Sex without Emotion

[Sun Tan Guy]

Someone is going to get hurt if both arent on the same page.. If both are single the risk is probably greater.. If both are married, and you go into it agreeing this is strictly friends with benefits, a little emotion is essential to orgasmic bliss for both.. Im not a one nighter either, but if the two persons dont have the same needs or desires for a longer term friendship.. its going to get complicated.. Frankly the more I think about this, you have to show some emotion but if both know that the emotion is more driven on orgasmic bliss and both are only looking for friends with benefits.. I think its managable..

 

[NotHisLady]

I sort of equate it to Hamlet's soliloquy.
I can hear it spoken in a monotone and it will be unmoving--pretty dreadful really.
On the other hand I can see it performed brilliantly with passion and emotion. Then it has meaning, it transcends the mere words and becomes so much more.

I don't want "the mere words" I want the passion and emotion that touches more than my just my body. I want more than an anatomy lesson. I want a dance.
Why should I settle for less?

 

[Thandi]

I sort of equate it to Hamlet's soliloquy.
I can hear it spoken in a monotone and it will be unmoving--pretty dreadful really.
On the other hand I can see it performed brilliantly with passion and emotion. Then it has meaning, it transcends the mere words and becomes so much more.

I don't want "the mere words" I want the passion and emotion that touches more than my just my body. I want more than an anatomy lesson. I want a dance.
Why should I settle for less?

Beautifully stated!

 

[Offler]

Offler, care to share what changed your view?

I have the perfect lover (for me). She and I made love last night for seven hours straight, in all its glorious complexity and at so many levels of emotions, of intellect and of human physicality. And we shared some jelly beans afterwards!

It was such a rich, complex and glorious experience that even now, on this, the morning after, my spirit is still soaring at stratospheric levels.

We engaged on every possible level, and I am infinitely more alive and a basically more complete man right now for having done so.

I am so alive this morning, and the world is a beautiful place.

(Or would you like more than this, the briefest of précis?)

 

[Offler]

I sort of equate it to Hamlet's soliloquy.
I can hear it spoken in a monotone and it will be unmoving--pretty dreadful really.
On the other hand I can see it performed brilliantly with passion and emotion. Then it has meaning, it transcends the mere words and becomes so much more.

I don't want "the mere words" I want the passion and emotion that touches more than my just my body. I want more than an anatomy lesson. I want a dance.
Why should I settle for less?

Thandi is correct: this is sublime.

 

[Darkmind70]

No. For me sex without emotion is sterile. There has to be emotion behind it.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

There have been some guys that I've been intimate w/ and I had no problems b/c we started out as friends and there was a level of respect and the understanding that we didn't want a relationship w/ each other. There have also been guys that I ended up developing an emotional bond/attachment to b/c they treated me like I was more than just a warm body. They were gentle w/ me and it created confusion for me b/c they were acting like they wanted a relationship. So for me it varies based on the guy.

 

[BlackCashmere]

An emotional connection is essential. I want to know her and feel her physically and emotionally. I want her to share her dreams...her thoughts...feelings. So, you're right, I've never done one night stands. It's not me.

Exactly what he said... to the tee...

Imperative...

 

[badslutmommy]

I thought the poll was about sex without emotional attachment. Now we are talking about "satisfying" sex, or makeing love.
I need emotional attachment on at least a minimal level to make love to someone. But to have sex for the lusts we find? No.

 

[SmileyGirl]

I sort of equate it to Hamlet's soliloquy.
I can hear it spoken in a monotone and it will be unmoving--pretty dreadful really.
On the other hand I can see it performed brilliantly with passion and emotion. Then it has meaning, it transcends the mere words and becomes so much more.

I don't want "the mere words" I want the passion and emotion that touches more than my just my body. I want more than an anatomy lesson. I want a dance.
Why should I settle for less?

This is so beautifully put. I <3 this

 

[munch2much]

Well this is a very interesting subject. I had to ponder on it.

I can have great sex without emotion... i have done it with ladies i have never met before and for the most part I was happy as larry.
But a connection of some kind is needed. I certainly couldn't have good sex with someone who annoyed me.
I once had sex with someone just because i could - no other reason - and i didn't feel good about it.
But there is no denying that sex with emotion is preferable.

I happened to read this earlier today...
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/...tion_n_3541593.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000009

 

[smotherman]

Sex is more passionate when you have feelings, for me having an emotional connection is a must..

