Giving up a life of unlimited sex for love.

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Not sure if this is the right section but here goes. After my divorce my life at times was like a porn movie: fucking and sucking choking anal 3 somes gangbang and son on. Finally got tired of living a life of unfulfilled sex. Meaning the sex was fun but when it was over my next thought would be how do I get out of here or at times how do I get her out of here.

Then I met someone that I am madly I love with but the catch is we don't have as much sex as I am used to and BJ's well let's just say I am lucky to get one. In the right mood she is wild does like anal and open to getting fucked just the rest of the stuff not so much.

So I chose love over fantastic sex.

Others have done this? Regrets? Sex from the past is the only thing I miss all the other shit is great.
 
gee I,m going through the same thing,,,,word for word,,,my girlfriend now will only have sex,,no forplay or even touching my dick
 
OK I never had that wild un-attached stuff you've had. But this I know: the sex we have as a committed couple never, never leaves me afterwards with the kind of feeling of 'get me out of here' you describe. Rather the opposite: the sheer pleasure and passion and union of one tryst sets off a deep satisfaction in each of us which is part of what sparks the next time we come together. And, ok, we will sometimes have a quicky that's purely for me, or she'll have the hots and I'm tired but I manage to give it to her, but mostly, even after all these years, it's fucking fab!

So, how about you go for love with sex which, yes, has some limits but holds the potential for unlimited joy.
 
A relationship without passion is just as pointless as a relationship without love. Both with leave you unfulfilled
 
OK I never had that wild un-attached stuff you've had. But this I know: the sex we have as a committed couple never, never leaves me afterwards with the kind of feeling of 'get me out of here' you describe. Rather the opposite: the sheer pleasure and passion and union of one tryst sets off a deep satisfaction in each of us which is part of what sparks the next time we come together. And, ok, we will sometimes have a quicky that's purely for me, or she'll have the hots and I'm tired but I manage to give it to her, but mostly, even after all these years, it's fucking fab!

So, how about you go for love with sex which, yes, has some limits but holds the potential for unlimited joy.

Well said !:rose:
 
Before you give up on your sex life, why don't you have a talk with your SO about how you feel about the amount and type of sex you're having. Unless you've already had the discussion and she isn't interested.
 
Women are the gatekeepers of sex; men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Think about what will make you happy before you commit - it's your prize that the right woman for you must earn.
 
Not sure if this is the right section but here goes. After my divorce my life at times was like a porn movie: fucking and sucking choking anal 3 somes gangbang and son on. Finally got tired of living a life of unfulfilled sex. Meaning the sex was fun but when it was over my next thought would be how do I get out of here or at times how do I get her out of here.

Then I met someone that I am madly I love with but the catch is we don't have as much sex as I am used to and BJ's well let's just say I am lucky to get one. In the right mood she is wild does like anal and open to getting fucked just the rest of the stuff not so much.

So I chose love over fantastic sex.

Others have done this? Regrets? Sex from the past is the only thing I miss all the other shit is great.


Don't fucking do it! Tomorrow will be twenty-two years of less and less sex until and then divorce. Not enough sex is a symptom and a warning sign.

Don't fucking do it!
 
A relationship without passion is just as pointless as a relationship without love. Both with leave you unfulfilled
Women are the gatekeepers of sex; men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Think about what will make you happy before you commit - it's your prize that the right woman for you must earn.
Don't fucking do it! Tomorrow will be twenty-two years of less and less sex until and then divorce. Not enough sex is a symptom and a warning sign.

Right! Successful sexless and low-sex relationships are certainly possible -- IFF (that's If And Only If) both/all parties are on the same page. If one wants sex but not the other(s), expect misery.
 
Maybe you are the lucky one in a million

If she is like my soon to be second ex, the sex will start out great and leave you breathless but as time goes on she will become bitter, hateful, controlling and jealous over nothing but in her mind she is perfect and deserves your undying respect and admiration.

Enjoy it while it lasts.
 
livesforthebj...
Listen to simon... I'm telling you. ... worth its weight in gold what he says.
And, for god's sake, talk to her. Ask some questions. Get shit out in the open... Deception never works. plus... it's a two-way street... if you get my drift.
 
Personally...

I've neither to give up for the other... to answer the thread topic. :rolleyes:
 
***Update***
I talked to her and all I can say wow! She went from gf sex to porno sex. Me Likey! She even deep throated me.

Thanks for all the replies suggestions and advice. Oh and suganurse. Wow you are a knock out.
 
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Is she doing the new performance for you or did the conversation unveil her true sexuality?

I ask because, if she's just engaging in "porno" sex for you, it will end and end with a fair amount of resentment on her part.

If she was just shy before and holding in her true sexual nature and the conversation allowed her to feel comfortable with her deep desires, then congratulations to the both of you.
 
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