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[sweetsophie512]

Well now that the secret mission is successfully complete, it's time to get back into the swing of things here.

After having ducked out for awhile I notice two things:

1)this thread gets quieter
2)I don't find myself going back on other threads to see what I have missed.

What's your approach to having been gone. Do you try and catch up? Do you acknolwdege your absence? Is your PM box full of "where'd ya go"?

You were gone?!?

I just go through the threads on the first page. If there's something I'm particularly looking for, then I will go searching for it. Otherwise, I don't bother.

My PM box doesn't get filled with inquiries as to where I am. My friends can reach me through other methods.

 

[TheSilverLining]

No, no and no.

*shrug*

And people call me unsociable......

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy Monday!

I read some erotica recently and as part of the story the female character, after having stroked her boyfriend to orgasm on their very first sexual encounter, goes into the bathroom and gets herself off under the premise that he may be spent for the evening. To be honest, that's not something I ever considered could/would/might happen. Then I got thinking about first date sex protocol, wondering if that really happens, and what is first sex protocol in a situation like that? I "assumed" that if the woman wanted more, and this wasn't a "I'll jerk him off and then get the hell out of there" situation, she'd get him hard again. Or do I live in a fantasy world in my brain?

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Happy Monday!

I read some erotica recently and as part of the story the female character, after having stroked her boyfriend to orgasm on their very first sexual encounter, goes into the bathroom and gets herself off under the premise that he may be spent for the evening. To be honest, that's not something I ever considered could/would/might happen. Then I got thinking about first date sex protocol, wondering if that really happens, and what is first sex protocol in a situation like that? I "assumed" that if the woman wanted more, and this wasn't a "I'll jerk him off and then get the hell out of there" situation, she'd get him hard again. Or do I live in a fantasy world in my brain?

Yeah, why wouldn't she let the guy help get her off? For me handies and oral have usually been foreplay before the sex happens. Even after I cum I'd still want to get my partner off.

 

[Little_Sister]

Seems very plausible to me. Granted my sexual experience is limited but it takes him a couple of hours to "reload". He can't get hard again right away. I have had something similar happen quite a few times when I have done oral only to have him pass out and had to get myself off but it was not the first date and we are married so my getting off is not a priority to him like it was while we were dating and he was trying to impress me.

My gut says if getting her off was important to HIM he would have done it before she ever had a chance to go to the bathroom. Once I am in the bathroom, whatever sex that was happening is now over, so if hypothetically, if I were at his house, I got him off and instead of touching me while I touched him or pushing me back to do me after I finished him to do me, I would assume he was done and I would finish myself in the bathroom. I can't sleep with that tension between my legs so I totally get doing it before she went back to him.

*shrugs*

 

[Trixareforkids]

Yup, pretty much what Little-Sister said. I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of women here agreed.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

See I'm the opposite. Sex isn't just about me getting off. It's about getting my partner off. I love receiving pleasure of course but I really want her to get off and feel good. If I'm not doing that then it's a wasted effort. And if she disappears into the bathroom after I already came then I'd feel really bad. Lol

 

[cowslinger64]

Happy Monday!

I read some erotica recently and as part of the story the female character, after having stroked her boyfriend to orgasm on their very first sexual encounter, goes into the bathroom and gets herself off under the premise that he may be spent for the evening. To be honest, that's not something I ever considered could/would/might happen. Then I got thinking about first date sex protocol, wondering if that really happens, and what is first sex protocol in a situation like that? I "assumed" that if the woman wanted more, and this wasn't a "I'll jerk him off and then get the hell out of there" situation, she'd get him hard again. Or do I live in a fantasy world in my brain?

I've had some first dates work out really well, and I ended up sleeping with them. When I meet a woman and want to have sex with her, what I want included is going down on her. That's what I always crave more than anything. If there is a reason that's not possible and she just wants to get me off..then that'd be about the only way I'd cum without her doing so.

Typically I wanna make her cum 3 or 4 times or more before I do. That IS a big part of what pleases me.