 

[InsatiableDsire]

I sort of equate it to Hamlet's soliloquy.
I can hear it spoken in a monotone and it will be unmoving--pretty dreadful really.
On the other hand I can see it performed brilliantly with passion and emotion. Then it has meaning, it transcends the mere words and becomes so much more.

I don't want "the mere words" I want the passion and emotion that touches more than my just my body. I want more than an anatomy lesson. I want a dance.
Why should I settle for less?

Incredibly well-said and a sentiment I share.

Men and women are split pretty evenly in the poll.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I can't have sex without some emotional attachment. I need to feel wanted and desired and connected on more then just a physical level. I just think its better when you can connect mentally and enjoy the passion that comes from that. Without the passion, I might as well just use my toy.

 

[NeonKnickers]

All sex involves emotion. Which emotions, well, that's a loaded question.

I have rarely branched out of responsible (was it though, really?), meaningful, monogamous sexual relations. Good girl sex. At this point in my life, I'd welcome the mindset of a reckless, guarded and no-strings-attached, maneating, free spirit, however, I'd feel fraudulent and likely resort to a solitary life of living with a plethora or cats or budgies.

 

[SassySheDevil]

All sex involves emotion. Which emotions, well, that's a loaded question.

I have rarely branched out of responsible (was it though, really?), meaningful, monogamous sexual relations. Good girl sex. At this point in my life, I'd welcome the mindset of a reckless, guarded and no-strings-attached, maneating, free spirit, however, I'd feel fraudulent and likely resort to a solitary life of living with a plethora or cats or budgies.

haha this made me giggle.

 

[bluestate]

In general, I can't have sex without a loving feeling for someone, however I have been able to create such a feeling to people I have either known for a while or been very attracted to. I have been able to open up and see lovely things about them and feel the love, which makes the sex so much better. In a way it's a "love fantasy" if that means anything.

 

[oWEDNESDAYo]

From a virgin stand point I have no freaking clue lol

 

[alt_ego]

I've never had sex without emotion, but more often than not, the emotion is a deep friendship. If this were redefined as romantic entanglement, sure, I can have sex without that. But I can honestly say that I've never had sex with someone I didn't like.

 

[BongoGal]

Can you have sex without emotional involvement? I know I can because I have. I've also had sex with emotional involvement. Both can be good or not so good. As long as both partners are on the same page in that regard, the sex should be fine. Some of my best sexual experiences have been without any serious emotional involvement. I mean, I've only had sex with people I've liked to some degree, but some I've had sex with simply because we both wanted orgasms, not because we wanted to become a couple. I've had great sex with some people who I knew I'd never see again after it was over. I certainly didn't feel as if they had been a hollow experiences. In fact, they were quite fulfilling in the sense that they fulfilled whatever I was looking for at the time (and that was usually a desired to be fully filled by something I wasn't holding in my right hand). I've had friends with benefits relationships that were a blast for us both while they lasted. There was great sex, but it never ended with lovey-dovey cuddling afterward, just a sense of "Phew. That was fun."

 

[BreezySnow]

The more I read this the more I shake my head. I keep hearing FWB or someone I just had an attraction to. People, those are emotions!!! If you are having sex with a friend, they are a friend because you are emotionally tied to them, if you are attracted to them then that is an emotion also. We can't do thinks without some kind of feeling and therefore an emotion! So, can people have sex without emotion, hell no!!! Can they have sex with someone just for the fun of having sex? YES!!! But there will still be an emotion involved, it may not be a "let's have a relationship" type of emotion, but it will be something. Think about it, have you ever really done anything without liking or even disliking it?? Hence, an emotion!

 

[ElijaRDC]

In the past (back in my early 20's), I could have enjoyable sex with a guy without feeling anything for him emotionally. Now, absolutely not. If I don't have feelings for the person, I have ZERO interest in sex with them.

 

[periastron23]

I just can't imagine sex without an emotional connection. Just that and I won't justify it, it just is

 

[Treasured]

I just can't imagine sex without an emotional connection. Just that and I won't justify it, it just is

I agree. Maybe as we grow older we look at it different.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I can't have sex without some emotional attachment. I need to feel wanted and desired and connected on more then just a physical level. I just think its better when you can connect mentally and enjoy the passion that comes from that. Without the passion, I might as well just use my toy.

This pretty much sums up my take on it. I can have relatively satisfying sex with myself.. No need to put myself out there like that. I like to say "I've tried, but can not break my moral compass."
The only reason I can think of for this would be how was raised. And, with that, I can say, I have never had a one night stand.
Funny thing is, I kinda admire those who can. It's probably a lot of fun on some level.