I broke my own rule and deleted 2 comments.

[Vanadorn]

I just broke my own rule re: feedback and the internet and know better than what I did, but I just deleted 2 comments from some anon-a-douchebag. I'm tired, just woke up, and was checking my emails out and crap out while the bagel was toasting and saw 2 once again nameless fucktards tossing monkey shit my way.

So I deleted them and about 10 seconds later felt like an ass. I never delete comments, leaving their braying up for others to see what a dick they are. But this morning, I acted before thinking.

Does anyone else cherry pick the comments section and remove the ones that just chafe you the wrong way? Is there any long term bull that's going to come of this?

Ugh - never shop when hungry, never text while drunk, and never email while tired. 3 basic rules.

-V

 

[VenusButterflies]

I just broke my own rule re: feedback and the internet and know better than what I did, but I just deleted 2 comments from some anon-a-douchebag. I'm tired, just woke up, and was checking my emails out and crap out while the bagel was toasting and saw 2 once again nameless fucktards tossing monkey shit my way.

So I deleted them and about 10 seconds later felt like an ass. I never delete comments, leaving their braying up for others to see what a dick they are. But this morning, I acted before thinking.

Does anyone else cherry pick the comments section and remove the ones that just chafe you the wrong way? Is there any long term bull that's going to come of this?

Ugh - never shop when hungry, never text while drunk, and never email while tired. 3 basic rules.

-V

I've thought about deleting comments and have almost done it. What's funny is that I take the negative comments more seriously than the positive ones. But I leave them there. If I remove them, I feel I'm being weak and controlled by my ego. I try to find something in those negative comments that motivates me to do better next time, if it's possible. Otherwise, they just stay there.

What were the comments?

 

[VenusButterflies]

P.S. Why does your name sound so familiar?

 

[PennLady]

Don't feel bad about deleting comments. The site gives you that option and you are not obligated to leave anything up, good or bad. I'd say based on anecdotal evidence most people do leave comments up, even bad ones, unless they are personal attacks or otherwise crossing a line. But it doesn't mean you have to.

Whether there's any long-term effect would depend on who originally left the comment, I think, and whether they check back to see if anything changes. Still, I wouldn't worry about it. It's your story and your decision as to what comments stay or go, and in fact whether comments can be posted at all.

 

[Swilly]

I generally don't but there have been times that I've deleted some comments. Don't sweat it. In the big scheme of things, it makes no difference.

 

[Vanadorn]

@ Venus - What's funny is the comments in the scheme of things I've received before (where I should die, or choke on a dick, or whatever) were not as bad. I was just tired, reading my emails and surfing, had been up for 10 minutes and thought, "Fuck me, really? You're being a dick to me? Don't like my shit, don't read it. You read it and then bitch about it. Well fuck you, I'm deleting your ass."

I never delete, but today it was just a perfect storm of being tired and having no patience for the yapping of tiny dogs.

I've been on and off writing under this penname for 15, 20 years in god knows how many places. So you might have seen something somewhere else, although this is my first time writing erotic-styled fiction.

Thanks for the replies guys.

-V

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I don't allow anonymous comments, they invite abuse. The others stay up.

Doesn't bother me if a readers calls me a skunk or an imbecile, but I refuse to provide cover for bushwhackers like Naoko and Tio who use anonymous to spew their timid sickness. Call a spade a spade and use your account name.

 

[StrangeLife]

I deleted one that contained spam, but otherwise I never touch them. If after reading my stories people feel that I'm a "sick fucking scumbag cuckmaster" it's their prerogative to say so.

But that doesn't mean that I'm not finding it annoying to post a story that I have invested my time in and is allowing people to read for free and then get rewarded with a series of derogatory remarks. So I totally understand where you are coming from and why it can sometimes get to be too much...

 

[Serafina1210]

I learned some lessons about this the time I dropped a satire into LW and set off a storm of abuse.

1. The site administrators will delete death threats and death wishes if they get wind of them, so you may as well save them the trouble.

2. While some anonymous comments are thought-provoking (and so I leave them), a lot of them show no sign that the commenter actually read the story, and I believe he or she probably didn't. They're just trolling, and I think it's best to delete them. I leave negative comments, even anonymous ones, that show an acquaintance with the story.

3. Sometimes other commenters will reply to the troll before I get there, and then I leave the comment in place. The two comments together tend to make a positive effect.

 

[TxRad]

I don't allow anonymous comments, they invite abuse. The others stay up.

Doesn't bother me if a readers calls me a skunk or an imbecile, but I refuse to provide cover for bushwhackers like Naoko and Tio who use anonymous to spew their timid sickness. Call a spade a spade and use your account name.

And you can prove that how? I'm calling bullshit.

So either prove it or STFU as you tell others.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

And you can prove that how? I'm calling bullshit.

So either prove it or STFU as you tell others.

Youre the King of Alt Voting.

 

[TxRad]

Youre the King of Alt Voting.

And as usual, you're being an idiot.

