an erotic smack in the face

[Laurel]

...but after you get up off your knees and then need to play your strong and independent woman act, it just makes me howl at what a fraud you truly are.

I'm not going to speak for dolf because she's very capable of speaking for herself. But I will say that there are many women who are capable, independent, in-control chicks in their everyday life and thus get off on being "out of control" in sex.

When I was younger, I didn't get it at all. I thought the BDSM stuff with the uppercase/lowercase and costumes was kinda...goofy. And TBH I still kind of hold that opinion on the me/You thing and the "Master" "Daddy" stuff etc. (though I'm totally supportive of people enjoying it if that's what trips their trigger). But as I've gotten older and more relaxed and sexually comfortable and, bluntly, hornier, things that used to not seem so interesting are in fact very interesting.

I've never been slapped in the face, but I've gotten off to scenarios involving that. I've roleplayed situations with my SO in which he's the aggressor and I'm the completely helpless victim, where he's allowed to do whatever he wants, however roughly he wants. And it's absolutely scary and thrilling and hot - in part because it's different from my real life, where I'm loved and valued and respected by him (and that's reciprocated).

It's like horror movies or murder mysteries or a million other fictitious things that we all enjoy but would never want to actually experience. Being degraded sexually in a controlled environment is like riding a rollercoaster or skydiving - getting to experience falling without actually hitting the ground and dying. Though she may wank about it, I doubt Dolf wants a mean-spirited stranger to do her harm. And if you walked up to her and slapped her face without permission, you'd probably regret it.

There are many powerful confident Type-A men who like to be Dommed in the bedroom, and probably for the same reason: it's so very different from the rest of their life.

People are weird and complicated and sometimes broken. There are people who get into kinky stuff for various reasons. I'm just offering one perspective. But the point is that I think you're very wrong, in that being topped in the bedroom doesn't mean turning in your Feminism card. The whole point of Feminism is (or should be) that it is acceptable for women - and men! - to be whoever they are.

 

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[StrayKat]

They have someone manning the door?

Apparently they need someone

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

She charged you ten grand to do it too.

I wouldn't do it for that.

 

[StrayKat]

Being degraded sexually in a controlled environment is like riding a rollercoaster or skydiving - getting to experience falling without actually hitting the ground and dying.

This is amazingly accurate description.

I was just talking to someone a few days ago and "rollercoaster" was the exact word I used to describe my feelings.

 

[SkAoUt]

I slapped the OP in an airport in front of hundreds of people.

That is awesome!

 

[eyer]

...

I understand...

...you believe A can = B, C, D, and/or whatever, that truth must abide contradiction else there is no such thing as truth at all, that "reality" is relative to whatever each individual wishes theirs to be, that Bambi doesn't have to die, and that Vogue is a tool of the male-commanded society which demands women get plastic tits and rubber lips for its own enjoyment.

I'd ask you if you've ever been unconsentually abused in your life...

...but since I am professionally intimate with the collective facts of that general matter and already know the answer, and a very cool woman has already informed me this week that she doesn't really get anything out of being slapped in the face, yet she accepts it because it makes him happy, I won't.

So, if you don't mind: whatever else you may've intended to offer in explanation why there's really nothing wrong with the "right" guy slapping you in the face, or beating and bruising you - or you slapping or beating and bruising him...

...just share 'em with the B, C, D, and/or whatever bozos who also get off with absolutely no common decency regard for the reality that billions and billions of women and men are suffering miserably every minute of every day in great, apathetic part because such depravity just happens to be accepted here because it's "consensual".

In truth, that registers as little to me as a poster on this site who'd insist he'd never have a molesting thought about his daughters, let alone literally molest them, as they were growing up, but who unashamedly and openly admits that as soon as they're old enough to - wait for the magic word - consent...

...they're fair meat to him.

What a cargo boat full of absolute bullshit.


Just out of curiosity, Laurel:

If Manu wanted you to shot him up with an 8ball, if you had his full consent, would you do it because you love him and want to please him...

...or, because you love him and want to do what's best for him, would you flat-out say NO - even though he'd manage to get it done some other way?

 

[evesdream]

a very cool woman has already informed me this week that she doesn't really get anything out of being slapped in the face, yet she accepts it because it makes him happy, I won't.

Ahhhhhhhh, I hope one of the many bees in your bonnet finds a comfortable honeycomb to settle down in with the understanding that what I *meant* to communicate and what got lost somehow in this thread is that it is my derriere these days that is the victim of slaps, as well as squeezes, taps, and gropes in and out of the bedroom whether I like them or not all for the pleasure of my significant other.


