The worst thing that's happened to you

[Ekserb]

When I had my accident in July it was clear that was the worst thing that has happened to me so far. I was diagnosed with bladder cancer a few years ago, but that has been a cakewalk compared to the last few months.

For those that don't know, in late July I was inspecting my motorhome conversion for propane leaks and found a small leak ... the hard way. When I hit the igniter button on the cooktop the whole place exploded in a flash fire that left me with 3rd degree burns on about 30% of my body—mainly exposed skin on my arms and legs—and I spent the next three months in the burn unit in Gainesville. While in the ICU I also got a lung infection unrelated to the fire and nearly died twice. I then developed heterotypic ossification in my elbows and fingers leaving me unable to bend my arms. So, in addition to the burn recovery, I also can't use my arms to touch any part of my body above the waist, so I need help with a lot of things. The HO will eventually be fixed with surgery, but only after it's finished progressing so the doctors know it won't come back. (HO affects only a small percentage of trauma patients and no one knows exactly what causes it or how to prevent it.) I had so many skin grafts on my hands and legs that I will likely have permanent scarring on some areas.

Even though it only lasted a second, the fire was something I'll never forget and wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Don't play with fire, kids.

So what's your worst accident, disease, or heartbreak?

 

[Aurantica]

The worst thing that happened to me was ... well, just feeling lost for a good part of my life. I made few friends and didn't have what most people would call a social life. Even as an introvert, that was hard for me.

 

[Kitty]

My first real heartbreak, a couple months ago.

And earlier this year, a bad fight with my mom.

Earlier in my life, getting split from my dad.

Stuff in between like losing my virginity prematurely, an abusive baby sitter when I was 3, being put in Emergency for a mini stroke, getting tinnitus after someone hit me in the ear.

And I actually didn't remember I got abused at 3 until I was 14. It was called disassociation, and selective amnesia, suppressing traumas. Interesting.

 

[spartapd]

Me personally, I would have to say, getting divorced... It was such a massive, crushing sadness I wasn't sure how to get past it.

Then the day my son was diagnosed with Autism. To know that I will never have a conversation with him that will be as back and forth as I want it to be. I love him, with all my heart, but it kills me to know that he'll never see the world the way most people do.

I work as a paramedic, so tragedy is kind of part of the job. I have pronounced more than one person dead and had to go sit with their relatives and break the news to them. It's just part of the job. The standard defense mechanism is "I didn't know them, it's not where i live." It's something of a contradiction. You are supposed to get used to the tragedy, and yet, to be a good medic, you have to still be able to experience tragedy. It's very strange sometimes...

 

[GothAngelBabe]

hugs everyone

Losing my father a week exactly before mother's day and in the process losing any sense of family I had, till I became more close friends with who now is my awesome bestie and other friends.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Well I'm not trying to compare myself with any of the above here. Certainly sounds like much tougher situations.

I myself had acid reflux disease for several years before i figured out what it was and then tried dealing with it I was in so much pain all the time I thought it was only a matter of time before I did something rash.....anyways i did have a surgery that helped but it took a very long time to heal i figured i was on the road to recovery and back to have a normal life when i was betrayed in several ways that I still to this day have been unable to cope with and ever day I wake up the frustration and misery just starts all over again......I've been in a rut for such a long time that it consumes me to my very core and leaves me so mentally exhausted I just don't know what to do with myself some days.


anyways I know that may not be earth-shattering but Its my own battles......goes on daily.


and best wishes to other people's scenario's.....hard to see other people's suffering when you are preoccupied yourself but it helps to know that others are dealing with there own problems and are pushing through.

 

[Centauri1]

The place where I work, was hacked, total data breach, and now I found out that my medical info was also attacked / hacked.

 

[MrEd63]

Absolutely EVERYTHING to do with my first wife and her parasitic family.

 

[Aconitum19]

My ex husband who physically and emotionally abused me. I wad lucky to get out and finally finda wonderful man that worships the ground I walk on

 

[josiegirl77]

Up until now I would have said the worst thing that's happened to me is having my twin girls in the NICU for 5 week after an emergancy c-section to save my life and being in the ICU myself for 3 days before I even got to see them. That has now been replaced, because as of a month ago I am watching my mom slowly die of cancer and a tumor on her brain stem, while seeing my dad try to hold it together as he loses his wife and possibly soon his mother who is not doing good after having 2 strokes.

 

[Wicked6]

Having to tell my then 9 year old daughter her dad had died. Initially, I said that it was from a car accident but after speaking with a kindly, experienced chaplain, I then had to heartbreakingly tell her that he took his own life. Since then I have always been open and honest with her about any questions she had about her dad, the good, the bad and everything else in between. I even went as far as reading to her the note he left. To her complete credit, she is now a regular 18 year old and every year on his birthday and the anniversary of his death, we have KFC for dinner as tribute to him and his love of their 2 piece feed

 

[vidiman]

Having to tell my then 9 year old daughter her dad had died. Initially, I said that it was from a car accident but after speaking with a kindly, experienced chaplain, I then had to heartbreakingly tell her that he took his own life. Since then I have always been open and honest with her about any questions she had about her dad, the good, the bad and everything else in between. I even went as far as reading to her the note he left. To her complete credit, she is now a regular 18 year old and every year on his birthday and the anniversary of his death, we have KFC for dinner as tribute to him and his love of their 2 piece feed

Never know how to reply to something like this - bit I wanted to anyway. As a parent / dad I can imagine it being a v difficult thing to go through. KFC mmmmm.....

