Does anyone here have a hard time getting laid?

How about not whining and getting some game? Women, and men, like people who like themselves. Get yourselves into a position where you like yourself. Ask yourself whether you'd fuck you and why and if the true answer is no, work on the changing it.

In answer to the question, no I don't usually have a problem if I want sex.
 
I've got everyone "beat" so to speak. I'll be twenty-one next month, and I've never been kissed nor had a girlfriend. Ladies aren't interested in me, and I always got rejected before I finally gave up.

So, yes, I would say I definitely have a hard time.

I love how everyone thinks they are the world’s oldest virgin. Dude, I was 26 when I first got laid, and that was a prostitute in Germany. My advice: Pay for it. Get it out of your system. It’s not so special that you need to save to for “the right girl” and once it’s done, other women will no longer smell the insecurity in your attitude.
 
The best way to get laid is to be a boring old married couple but treat your wife like a hot slut you just meet at a party.
 
Tremendous troubles getting any action.

It's been four long years. :(

Like somebody further up said, I don't really put myself out there much, but, nobody really looks at me sexually and I've pretty much gotten used to just... taking care of myself.
 
Tremendous troubles getting any action.

It's been four long years. :(

Like somebody further up said, I don't really put myself out there much, but, nobody really looks at me sexually and I've pretty much gotten used to just... taking care of myself.

I've been checking out your pics... http://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=1424926&d=1395927275 I would LOVE to have a chance to break that streak of yours, hehe. I can think of a least one person who is looking at you quite sexually ;)
 
I love how everyone thinks they are the world’s oldest virgin. Dude, I was 26 when I first got laid, and that was a prostitute in Germany. My advice: Pay for it. Get it out of your system. It’s not so special that you need to save to for “the right girl” and once it’s done, other women will no longer smell the insecurity in your attitude.

I never claimed to think that. I was pointing out that, unlike those who posted prior to me, I've never had any romantic or sexual physical contact with a girl whatsoever. You also seem to assume I'm insecure, which is not the case; I've simply grown bored/tired of asking girls out and being rejected. That makes me a tad strange and lazy, but not insecure.

And as for your little "pro" tip, well, that just doesnt interest me. Despite what you may conclude from my being on this site, the thought of sex and an urge to get laid doesn't control my life; I'm completely fine with being a virgin until the day I die, should that be the case.
 
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"Laid" is not too difficult and lately I simply let it pass by. "Love" is what I seek... with TONS of monogamous "getting laid". :)

For me, before the "Love" I hadn't a clue how to get laid, and didn't. With the Love has come the TONS. 37 years of it, quality and quantity.

But it's more than the love of course. There's all the nurturing of self-worth as well as the Other's worth: practically, romantically, and dare I say it spiritually. The loving and the practical cherishing are the back-cloth to the frequent great lays, in our case. That's just me / us. I'm not saying there aren't other routes to the same joys. I delight to read of those other routes on lit, and admire them.

ooo deep! shut up now Simon!
 
How about not whining and getting some game? Women, and men, like people who like themselves. Get yourselves into a position where you like yourself. Ask yourself whether you'd fuck you and why and if the true answer is no, work on the changing it.

In answer to the question, no I don't usually have a problem if I want sex.

I would definitely fuck me. :)
 
How about not whining and getting some game? Women, and men, like people who like themselves. Get yourselves into a position where you like yourself. Ask yourself whether you'd fuck you and why and if the true answer is no, work on the changing it.

In answer to the question, no I don't usually have a problem if I want sex.

if only it was that easy
 
Tremendous troubles getting any action.

It's been four long years. :(

Like somebody further up said, I don't really put myself out there much, but, nobody really looks at me sexually and I've pretty much gotten used to just... taking care of myself.




like i'm looking in a mirror
 
It's strange really but up until my mid twenties women wouldn't give me the time of day regardless of whatever I tried to do. Save for producing large quantities of cash or begging I tried everything I could reasonably think of. Then it all changed and frankly I have no idea why.

The last few years especially have seen me get up to things I'd never imagined were possible. I've even been turning down opportunities, horror of horrors! One thing I could never do is random hook ups, one night stands. I need a connection first.

strange.

my mid twenties came and went, and nothing changed.
 
That's so sad. Guys, you have to get some game going. And it's not a bad thing, it's just basic psychology!
 
I've never felt as if I couldn't get laid if I made it a goal. I mean, I'm pretty confident that I could go to a bar right this moment and find a gentleman who would be a willing partner.
 
Yes but you're a chick. We have it easy!

I used to like meeting people online. That way I could chat with them and figure out whether or not they are psychopaths before meeting in person.
 
strange.

my mid twenties came and went, and nothing changed.

I doubt my situation is a template for all men :p depends on the individual, opportunity and situation. Beside I'd gladly trade my experiences for one truly deep and meaningful connection.
 
I'd say no, it's pretty easy with fairly little effort really. However, as I'm tired of dumb drunken college girls, crazies, and meaningless sex in general I have abstained for a while. I could make a call right now, but I'd rather not.
 
Not so much a hard time getting laid as a hard time getting interested in the idea. Sex for the sake of it is too much trouble while I still have arms, and people I'd want to be involved with are pretty thin on the ground.
 
Getting laid hasn't been an issue for me, but I've always been a talker. I think most of it is trying to make sure that women feel comfortable and at ease around you. If you act anxious that will come across as insecurity and be a huge turn-off. And at the end of the day, it's not about the sex, but about whether you found someone worth wooing for the rest of your life, because until then you're just wasting time and energy on memories with people you won't care about later.
 
I'm guessing there is a big diff between guys and girls answers to this question.
 
I'm guessing there is a big diff between guys and girls answers to this question.

Yeah that too. Obviously my previous post is from the male perspective..... As I have no other perspectives from which to write.
 
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