P.S. Last night I was inspired by this thread. When I told the abusive monster that he shouldn't slap my bottom because I don't like it, in or out of the bedroom, he let out a roar of mockery, turned me over the sink and did things that reddened every imaginable cheek on my body.

When will it ever end??

 

[Learnsmith]

Not young, though.

He's an old crusty curmudgeonly coot living "off grid" in the desert who's been reduced to straddling the cacti surrounding his bargain-basement Airstream when needing to vent his sexual frustrations. Which, if his posts are any indication, seem to ramping up exponentially these past few days.

Really now? Because I'd have taken him for some fuckwit 20-year-old with mommy issues. Granted, I did sort of poke him a little bit upon arriving here - because hey, in my book, the only time you call a woman a whore is BY REQUEST. And it BETTER be a compliment. But apparently I'm just an abusive fuck, so what the hell do I know?

 

[evesdream]

Really now? Because I'd have taken him for some fuckwit 20-year-old with mommy issues. Granted, I did sort of poke him a little bit upon arriving here - because hey, in my book, the only time you call a woman a whore is BY REQUEST. And it BETTER be a compliment. But apparently I'm just an abusive fuck, so what the hell do I know?

You're not what's wrong with this place José, but you're not everything that's right either. Points for catching that Bradbury, though.

 

[dolf]

I slapped the OP in an airport in front of hundreds of people.

so I blame all of this on you!

She charged you ten grand to do it too.

now it's ten grand? when killswitch first came up with the story I think it was two.

That is awesome!

you should try it.

 

[Sean]

She charged you ten grand to do it too.

Jesus Christ you're stupid.

 

[toubab]

so I blame all of this on you!

now it's ten grand? when killswitch first came up with the story I think it was two.
you should try it.

Would I be out of line in asking what caused this public slap in the airport?

 

[Learnsmith]

You're not what's wrong with this place José, but you're not everything that's right either. Points for catching that Bradbury, though.

Never said I was I'm an asshole with an allergy to other assholes, and it inclines me toward trouble in mixed company. Still, I disengaged, though it is still tempting to continue to take potshots (see also ASSHOLE). Still, glad my guess was correct. A favorite story of mine as a child. And I always admire a well-read woman

 

[dolf]

Would I be out of line in asking what caused this public slap in the airport?

it was affectionate & fun in origin. we're friends, he knows my quirks.

 

[toubab]

it was affectionate & fun in origin. we're friends, he knows my quirks.

Ah. That's interesting. But now I'm wondering how he knew you would consider it fun and affectionate. Actually, I guess I'm asking too many questions. But you did start a thread about the subject.

 

[dolf]

Ah. That's interesting. But now I'm wondering how he knew you would consider it fun and affectionate. Actually, I guess I'm asking too many questions. But you did start a thread about the subject.

like I say, he knows my quirks. and he reads me well.

there aren't many men I trust as much as him.

 

[butters]

I slapped the OP in an airport in front of hundreds of people.

That is awesome!

it was affectionate & fun in origin. we're friends, he knows my quirks.

ok, i'm curious:

you bring such an intimate act into a public arena. is part of it all, then, about public 'exposure'? like flashing your kink in front of strangers?

how did people around you react?
how did you react? it might make a big difference to the first question

i'm asking because if the slap looked genuine, hard enough to bring a tear and redden a cheek (or more), then as far as the public are concerned they are witnessing an assault. as adults, people are then put in a difficult position - do they intervene? say nothing? look away, embarrassed to have witnessed an act they can't clearly pigeonhole? and what about young people, even children seeing this? how can they possibly work out what's happening? they might instinctively feel its something wrong, but if they see the slappee responding with a kiss, or just the non-intervention of other adults as a woman's being assaulted, what are they supposed to do with this input? it might upset some, excite others - some kids might get the idea it's something women in general like only to find that's not usually the case later on when they try it for themselves.

no point saying it's no-one else's business; the way i see it, making it so public means it's anyone's business and i can't help but see it as a pretty selfish act on the part of those receiving the pleasure. i'm not saying you have to agree with me, just airing my opinion.