 

[vidiman]

The worst thing that happened to me was ... well, just feeling lost for a good part of my life. I made few friends and didn't have what most people would call a social life. Even as an introvert, that was hard for me.

Can empathise with this -thanks for posting.

 

[vidiman]

This thread really touches a place with me - I have tears in my eyes.

Would find it very hard to write my own feelings without it turning into a war and peace - at which point I get a bit depressed / frustrated by it.

Warm wishes to all.

 

[MrEd63]

This thread really touches a place with me - I have tears in my eyes.

Would find it very hard to write my own feelings without it turning into a war and peace - at which point I get a bit depressed / frustrated by it.

Warm wishes to all.

Quite understand, Chap

 

[Wicked6]

Never know how to reply to something like this - bit I wanted to anyway. As a parent / dad I can imagine it being a v difficult thing to go through. KFC mmmmm.....

Thanks vidi, I appreciate your reply. Not many people do know how to respond and I ended up comforting a lot of the people I had to tell.
I'm not overly keen on KFC's chicken pieces myself, so I usually get their large chips to dunk in a large potato & gravy..... mmmmm yummy

 

[vidiman]

Thanks vidi, I appreciate your reply. Not many people do know how to respond and I ended up comforting a lot of the people I had to tell.
I'm not overly keen on KFC's chicken pieces myself, so I usually get their large chips to dunk in a large potato & gravy..... mmmmm yummy

Yes emotional stuff -very difficult for me - had a fair amount of counselling (emotional expression - self discovery - YIKES!).

When a teenager we used to devour their sticky ribs (they were delish - stopped doing them which is probably a good thing for my health!

Keep well.

 

[Moon_Kyoung_ja]

And earlier this year, a bad fight with my mom.

I can relate to this. To say that my mother and I don't get along would be an understatement. I wish that we did

 

[Kalamain]

The worst thing that happened to me...
I can't even hold a candle to some of the things that have happened to the wonderful people above me.. *HUGS!* to you all!

When I was much younger, about 18 or so, I ripped out a few muscles in my back... Totally separated them from the anchor points. Major pain and had to be put into traction for about 6 weeks.
Then there was a muscle rebuilding afterward.

Even now I get back ache and if/when I re-hurt it, it will never be good, I am a wreck for about a week.

The worst thing is that it will only get worse as I get older.

Yoga is REALLY helping... Amazingly so... I just wish I had found it 20 years ago. Maybe I wouldn't have the pains and problems I have now.

 

[Sugartitties]

The day my ex-husband kidnapped my children because the movers packed some of his things on their truck. I got them back that evening, and stayed awake the entire night with a gun in my lap in fear of my life. The following day, I was awarded full custody of my kids and drove another 12 hours out of that god forsaken state until I felt safe enough to stop.

 

[sereneone4u]

The death of my daughter.
One of my other daughters being born with multiple birth defects, etc.
Being molested
Being raped
Having a brain stem stroke
Being pre-cancerous
Being married to someone slowly killing me.
Betrayals, over and over of the highest caliber.
Someone molesting one of my daughters...
Being beat so severely by my ex-husband that I miscarried.
Being profoundly abused by my parents.

I think I will stop now.

 

[sereneone4u]

Well I'm not trying to compare myself with any of the above here. Certainly sounds like much tougher situations.

I myself had acid reflux disease for several years before i figured out what it was and then tried dealing with it I was in so much pain all the time I thought it was only a matter of time before I did something rash.....anyways i did have a surgery that helped but it took a very long time to heal i figured i was on the road to recovery and back to have a normal life when i was betrayed in several ways that I still to this day have been unable to cope with and ever day I wake up the frustration and misery just starts all over again......I've been in a rut for such a long time that it consumes me to my very core and leaves me so mentally exhausted I just don't know what to do with myself some days.


anyways I know that may not be earth-shattering but Its my own battles......goes on daily.


and best wishes to other people's scenario's.....hard to see other people's suffering when you are preoccupied yourself but it helps to know that others are dealing with there own problems and are pushing through.

My father has GERD and it is horrible.

It is exhausting to deal with and a danger to health.

I am sorry you have to deal with that.

 

[Kalamain]

The death of my daughter.
One of my other daughters being born with multiple birth defects, etc.
Being molested
Being raped
Having a brain stem stroke
Being pre-cancerous
Being married to someone slowly killing me.
Betrayals, over and over of the highest caliber.
Someone molesting one of my daughters...
Being beat so severely by my ex-husband that I miscarried.
Being profoundly abused by my parents.

I think I will stop now.

OMFG....



*oh so gentle hugs*

I have nothing that I can say.
Makes my issues like nothing.

 

[xBriex]

Gosh. These are some awful things. My heart goes out to those who suffered abuse.
My current bf came to blows with an abusive ex and narrowly avoided jail time. It was an omg moment.

 

[GoAztecs]

Finding out before Thanksgiving during a physical that oh by the way you have cancer.

Prior to that would be my divorce, as out of no where, she had to find herself. Hard to lose a relationship where there weren't issues