 

[Hypoxia]

And as usual, you're being an idiot.

Put the lying hob on ignore. Life is much cleaner then, less bullshit.

But I digress. I have deleted exactly one comment, some horrendous crap that I don't even remember now but it seemed noxious at the time. Fifteen seconds later, I'd wished I'd left it, but it was gone, just another turd flushed downstream.

But alas! I receive an insufficient quota of comments. I feel left out.

 

[lovecraft68]

I leave them all.

Here and there one may get under my skin a little but I leave it anyway.

My opinion-and I stress mine everyone has their own- is that deleting them gives them a thrill because they think they got tp you. Leaving them there shows you could care less. Plus as the op pointed out it lets others see how stupid they are.

It's also fun to see people comment and mock them for being an ass hat

 

[Swilly]

Sometimes they amuse me. I got one today that made me laugh, even though it was useless and nasty. So I left it.

 

[sr71plt]

If you absolutely believe you can't/shouldn't delete comments, you're letting them control you. Of course, if you delete them and then feel all guilty about it later, they are still controlling you.

The Web site gives you the power to delete--or not permit them in the first place. So, do whatever you like and don't agonize over it.

(And, no, I don't delete very many of them--don't have all that many of them that irritate me.)

 

[StrangeLife]

I don't allow anonymous comments, they invite abuse. The others stay up.

Doesn't bother me if a readers calls me a skunk or an imbecile, but I refuse to provide cover for bushwhackers like Naoko and Tio who use anonymous to spew their timid sickness. Call a spade a spade and use your account name.

You are missing out.

I always comment anonymously on other peoples stories. Not out of a need to spew sickness or calling other people spades, but because I am a writer myself and don't want to get into any kind of "comment-for-comment" exchange or obligations with other writers. Simultaneously I am of course also protecting myself from getting 1-bombed by angry writers whose stories I have trashed in the comments, but since I tend to refrain from non-constructive remarks that was never a big concern...

 

[Vanadorn]

If you absolutely believe you can't/shouldn't delete comments, you're letting them control you.

For me it's a matter of free speech and the right to opinion. I take our rights pretty seriously and have a lot of respect for those who have fought for them for the rest of us. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but as my grandfather used to say, everyone has assholes too.

The issue here is the constant 8th grade recess disrespect and sheer cock-a-tude that gets thrown around the monkey house.

I want people to comment but today it just hit me wrong and I deleted the pair of scumfuckers. Have something to say - please say it! Want to be a douchecanoe and spray your vile shit everywhere - well, after a while people are going to delete/ignore/block your ass.

And I know in my head that the anony-pricks were most likely 2 different people (Maybe) but being they were one after the other I looked at it like someone being an asshole. Twice.

Not trying to please everyone - just happy to be writing again is all. Sharing what I have, read it, don't read it, not agonizing over scores or whatever. If you don't like it, then stop reading. Don't muddle through 10k+ words to realize you don't like it. Hell, if I drink milk and it tastes off, I stop drinking it. I don't guzzle the whole thing, get sick, and then complain to the supermarket that they sold me crappy milk.

-V

 

[sr71plt]

You are missing out.

Not necessarily. Not if you just want to see your stories posted and read, which is fine on Literotica; this is not set up as a "gotta give/take feedback" site.

Also, not necessarily in a case like JBJ's when detractors are going to attack on a story completely independently of the story.

There's no requirement here for everyone to have the same goal or to be guilted for not having the same goals as someone else.

 

[Montanos]

@ Venus - What's funny is the comments in the scheme of things I've received before (where I should die, or choke on a dick, or whatever) were not as bad. I was just tired, reading my emails and surfing, had been up for 10 minutes and thought, "Fuck me, really? You're being a dick to me? Don't like my shit, don't read it. You read it and then bitch about it. Well fuck you, I'm deleting your ass."

Whether deleting comments or not, I don't understand the concept of "You don't like my shit, don't read it."

How can people figure out they don't like what an author writes if they don't read it first?

Someone might say that a reader can stop reading partway through the story once they realize they aren't liking the story. Well, to that I say: Grow up and deal with it. I believe it childish for an AUTHOR to throw a fit if someone finished reading their story but left a critical review. I have a strong dislike of "If you don't like it, don't read it." because many authors apply it to more than abusive criticism.

As many readers are going to finish the story, not to torture themselves, but because they are trying to find a reason to like your story. So, yes, even if they didn't like it, they read it.

Does that excuse the reader leaving an impolite comment? Hell no. The reader that disrespects/insults an author deserves to have their comment deleted and ignored. That's abuse and no one has to put up with such nonsense.

On the other hand, I beg authors not to find insult in disagreeing critical opinions. They aren't pleasant, true, but very useful.

Is there a way to tell which critical comments are posted by readers who have read 'all' of the story? The comments might give you a clue, but many times there isn't.

*****
SO! Rule of thumb. If the critical review is disrespectful, junk it. The person who posted it lost their right to an opinion the moment they inflicted abuse on you. They can go f*** themselves.