 

[dolf]

ok, i'm curious:

you bring such an intimate act into a public arena. is part of it all, then, about public 'exposure'? like flashing your kink in front of strangers?

how did people around you react?
how did you react? it might make a big difference to the first question

i'm asking because if the slap looked genuine, hard enough to bring a tear and redden a cheek (or more), then as far as the public are concerned they are witnessing an assault. as adults, people are then put in a difficult position - do they intervene? say nothing? look away, embarrassed to have witnessed an act they can't clearly pigeonhole? and what about young people, even children seeing this? how can they possibly work out what's happening? they might instinctively feel its something wrong, but if they see the slappee responding with a kiss, or just the non-intervention of other adults as a woman's being assaulted, what are they supposed to do with this input? it might upset some, excite others - some kids might get the idea it's something women in general like only to find that's not usually the case later on when they try it for themselves.

no point saying it's no-one else's business; the way i see it, making it so public means it's anyone's business and i can't help but see it as a pretty selfish act on the part of those receiving the pleasure. i'm not saying you have to agree with me, just airing my opinion.

heads turned at the sound, but by the time they looked it was over.
there were no tears or marks or falling backwards, or any of the dramatic reactions you might imagine. it was lightning fast, and far more mental shock than physical pain.

i'm not one for public play. but there it is.

 

[butters]

heads turned at the sound, but by the time they looked it was over.
there were no tears or marks or falling backwards, or any of the dramatic reactions you might imagine. it was lightning fast, and far more mental shock than physical pain.

i'm not one for public play. but there it is.

i am suitably relieved

 

[Not Normal]

I'm not going to speak for dolf because she's very capable of speaking for herself. But I will say that there are many women who are capable, independent, in-control chicks in their everyday life and thus get off on being "out of control" in sex.

When I was younger, I didn't get it at all. I thought the BDSM stuff with the uppercase/lowercase and costumes was kinda...goofy. And TBH I still kind of hold that opinion on the me/You thing and the "Master" "Daddy" stuff etc. (though I'm totally supportive of people enjoying it if that's what trips their trigger). But as I've gotten older and more relaxed and sexually comfortable and, bluntly, hornier, things that used to not seem so interesting are in fact very interesting.

I've never been slapped in the face, but I've gotten off to scenarios involving that. I've roleplayed situations with my SO in which he's the aggressor and I'm the completely helpless victim, where he's allowed to do whatever he wants, however roughly he wants. And it's absolutely scary and thrilling and hot - in part because it's different from my real life, where I'm loved and valued and respected by him (and that's reciprocated).

It's like horror movies or murder mysteries or a million other fictitious things that we all enjoy but would never want to actually experience. Being degraded sexually in a controlled environment is like riding a rollercoaster or skydiving - getting to experience falling without actually hitting the ground and dying. Though she may wank about it, I doubt Dolf wants a mean-spirited stranger to do her harm. And if you walked up to her and slapped her face without permission, you'd probably regret it.

There are many powerful confident Type-A men who like to be Dommed in the bedroom, and probably for the same reason: it's so very different from the rest of their life.

People are weird and complicated and sometimes broken. There are people who get into kinky stuff for various reasons. I'm just offering one perspective. But the point is that I think you're very wrong, in that being topped in the bedroom doesn't mean turning in your Feminism card. The whole point of Feminism is (or should be) that it is acceptable for women - and men! - to be whoever they are.

This is a very concise, logical and well thought out response. It saddens me that the intellectual level of many adult humans isn't even close to be able to understand, let alone, accept the reasoning.

-snip

a bunch of words

I'd call you a halfwit, but that is giving you WAY too much credit.

 

[StrayKat]

It saddens me that the intellectual level of many adult humans isn't even close to be able to understand, let alone, accept the reasoning.

If humans could understand everything that wasnt their thing, internet forums would be much less fun.

 

[Learnsmith]

I'd call you a halfwit, but that is giving you WAY too much credit.

I straight ignored him after day 2 back. By the way, hi there NN Sidd here. Good to see you.

 

[eyer]

Ahhhhhhhh, I hope one of the many bees in your bonnet finds a comfortable honeycomb to settle down in with the understanding that what I *meant* to communicate and what got lost somehow in this thread is that it is my derriere these days that is the victim of slaps, as well as squeezes, taps, and gropes in and out of the bedroom whether I like them or not all for the pleasure of my significant other.

I don't recall stating that you are that "very cool woman" I posted of.

 

[Que]

~snip~ A favorite story of mine as a child. And I always admire a well-red woman

A shame you weren't using voice to text to continue the theme.