What to do?

[eager_master]

I have a sub that is in a different part of the state the I am in. She is homeless, living in her car, after her last dom got her pregnant and kicked her out without a penny to her name. She needs money to get to me, and had recently lost her prepaid card that she had money. I am wonder, with her being pregnant and the heat of summer (I am very concerned about her baby) whether I should not hold her responsible for this (after all, pregnancy can cause forgetfulness) or whether I should use this as a lesson that cards have the value of money? What would you do?

 

[Bramblethorn]

Perhaps I'm too much of a fluffy-bunny dom, but: if somebody I cared about was homeless, pregnant, and broke - be it a friend or a playmate - I would not be looking to use it as a teachable moment. Somebody in that situation probably already understands the value of money all too well; losing a prepaid card is more likely to be pregnancy and stress than carelessness.

From looking at your posting history it sounds as if you've only been involved with her a couple of months and much or all of that has been online. If you haven't confirmed already, you may want to check that she's genuine and not a scammer trying to milk you with a hard-luck story.

 

[damselfly_]

I have a sub that is in a different part of the state the I am in. She is homeless, living in her car, after her last dom got her pregnant and kicked her out without a penny to her name. She needs money to get to me, and had recently lost her prepaid card that she had money. I am wonder, with her being pregnant and the heat of summer (I am very concerned about her baby) whether I should not hold her responsible for this (after all, pregnancy can cause forgetfulness) or whether I should use this as a lesson that cards have the value of money? What would you do?

Um...yeah. This is not the time for a "teachable moment". She's homeless and pregnant. You are aware that stress can negatively impact a pregnancy? It could be possible that someone stole it.

Bramblethorn has a great point though, and I think it's worth repeating. Are you certain this woman isn't scamming you? Have you met, in person? Can you verify what she is telling you about her situation? How long have you been involved?

 

[Primalex]

She needs money to get to me

What's wrong with your car?

 

[eager_master]

From looking at your posting history it sounds as if you've only been involved with her a couple of months and much or all of that has been online. If you haven't confirmed already, you may want to check that she's genuine and not a scammer trying to milk you with a hard-luck story.

It has not all been online. We have talked on the phone, texted and immed each other. She seems to litarally have nothing. Her only cards are green dot cards, that you reload. The problem is that some of the other cards are in her ex-roommates boyfriends name, or her ex roommate. However, she is not living luxury, her cell phone does not have a camera.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Sounds like she is already waist deep in all sorts of life lessons, so I'm not sure I agree that it is even possible to take the teaching out of it, and you are looking to add more strain to it why?

You are willing to help or you are not. That is of course up to you. We all need a little help sometimes and yes sometimes people take advantage of generous humans... But when innocent children are involved I tend to give the benefit of the doubt.

OR maybe find the middle ground of what you can afford to give and help with while still protecting your own interests just in case none of it is true. Sounds like it would be worth the gas money to go to her to check it out if you feel you don't have enough information from a distance. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Loverskitten]

...her cell phone does not have a camera.

Ha, how convenient. Dude I have a bridge to sell you.

 

[Endless_Night]

Dude, seriously? She's pregnant, homeless, and destitute, this hardly seems the appropriate time to teach her a lesson.

If you don't want to help her, don't help, but don't chastise her when she's already down and her self esteem is probably on the floor. If your goal is to ease her current dilemma, and you don't want to, or can't send money, work out another way to help.

 

[CutieMouse]

Or... she's not pregnant, not homeless, not destitute, and hasn't lost any prepaid cards, but IS thankful to have found someone gullible enough to believe the story.
























(Yes, I may end up in hell for thinking this is a new version of the "I'm stranded in the Philippines and need a wealthy American man to rescue me" scam. )

 

[Stella_Omega]

What's wrong with your car?

I'm with Primalex on this one.

I am also with those who have voiced concerns about her bona-fides, and I am also with those who worry for her safety right this minute.

And the way to answer both of these concerns at the same time-- is to go get her yourself. Or not, as the case may be.

 

[Endless_Night]

What's wrong with your car?

I'm with Primalex on this one.

I am also with those who have voiced concerns about her bona-fides, and I am also with those who worry for her safety right this minute.

And the way to answer both of these concerns at the same time-- is to go get her yourself. Or not, as the case may be.

There you go, problem solved.

 

[DarkSteven]

Or... she's not pregnant, not homeless, not destitute, and hasn't lost any prepaid cards, but IS thankful to have found someone gullible enough to believe the story.


(Yes, I may end up in hell for thinking this is a new version of the "I'm stranded in the Philippines and need a wealthy American man to rescue me" scam. )

You win this one. It's a scam.

 

[Loverskitten]

You win this one. It's a scam.

Shhhhh, I've still got this bridge to unload, and it's pregnant with a little covered bridge.

Seriously, I find stories of people who send money to complete strangers, fascinating. Please keep us updated.

 

[subwannabe]

How desperate are you to have this sub? Do you know what it is like to be in quicksand? I'd set my sights a little higher but that's just me. You're just asking for trouble.

 

[Primalex]

Seriously, I find stories of people who send money to complete strangers, fascinating.

Really? I do this all the time.

 

[eastern sun]

Really? I do this all the time.

It's true. I do too.

 

[StrayKat]

Do you consider Amazon and ZooPlus complete strangers?

 

[midwestyankee]

Is she from Nigeria? I hear that there is an impressively large coterie of members of the royal family there who have recently fallen on hard times. I'm just betting the odds here.

 

[LadiLucki7]

Is she from Nigeria? I hear that there is an impressively large coterie of members of the royal family there who have recently fallen on hard times. I'm just betting the odds here.

Lol this made me chuckle lol they email me all the time trying to get some funds

 

[midwestyankee]

Lol this made me chuckle lol they email me all the time trying to get some funds

They are a persistent lot, if not particularly literate.

 

[Bramblethorn]

They are a persistent lot, if not particularly literate.

I suspect the reason the 419 email spammers are so clumsy is that the smarter ones are busy with more lucrative cons. It's easy to laugh off the guys who keep emailing me offering a share of their lottery winnings, but there are some really sophisticated "spear phishing" scams aimed at high-value targets, run by people who do serious amounts of background research on their targets and know how to make the hook convincing.

 

[Loverskitten]

It's true. I do too.

Yeah, I'm guilty too, eBay. But at least I GET something out of it.

 

[subwannabe]

I've heard that those email scams from "Nigeria" with bad grammar, etc are done on purpose. First, you're supposed to believe that these people have English as a second language and that you really want to rip these third world countries off. Second, they know they're not going to usually con the more sophisticated crowd so they are actually aiming at the unsophisticated crowd and I guess they've figured out that being unsophisticated apparently works on the idiots.

 

[unregistered]

 

[DVS]

Shhhhh, I've still got this bridge to unload, and it's pregnant with a little covered bridge.

Seriously, I find stories of people who send money to complete strangers, fascinating. Please keep us updated.

Let me guess. This bridge is also homeless, meaning it has no river to sit across?