If the critical review, whether you agree or not, is conducted in an adult mature manner, read it and keep it. This is a voice that deserves to have their points read.

Montanos

 

[sr71plt]

Someone might say that a reader can stop reading partway through the story once they realize they aren't liking the story. Well, to that I say: Grow up and deal with it.

I'm not sure if I'm understanding this right. Why should someone have to continue reading something they don't like? Why isn't just stopping and walking away a grown-up response?

 

[laptopwriter]

I delete personal attacks...

unless they also include some actual critiquing. Most, of course, do not. I do get a kick out of deleting the personal attacks that continue for half a page. I have said many times at the beginning of my stories that negative comments are fine as long as they deal with the story, but if they attack me, personally, I will delete them.

Still, it's inevitable that some jackass takes half a page to tell me what a piece of crap I am. I think how long it took him to organize his thoughts and put them down. And to think...I can delete all his hard word with flick of my finger! Ah yes...technology, I love it.

 

[FantasyXY]

Not all nasty comments are from that person names anonymous. I've gotten plenty of nasty comments from readers that post using their Lit name. I actually find the nasty comments entertaining, so I let them stay posted. I've also gotten a fair number of comments that are commenting on the comments instead of the story.

One thing I have done in a few of my stories is wait for some number of comments to build up, then add a comment of my own called Author's Notes. I generally tell readers what I had in mind when I wrote the story. This comment is always under my name, FantasyXY.

The thing I have noticed is that after I post my author's notes is the number of nasty comments decreases dramatically. It seems that many of the people leaving anonymous comments are returning over and over, looking for some sort of acknowledgement for their comment, or possibly just want someone to notice that they read the story. Having the author put out some kind of acknowledgement seems to help.

I've said it before and I'll say it again; The Lit story comments seem to have become some sort of book club for perverts.

Whenever I think about this "book club"... I always imagine a bunch of overweight men sitting in a room in their tighty whities, having tea and cookies, and hurling insults at each other for not "getting" what was meant in some story, all while they call each other fucktard, douchbag, pussy weasle, shit head, and ass hat.

That thought always makes me laugh!!

 

[Vanadorn]

Whether deleting comments or not, I don't understand the concept of "You don't like my shit, don't read it."

How can people figure out they don't like what an author writes if they don't read it first?

If it's a stand a lone story I can understand that some people would plow through to the end to try and find something to like and I can understand just putting it aside and moving on to something else (I am generally the latter, but not always). However, in my case, my stories are typically multi-part chapters and I usually state how long it will be in the beginning. So if you are reading something clearly marked "XXX story - Chapter 3" then you have most likely looked at the earlier chapter and don't like it.

Hence, don't read it.

Writers have a voice that often sounds the same throughout their stories - so if say I don't like Harddaysknight's tales in the past, I might not like his new one and should scan it and then decide if I want to keep reading. Not devour it, get sick, and then leave him a scathing feedback about how he's a cuck-sucking fuckface with no writing skills what so ever. By the way - None of that is true at all and I was making a point.

Sometimes the mob mentality kicks in and the safety of behind the computer screen gives them the freedom to say what their lizard brain mutters.

Arguing on the internet with the mob is like yelling into a metal fan - briefly entertaining, I get a lot of annoying feedback, and at the end of it I end up with spit on my face.

-V

 

[patdown]

I'll be in the minority. I don't allow comments. Yes everybody has their right to their opinion, even me in this case. I'm not denying anyone their right to like or dislike what they read, I don't want to get into a public debate about what I've written with some anonymous being in cyberspace. I wrote it, I can't customize it so it is universally appealing to everyone.

It's one thing to be critical of the style, or to point out bad grammar or storylines or something that doesn't make sense. But that's not the criticism that anonymous posters submit. When they don't like that characters are tall or heavy or blonde or dominant it's not my fault they only get off on certain things. If someone really wanted to point out how I could do better and make suggestions I would listen and maybe even respond.

I got email replies to my last batch that reinforce this. One anonymous asshole said he could tell from the first sentence that I was a man writing as a woman and he didn't read those stories. Hey, bullshit when it starts out My boyfriend and I went someplace...... the psychic knows how women write? The other turd talker doesn't read stories that start out, This is a follow up to a previous story, he always stops there and gives them a 1 star. Boy there's a narrow minded little twerp for you.

It's not my responsibility to give these knuckle draggers a public forum to prove how ignorant, biased and probably untalented they are. I used to challenge people like this to put their ID on there so I can check what quality writing they do so I can learn but you know they couldn't create a caption for a cartoon much less a story. But the fact that these idiots would go through all the steps to contact me via email to me is just proof that they are way too caught up in thinking their opinion is of more value than someone else's and I'm going to change anything because my stories don't fit into the little world of some anonymous dickhead.


I find the 'Recent Activity' to be more reflective of how I'm doing as I submit various stories. The number of people who favorite a story or add me to their author's list is 20fold over over the mindless complaints.