 

[snowkitten13]

See I'm the opposite. Sex isn't just about me getting off. It's about getting my partner off. I love receiving pleasure of course but I really want her to get off and feel good. If I'm not doing that then it's a wasted effort. And if she disappears into the bathroom after I already came then I'd feel really bad. Lol

My ex was such that he could generally only cum once in a 24-48 hour period and once he did, he was uninterested in anything after that. Now, I appreciate when a guy uses "other means" to make sure I'm satisfied.

Edit: I quoted the wrong post, not the original, but same topic so whatever. Lol.

 

[greeneyedguy001]

I always make sure the girl is satisfied, it's a bit rude not to satisfy her, when she has just got you off.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

My ex was such that he could generally only cum once in a 24-48 hour period and once he did, he was uninterested in anything after that. Now, I appreciate when a guy uses "other means" to make sure I'm satisfied.

Edit: I quoted the wrong post, not the original, but same topic so whatever. Lol.

See, if I was tapped out and my lady wanted more I'd at least use my mouth and hands or get hard again. I'd never be like "Sorry, you're on your own." That's just a douche move.

 

[Little_Sister]

See, if I was tapped out and my lady wanted more I'd at least use my mouth and hands or get hard again. I'd never be like "Sorry, you're on your own." That's just a douche move.

Ehh, I wont argue on the douchiness but there are many men out there that don't feel any guilt when it comes to leaving their wives unfinished (wither it was oral, handy or sex). I know because of the many GNO and such that I have been to. Men and sex are often the primary topic.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Happy Monday!

I read some erotica recently and as part of the story the female character, after having stroked her boyfriend to orgasm on their very first sexual encounter, goes into the bathroom and gets herself off under the premise that he may be spent for the evening. To be honest, that's not something I ever considered could/would/might happen. Then I got thinking about first date sex protocol, wondering if that really happens, and what is first sex protocol in a situation like that? I "assumed" that if the woman wanted more, and this wasn't a "I'll jerk him off and then get the hell out of there" situation, she'd get him hard again. Or do I live in a fantasy world in my brain?

It happens. I'm sure its very nice when it doesn't, though.

 

[Aurantica]

See I'm the opposite. Sex isn't just about me getting off. It's about getting my partner off. I love receiving pleasure of course but I really want her to get off and feel good. If I'm not doing that then it's a wasted effort. And if she disappears into the bathroom after I already came then I'd feel really bad. Lol

I can agree with that. And because it's so hard for me to cum with a partner, that makes me focus more on the pleasure of just being with a partner.

 

[jameslewis]

I have to agree with cowslinger and NorthRock; a huge part of my pleasure comes from making sure my partner is satisfied. Generally she will be the focus of attention until she's had release, then it's my turn. If she's still not satisfied totally, there are so many other ways to continue to pleasure her until she is. I don't understand a boy who would only focus on himself; I think men always take care of their women.

 

[dutchrain]

The worst ...

It was long ago. I was with a man I had a crush on for some time. A girl I worked with had told marvelous stories about him. So I thought, "why not?" when he made advances one night.

So, he came twice. We went through half the Kamasutra to get him that far. He dozed off. I felt very neglected. And some muscles I didn't know I had were still protesting. I poked him a bit. Turned this way and that way. When he opened his eyes, and asked me if it had been as good for me as it had been for him, I said "No!".

He got out off the bed, into the bathroom, and turned the shower on.

"You like sandalwood, or citrus?" he called.

Very eloquent I said "huh?"

"Well, you are going to suck my cock," he said cheery, "so I will wash myself with the soap you prefer."

I shuddered. A soapy tasting cock is just eww.

"Why would I suck your cock?" I asked, angling for my bra.

"So I can cum again!" he said even more cheery.

"Ah" I said as eloquent as before, putting on my bra. The rest of my clothes followed suit. Since it was summer, I didn't need to put on very much. When he came out of the bathroom, I was looking for my second shoe.

"What are you doing," he asked.

"Getting ready to go home," I said.

"Huh?" he said flabbergasted. "I just washed myself!"

Now I very much like to pleasure my partner. It is a huge part of my fun. Always has been. But if the man I am with is selfish, fun is over for me.

