]

As Inanna stood beneath an apple tree, she looked at herself and exclaimed: "What a lovely vulva I have." She then proceeded to visit Enki, the God of Knowledge...

(Translated from the Sumerian, "Inanna, Goddess of Heaven and Earth")

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

There are pussies that look like old roast beef tenderized with a steel mallet.

 

[slyc_willie]

There are pussies that look like old roast beef tenderized with a steel mallet.

. . . and then there's JBJ, who is old roast beef, and looks like a pussy.



I just couldn't help myself, Jimbo. You opened the door on that one.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

. . . and then there's JBJ, who is old roast beef, and looks like a pussy.



I just couldn't help myself, Jimbo. You opened the door on that one.

Its a quote from a new story.

 

[jehoram]

This belongs in fetish

How come?

The question is about attitude towards one's body, not about what kink gets you off that doesn't get most people off (which is the definition of a fetish, I think).

 

[sr71plt]

It's also highly personal (and might be more than a little voyeuristic of you) and isn't canted as a writing construct discussion. Comes across sort of as you just trying to get your rocks off by luring supposedly female posters into sexual bantering with you.

 

[DirtyAllie]

It's also highly personal (and might be more than a little voyeuristic of you) and isn't canted as a writing construct discussion. Comes across sort of as you just trying to get your rocks off by luring supposedly female posters into sexual bantering with you.

My feelings as well.

That and I tend to think that way of any guy running around with a dangling cock in his av.

 

[lovecraft68]

Maybe the OP should head over here

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1174419

Much livelier conversation and with pictures!

 

[lovecraft68]

My feelings as well.

That and I tend to think that way of any guy running around with a dangling cock in his av.

That comic in your AV is worth about .50 in the nargain bins.

 

[jehoram]

It's also highly personal (and might be more than a little voyeuristic of you) and isn't canted as a writing construct discussion. Comes across sort of as you just trying to get your rocks off by luring supposedly female posters into sexual bantering with you.

I'm sorry if it came across that way. My request was sincere ... I was trying to get a handle on how women feel about their bodies, and I thought that this was the place to pose it.

It is "highly personal," I realize, but no more so than many other threads here. I had no idea I was crossing some sort of line. My apologies.

 

[DirtyAllie]

That comic in your AV is worth about .50 in the nargain bins.

That's where I found it, the bargain bin. It was mixed in with all your e-books.

 

[ejacks1958]

Beautiful? Yes

Hubby once told me, "When young they look like a half a small peach with the seed removed and when older they look like a horse turd with a wagon track in the middle." For me, I like the way I look, lips not overly exposed and a nice tight appearance, almost like a pucker. I have a couple of pics to show special folks. BTW, I just joined the site and I was not offended by the content and am unsure where it should have been posted.

 

[Athalia]

So I have two questions to ask you ladies out there:

1. Were you brought up to feel shame about your genitalia?
2. Did you ever get over it? If so, when and how?

That is a damn good set of questions, and I'm surprised it hasn't come up before. I don't see the "voyeuristic" aspect of them. They seemed to be honest questions, and they deserve honest answers.

1. Shame? You bet. Our lady parts can be awfully inconvenient for us. It causes us embarrassment when we're on our periods and find ourselves spotting. There are tons of jokes about how they have to be kept scrupulously clean, or they'll stink. (And yes, I know that that can be a real problem for some women at some times, but it's rare and almost always treatable.) And that's on top of whatever feeling of shame that our religious instructors drill into us, about how good it was that Adam and Eve used fig leaves to hide their genitalia, instead of leaving them on view. That's the culture that we were all born into. I would like to think that younger women aren't saddled with that sort of baggage now, but I suspect that they still are.

2. I don't know if I've ever gotten over it. I'm OK with seeing myself in the mirror now, and pleasuring myself and being pleasured, and being with other naked women in a communal setting or with medical people. But I won't go to a nude beach, because I've come to identify being visibly "bare down there" as a signal for being ready for sex, and I don't want to feel like I'm giving that signal to the general public. That's my hangup, I know, and I am told that it's an un-natural, unhealthy mind-set, but that's just how it is.

If sr71plt considers the forgoing as "sexual bantering" voyeur bait, well, he's certainly welcome to get himself off on it.

