Tips/advice for a guy looking to get into BDSM.

[StarFire692]

Hey all, as the title says, I'm looking to get into the BDSM world. But I am at a loss on what to do. Like, how do I overcome my fear of (mentally and physically) hurting someone. Among other things. If that makes any sense that is.

 

[Primalex]

If that makes any sense that is.

Nope.

I read:"I want to become a vet, how do I overcome my fear of animals?"

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

StarFire692, my question to you is why do you want to get into something that frightens you and you are unsure about? If you think if you want to get into BDSM so all the subbys will fall to their knees and give you a blow job because you are a "Master" it don't work that way.

 

[LadyVer]

Hey all, as the title says, I'm looking to get into the BDSM world. But I am at a loss on what to do. Like, how do I overcome my fear of (mentally and physically) hurting someone. Among other things. If that makes any sense that is.

I'm not a BDSM expert, but I know enough to ask: why do you assume that BDSM is all about hurting someone?

 

[Kumo163]

BDSM isn't all whips, chains, pain, humiliation, etc. A lot of people are in the BDSM community, solely for the sense of the power dynamics and exchanges. You really can't force someone to enjoy something, if the interest doesn't come natural to them, once exposed to a scene.