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy Birthday threads. You see them all the time, it will be someone's birthday and someone else will create a thread for other people to stop by and leave their birthday greetings. However, I don't participate in them. I have a couple reasons 1) never wanted to give person A a birthday wish but not for person B (the one greeting I have made, I got called out on as an example of selectively participating), 2) I'm not a fan of false greetings. If the only way I know it's your birthday is by seeing a thread regarding it, any wishes I leave seem shallow. Do I have an issue with these threads, nope, but I just don't participate. So, judge me Litsters, is this approach cold and insensitive? Should I make the effort to grant hollow birthday wishes at the risk of offending someone I overlook?

 

[Bitesback]

Happy Monday!

I read some erotica recently and as part of the story the female character, after having stroked her boyfriend to orgasm on their very first sexual encounter, goes into the bathroom and gets herself off under the premise that he may be spent for the evening. To be honest, that's not something I ever considered could/would/might happen. Then I got thinking about first date sex protocol, wondering if that really happens, and what is first sex protocol in a situation like that? I "assumed" that if the woman wanted more, and this wasn't a "I'll jerk him off and then get the hell out of there" situation, she'd get him hard again. Or do I live in a fantasy world in my brain?

There's nothing wrong with living in a fantasy world in your brain. A sexual encounter where only one partner orgasms may seem unfair in a relationship, but is nonetheless a valid part of many loving relationships. The girl in the story may well have wanted more but her overriding need, desire or preference may have been to give him an experience he would always remember. Especially as a first time.

I think there is something very erotic about a woman using her hands to stimulate her man to orgasm. Rather than a fumble and grope between horny teenagers, with an assured hand and an understanding of the most sensitive areas of male genitals, and lubrication of one form or another, his intense and satisfying orgasm can be a shared experience. And a powerful one for her. After all, he has hands, he knows how to use them for his own satisfaction. She's under some pressure to be as good or better! Kisses, lingering eye contact enhance the intimacy of the moment. Her observations and experience guide her hands, and he relaxes and enjoys feeling someone else masturbating him perhaps in a tantric way but to the point of a most welcome ejaculation.

Happy but yearning for her own release, she leaves her depleted man to his sleep and removes herself to the bathroom to enjoy her own arousal and not disturb his relaxed and restful state.

Sure, it looks selfish to not be readily attempting to reciprocate the attentions of his girlfriend and see to her own sexual satisfaction. Certainly, at that time, he was not considering her needs or showing a want to satisfy her, one way or another. But intimacy is many things, it's complex and it varies at different times for different people. She may think the night has been a perfect beginning to a loving relationship. And she may be confident that after such an intense experience, he will be very keen and attentive when they are next intimate together. And that future experience may well be far better than it might have been had she kept him awake to have intercourse.

She has used her experience and desire to satisfy him and that may have been her objective. At least on this occasion.

Others above have addressed the problems encountered when hand jobs or blow jobs are the sole focus of the encounter leaving the giver disappointed.

Sorry...there was a question?

And are we talking about birthday sex now?

 

[Bitesback]

Happy Birthday threads. You see them all the time, it will be someone's birthday and someone else will create a thread for other people to stop by and leave their birthday greetings. However, I don't participate in them. I have a couple reasons 1) never wanted to give person A a birthday wish but not for person B (the one greeting I have made, I got called out on as an example of selectively participating), 2) I'm not a fan of false greetings. If the only way I know it's your birthday is by seeing a thread regarding it, any wishes I leave seem shallow. Do I have an issue with these threads, nope, but I just don't participate. So, judge me Litsters, is this approach cold and insensitive? Should I make the effort to grant hollow birthday wishes at the risk of offending someone I overlook?

Ok...because my response to yesterday's topic was overly long, late and begins a new page right after Chained's new topic... Here it is again.

And for the record, I think the threads are sweet, but are too much like a popularity contest with some people receiving pages of salutations on the anniversary of their birth and others just a few to acknowledge the special day. I don't think it's cold hearted to stay away from them. PM someone if you really want to make their day feel more special.

