Race Play/Talking Dirty

[JetpackeSodapop]

I need help with ideas for racial dirty talking. I am a white female with a black boyfriend who has suggested a few time before that he likes when I call him 'nigger' and things of that nature. The only issue is I have no experience with this type of dirty talking, and I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of some sort that could help me enhance this turn on for him. He wants me to be creative, but... I totally suck at being creative like this. Please, help me.

Ok, I know I'm dumb... posted this in the wrong category. Sorry. Ideas still welcome though if you would be kind enough to provide some.

 

[VivienneLeroux]

Dirty talking of this nature is hard because if you don't know what is okay to say, you might get in the heat of the moment and say something totally out there that really offends the other person for some reason. (Despite them saying they are into this sort of thing).

This is one of those things that you need to feel out and discuss with your partner to find out what limits might be there. Best I can say!

 

[JetpackeSodapop]

Dirty talking of this nature is hard because if you don't know what is okay to say, you might get in the heat of the moment and say something totally out there that really offends the other person for some reason. (Despite them saying they are into this sort of thing).

This is one of those things that you need to feel out and discuss with your partner to find out what limits might be there. Best I can say!

Thank you. I really didn't think anyone would say anything from this category.

I know... I'm still looking for ideas though. I can always run them by him beforehand, but he's not easily offended like that anyway.

 

[twister947]

Talking dirty Is one thing, hate speech something else, entirely. Personally, I wouldn't go there. Be careful...it's a minefield.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I am a white woman with a black Dominant.

Is your relationship D/s? If so is he submissive or dominant? This would make a huge difference on what you would be able to say.

 

[huelust]

Dirty talking of this nature is hard because if you don't know what is okay to say, you might get in the heat of the moment and say something totally out there that really offends the other person for some reason. (Despite them saying they are into this sort of thing).

This is one of those things that you need to feel out and discuss with your partner to find out what limits might be there. Best I can say!

I agree with Vivienne. You really need to discuss with your partner what his personal boundaries are. While I have a taste for humiliation, I draw the line at any racial slurs. Everyone is different and really it's part of your partner's responsibility to be honest about things that may trigger a negative reaction. It's easy to cross the line if you are not sure where it is. Good for you for asking! It seems like you want to please him, but at the same time want to be sensitive to him. Even though he doesn't seem easily offended, people are odd and very random and you just never know what might trigger them. Best to you.

 

[Netzach]

Give the guy some credit also, he may be completely at-peace with his reasons and his kinks - and the problem might be yours. It's ok to have a problem. It's great to talk about the issue. I believe in communication about this, not setting a personal "policy" - who, why, what, where - all that is worth discussing.

 

[JetpackeSodapop]

I am a white woman with a black Dominant.

Is your relationship D/s? If so is he submissive or dominant? This would make a huge difference on what you would be able to say.

Aw, then you may be able to help me a lot. It is a D/s relationship. He is Dominant, and I am submissive. And I'm not trying be out of line with him, I'm just seeking more creativity for this. I do understand the boundaries and whatnot and would talk it over with him no matter what- with his permission.

He had to actually get me comfortable with racial slurs regarding him because it left me particularly... surprised that he said he'd liked that from his 'white bitch'. So in order to please him, I seek to enhance this for him as I've stated. It also made me uncomfortable at first because I did come from a 'community' and family so-to-speak of... racial supremacists. And I remember the transition of thinking their behavior and viewpoints were positive, to where I began to view them negative, and started having my own individual thoughts on the matter of race. I have nothing but respect and love for my Master, and that he is colored just excites the hell out of me. But calling him 'nigger' and things of that nature, well shit, I capitalize 'nigger' when I say it to him through text. I can get over the feelings of viewing him through the eyes I once looked through, because I am not about to disrespect him or our relationship with that mindset. So instead, I see it as turning him on whatever his reasons may be for it.


So more to the point of quoting you, do you have any ideas I could utilize?

 

[JetpackeSodapop]

Talking dirty Is one thing, hate speech something else, entirely. Personally, I wouldn't go there. Be careful...it's a minefield.

Is that a penis head as your picture?

 

[JetpackeSodapop]

Give the guy some credit also, he may be completely at-peace with his reasons and his kinks - and the problem might be yours. It's ok to have a problem. It's great to talk about the issue. I believe in communication about this, not setting a personal "policy" - who, why, what, where - all that is worth discussing.

I don't have a problem... I just don't know how to be creative in this area of his 'turn-ons'.

 

[JetpackeSodapop]

I agree with Vivienne. You really need to discuss with your partner what his personal boundaries are. While I have a taste for humiliation, I draw the line at any racial slurs. Everyone is different and really it's part of your partner's responsibility to be honest about things that may trigger a negative reaction. It's easy to cross the line if you are not sure where it is. Good for you for asking! It seems like you want to please him, but at the same time want to be sensitive to him. Even though he doesn't seem easily offended, people are odd and very random and you just never know what might trigger them. Best to you.

Well thank you.

 

[Kim_Burly]

One of the two couples we play with are black. Sir and Freddy (the black husband) immediately started using nigger and other racial epithets for Tami, his wife and then Freddy too. I'll admit, I freaked out, but they enjoy it, so I guess it's not my place to question it. I go along with it now and I hate to say it even use the words and get into it . Sir does like to call me a white trash slut, which might offend me, if I were white trash . To me it's hard to say I find your choice of words offensive when I am involved in some serious D/s pain play.

 

[Marquis]

Maybe watch some blaxploitation flicks or read some similar fiction?

 

[Netzach]

I don't have a problem... I just don't know how to be creative in this area of his 'turn-ons'.

Gotcha. I'd ask him for some ideas, since they're his turn-ons also, maybe there's some porn in the flavor he's looking for that you could watch together? Then you can kind of use that as a template.