 

[sr71plt]

If sr71plt considers the forgoing as "sexual bantering" voyeur bait, well, he's certainly welcome to get himself off on it.

Not likely (since you seem to want to bring me back into this). This is being asked--and you are answering--in the vein of being somewhere else on the forum than the Author's Hangout. Maybe the personals or Fetish.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Hubby once told me, "When young they look like a half a small peach with the seed removed and when older they look like a horse turd with a wagon track in the middle." For me, I like the way I look, lips not overly exposed and a nice tight appearance, almost like a pucker. I have a couple of pics to show special folks. BTW, I just joined the site and I was not offended by the content and am unsure where it should have been posted.

No, no, no. Over the age of 18 all look like old roast beef pounded into submission with a steel tenderizer mallet.

 

[jehoram]

This is being asked--and you are answering--in the vein of being somewhere else on the forum than the Author's Hangout. Maybe the personals or Fetish.

I'll be happy to have Laurel or Manu move it to whatever category they feel appropriate. On reflection, maybe it should have gone into the "HT Cafe" section. As I mentioned before, I personally don't think it goes into Fetish & Sexuality Control, and I thought that Personals was more for hookups and one-on-one stuff (it's not a forum I'm familiar with). But then, I haven't been around Lit as long as you have, and I admit that in many ways, I'm still learning the ropes.

BTW, is it possible for an author of a thread to get it moved to another category? Or does it require a moderator?

 

[sr71plt]

BTW, is it possible for an author of a thread to get it moved to another category? Or does it require a moderator?

It takes Laurel to move anything out of the AH. I wouldn't bother with it, though.

 

[lovecraft68]

I'll be happy to have Laurel or Manu move it to whatever category they feel appropriate. On reflection, maybe it should have gone into the "HT Cafe" section. As I mentioned before, I personally don't think it goes into Fetish & Sexuality Control, and I thought that Personals was more for hookups and one-on-one stuff (it's not a forum I'm familiar with). But then, I haven't been around Lit as long as you have, and I admit that in many ways, I'm still learning the ropes.

BTW, is it possible for an author of a thread to get it moved to another category? Or does it require a moderator?

Laurel is the only one who can. but I doubt she would

Just start another up in HT like you mentioned.

 

[lovecraft68]

That's where I found it, the bargain bin. It was mixed in with all your e-books.

Speaking of ugly pussies.

 

[Athalia]

Not likely (since you seem to want to bring me back into this).

Sorry if I came across as snippy. Yesterday was a bad day for me.

I think that I was maybe reacting to the dismissive tone of several of the other posters. It conveyed to me that they continue to use the thread as a springboard for all the old, tired twat jokes that everybody's already heard in some variation or other. But it does support my contention that our culture does find it easy to put women's body image down. I don't hear that many similar comments about men's junk.

As for whether it's an appropriate topic for this forum, I think it is. As writers, we must be sensitive to how people feel about their own images as sexual creatures. Maybe the results aren't the titillating stuff of conventional erotica, where everybody feels good about their bodies, rips their clothes off, and can't wait to jump each other's bones. But some of the best erotica I've read dealt with how people's attitudes about their bodies are confronted, and gateways are opened to a better appreciation of sex. There are lots of plot bunnies there.

 

[JackLuis]

Perhaps the OP could have worded his question a bit more diplomatically, but it is a valid question to women.

I have an interest in the answer(s) because I have a story in progress that deals with aspects of the answers. As part of the story the Women 'spread and present' their vulva to (various characters). This is part of a religious rite that forms the basis of the story.

I have faced the issue of describing the vulva as "the Gates of the Temple of Ishtar", and similar expressions but am faced with describing the "Way of Ishtar" the proper way to make the 'blossom of Innana', 'bloom', or more blessed is, the spouting the "Water of Life" before the male is allowed to seek the four treasured nooks of Ishtar and allow the woman to become the embodiment of Innana/Ishtar and allow the man to have congress with the Goddess.

Lest you think it a simple stroker, the story is about several women who find themselves in Akkad cira ~2500 BC, how they manage their affairs and carry on.

So, for all the inquiring authors who have related question as to the self images that populate the minds of the distaff sex can we explore that territory?