 

[Aquagal]

Happy Birthday threads. You see them all the time, it will be someone's birthday and someone else will create a thread for other people to stop by and leave their birthday greetings. However, I don't participate in them. I have a couple reasons 1) never wanted to give person A a birthday wish but not for person B (the one greeting I have made, I got called out on as an example of selectively participating), 2) I'm not a fan of false greetings. If the only way I know it's your birthday is by seeing a thread regarding it, any wishes I leave seem shallow. Do I have an issue with these threads, nope, but I just don't participate. So, judge me Litsters, is this approach cold and insensitive? Should I make the effort to grant hollow birthday wishes at the risk of offending someone I overlook?

I agree. I tend to only leave best wishes for someone that I have some kind of friendships with or admire them from afar. The one time I left one for someone who we mutually didn't see eye to eye on (and it was left sincerely) was left responses for everyone but me. Cie la vie.

On the other hand, several times I've seen birthday threads started and for whatever reasons (weekend, no one knows the poster because they rarely post any more, I don't know why) they didn't seem to acquire many wishes and then I'd read posts that they needed to get in there and leave so and so birthday wishes. I'd be mortified if I got well wishes from someone on the basis they did so because they felt bullied into doing so.

I think for 2 years Gator gurl started one for me, and then I requested she didn't any more and now I don't even have my birthdate displayed. If you know me well enough to wish me such, that is fantastic. If not, I'm okay with that too.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Sadly, my birthday is not the national holiday it should be.

I don't mind the birthday threads though. People seem to enjoy them enough. I wouldn't probably participate in a birthday thread for someone I don't know. I've started one or two in the past.

But when AquaGal finally turns 35, she's getting a birthday thread! No hiding from it.

 

[SweetSam42]

I'm not trying to be a party pooper, but those types of threads reinforce the cliquey-ness of the PG. Ita what makes this forum less welcoming than others, and why I don't post much here anymore.

And I don't mean to take away from those who find pleasure in birthday wishes. It's just that those threads tend to be only for the popular posters. I just don't see the point.

 

[Little_Sister]

Ok...because my response to yesterday's topic was overly long, late and begins a new page right after Chained's new topic... Here it is again.

And for the record, I think the threads are sweet, but are too much like a popularity contest with some people receiving pages of salutations on the anniversary of their birth and others just a few to acknowledge the special day. I don't think it's cold hearted to stay away from them. PM someone if you really want to make their day feel more special.

I'm not trying to be a party pooper, but those types of threads reinforce the cliquey-ness of the PG. Ita what makes this forum less welcoming than others, and why I don't post much here anymore.

And I don't mean to take away from those who find pleasure in birthday wishes. It's just that those threads tend to be only for the popular posters. I just don't see the point.

I totally agree with both of these. I am not a fan of birthday threads either.

That said they are less irritating that some of the thread titles I have to read when I am looking through the New Posts link, for example the GB one about would 2015 finally be the year so-and-so finally stopped bitching about cancer. I wish there was a New Post link that did not include GB posts. I don't even like having to read the titles honestly.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I'm not trying to be a party pooper, but those types of threads reinforce the cliquey-ness of the PG. Ita what makes this forum less welcoming than others, and why I don't post much here anymore.

And I don't mean to take away from those who find pleasure in birthday wishes. It's just that those threads tend to be only for the popular posters. I just don't see the point.

Perhaps only the popular posters have birthdays... Think about it.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I totally agree with both of these. I am not a fan of birthday threads either.

That said they are less irritating that some of the thread titles I have to read when I am looking through the New Posts link, for example the GB one about would 2015 finally be the year so-and-so finally stopped bitching about cancer. I wish there was a New Post link that did not include GB posts. I don't even like having to read the titles honestly.

I used to be pretty anti-GB. Like, it just seemed like such a mean place. But then I realized, if you put like 3 users on ignore, the place is pretty fun. I've met a couple of great people here on the PG and a couple on the GB.

I do find that if you just post your boobs there, that makes you immediately cool. It even got me some instant street cred.