Female on female sex: Very hard to find!

[Biblackchick83]

Female on female sex (no men involved): Very hard to find!

I could say lesbian sex, but its not truly lesbian sex if the two women arent lesbians.

I know most people would disagree with me on this, but trust me it is very hard to find, especially in my case. I'm a bisexual single black woman. I have a very straight appearance. If anything, most of the women that I've meant in the past are married, have long-term boyfriends, etc. I like men, but sometimes I want a woman all to myself. Their loyalty is to them (their husbands), only!. I've meant women who basically worship their husbands! Not all but lots! The majority of them identified as bisexual, but I have meant some gay women too, but with gay women, there are those limitations with them too. Most gay women I've meant do not fuck with bisexual women at all. I have a friend that I used to work with, she and her girlfriend stay down the street from me, they are VERY PRIVATE about there relationship. I could not have a threesome with them for nothing! There is truly a struggle between gay women and bisexual women. Besides cultural limitations, family obligations, etc, its hard to find a woman that I can have all to myself. The last time I did anything with a girl was in 2010. You guys do the math. I'm lucky I even got that. Most women are NOT SAME SEX SEEKING! If anything, more men are same sex seeking then women. You have lots of women who will befriend gay men, but still look down on same sex seeking women.

And most women have sex with women just to impress their husbands. Its rare that you find a woman who have sex with a woman because they enjoy it. Even with the lesbians, they are really hung up on control and power. You have 'touch me not' lesbians too.

No doubt, I like dick, I know that as a woman, society has taught me that is what I am SUPPOSE to like. But I dont ALWAYS like cock. Sometimes I just want girl on girl sex, and I want a woman all to myself. No men there to distract us from what we are doing.

I never thought about female on female incest until I started reading more stories online. I cant believe the number of women who have had female on female sex with their family member (sister, cousin, etc) because it was a stress relieve thing, and because it was a bonding thing. I've never considered incest until very recently.

Still not a world I am a part of.

 

[Biblackchick83]

Nobody gots nothing to say

 

[Biblackchick83]

Well I have a little more to say so I'll go ahead and spit it out: I think that there is more hostility towards men, but I feel that men are more prized and worshiped then women are. Women are needed and wanted, but men are more prized, cherished, etc. I know that sounds crazy, but thats what I've experienced. I wouldnt call myself 100% gay but I am bisexual. You do have bisexual women who identify as lesbian but I believe that if you still like men you are at least bisexual, thats my personal belief. I used to be friends with this one gay girl who told me that males are more catered to in the LGBT world. I couldnt agree more.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I think what you are talking about applies broadly to women, not just gay or bi-sexual women. I find women are generally more inclined to take sex a bit too seriously and be extremely cautious about experimentation - maybe because you have so much more negative feedback about your sexuality. In other words all men are sluts but even the women who are can't say so.

The men being more prized is probably true. Part of that is evolution and part is tied to the above comment. Women feel less inclined to have multiple partners so that puts more pressure on finding the right one and getting him to put aside his slutty ways.

I don't know if men are catered to more in the LGBT world but they certainly seem to be more "out" in terms of declaring themselves. I saw another person mention on another thread that gay men and women are often very judgmental of straight or bi-sexual people and I think that is often true - being the oppressed or relating to them is somehow their free pass to give it all back 5x over.

It strikes me that whether gay, straight or bi the people hardest on women are other women. Men say and do stupid things but they forget it a minute later. Women have a greater propensity to resent other women for nothing more than not being what they think a woman is supposed to be. Men do it too but it is more isolated to homophobia and society has been pressing us to drop these attitudes for decades.

Meanwhile judgmental women are accepted and even glorified - it seems like every second sitcom I see is full of bitchy judgmental women who treat the men in their lives like neanderthals. My guess is that it is linked to the notion of female empowerment - we are so anxious to celebrate a woman that is able to speak up (and so we should) that we can't bring ourselves to notice that she is being nasty.

Back in the day Archie Bunker was a symbol of misogyny and racism. He was a main character on TV not because we found his behaviour acceptable but quite the opposite. Try watching everybody loves Raymond and tell me his wife isn't a nagging, self important bitch who treats has maleness as a symbol of intellectual inferiority.

 

[Biblackchick83]

I think what you are talking about applies broadly to women, not just gay or bi-sexual women. I find women are generally more inclined to take sex a bit too seriously and be extremely cautious about experimentation - maybe because you have so much more negative feedback about your sexuality. In other words all men are sluts but even the women who are can't say so.

The men being more prized is probably true. Part of that is evolution and part is tied to the above comment. Women feel less inclined to have multiple partners so that puts more pressure on finding the right one and getting him to put aside his slutty ways.

I don't know if men are catered to more in the LGBT world but they certainly seem to be more "out" in terms of declaring themselves. I saw another person mention on another thread that gay men and women are often very judgmental of straight or bi-sexual people and I think that is often true - being the oppressed or relating to them is somehow their free pass to give it all back 5x over.

It strikes me that whether gay, straight or bi the people hardest on women are other women. Men say and do stupid things but they forget it a minute later. Women have a greater propensity to resent other women for nothing more than not being what they think a woman is supposed to be. Men do it too but it is more isolated to homophobia and society has been pressing us to drop these attitudes for decades.

Meanwhile judgmental women are accepted and even glorified - it seems like every second sitcom I see is full of bitchy judgmental women who treat the men in their lives like neanderthals. My guess is that it is linked to the notion of female empowerment - we are so anxious to celebrate a woman that is able to speak up (and so we should) that we can't bring ourselves to notice that she is being nasty.

Back in the day Archie Bunker was a symbol of misogyny and racism. He was a main character on TV not because we found his behaviour acceptable but quite the opposite. Try watching everybody loves Raymond and tell me his wife isn't a nagging, self important bitch who treats has maleness as a symbol of intellectual inferiority.

Great reply. I still have to write you back. Look for a PM very soon . Yeah I'm a female and I've had females stay stuff about me too. I've even had females make remarks about my body at work (something I do not like!!!!!!!!) But males also. I've gotten it from both groups.

 

[JKayle]

I agree partially; sort of... kinda, lol.

It seems like the fully straight community, along with the majority of the gay community has their own definition of acceptable.

As SlutAddicted said earlier, the gay male part of the community, once they come out, are practically encouraged to go through as many partners as they can; whether this is due to a societal loosening or simply the fact that whatever they do is down to 2 (or more) unbridled male libidos; I don't know.

The lesbians I've known personally seem to let their intimate life fall off a cliff once the relationship is more than a few years old; oddly, the same happens in the straight relationships that I've been privvy to the inner workings of.


The people that are more flexible in their tastes seem to have their options limited by both other sections.