Could someone explain this to me please?

[Beck31]

Time to time I read the personal ads. Mainly b/c there is nothing to between private mail. More often than naught the person who placed the ad says they are happily married. This gives me pause and begs to ask the question. Why then post an ad or even be at Lit at all? Keep in mind I'm not judging. Far from it. Really just wondering.

 

[frostyghost09]

Time to time I read the personal ads. Mainly b/c there is nothing to between private mail. More often than naught the person who placed the ad says they are happily married. This gives me pause and begs to ask the question. Why then post an ad or even be at Lit at all? Keep in mind I'm not judging. Far from it. Really just wondering.

Curious about this....Wondered the same thing myself. No judgments here either!

 

[CeasarBoobage]

Just because they are happily married doesn't mean everything is exactly the way they would like.

This 'joke' has so much truth to it:

Did you hear scientists found a new food that decreases a woman's sex drive by 95%? It's called a Wedding Cake.

I know many many people this applies to, and other than not having sex they truly do have a happy marriage.

I think that married people who post in the personals are mainly trying to scratch an itch, whether it's sex or just flirting.

 

[LadyVer]

Life is hard. People are weird.

 

[Kalamain]

I am one of those people...Happily married, but not getting sex.

If you remove the sex issue from our relationship we are the golden couple... We go out, we talk we cook and have friends over. All of it.

Its just that my wife has zero sex drive since she had our daughter 15 years ago and now I want to scratch that itch every now and then.

I read a quote years ago that I will never forget...
"Sex is like Oxygen. Neither of them matters unless you're not getting any"

This is very true for me.

 

[citcatlass]

Me too

I'm also someone who is happily married in every area but the bedroom. We have sex often enough that we're 'normal' (once or twice a week) and it's great when it happens but it doesn't happen often enough for me. We have an imbalance in our sex drives which we have tried to sort out, to no great success. But we have the same interests, we're very loving towards one another, and we make each other laugh... call me a cheat and a hypocrite and greedy and you would be right on all counts....

 

[nakedworld]

I am one of those people...Happily married, but not getting sex.

If you remove the sex issue from our relationship we are the golden couple... We go out, we talk we cook and have friends over. All of it.

Its just that my wife has zero sex drive since she had our daughter 15 years ago and now I want to scratch that itch every now and then.

I read a quote years ago that I will never forget...
"Sex is like Oxygen. Neither of them matters unless you're not getting any"

This is very true for me.

This is pretty much the same reason I'm here. This forum goes some way to satisfying my sexual needs and desires.

 

[Kalamain]

Yeah....I'm glad I decided to come here and 'play' a little.

I do miss that human interaction and this is a good way to have a little fun and satisfy that need.

Everyone on here seems to know and accept that its just fun...Not serious.
I don't think I would go beyond chatting...I don't want to Vid chat or phone chat... I just want a release with other like-minded people.

God, that sounds corny!

 

[SquirtnBrat]

Yeah....I'm glad I decided to come here and 'play' a little.

I do miss that human interaction and this is a good way to have a little fun and satisfy that need.

Everyone on here seems to know and accept that its just fun...Not serious.
I don't think I would go beyond chatting...I don't want to Vid chat or phone chat... I just want a release with other like-minded people.

God, that sounds corny!

I think humans are meant to be social. Some people can be happily married or commited or content, however you want to say it, but still want to feel special. Remember when you were a kid and people would smile at you and say oh he's so cute, he'll be a ladykiller!? It's nice to be have your presence be noted. I think a lot of people get that thru lit ads.

Lit is the only site I've found where people are so respectful. I haven't blocked anyone yet.

 

[Kalamain]

I think humans are meant to be social. Some people can be happily married or commited or content, however you want to say it, but still want to feel special. Remember when you were a kid and people would smile at you and say oh he's so cute, he'll be a ladykiller!? It's nice to be have your presence be noted. I think a lot of people get that thru lit ads.

Lit is the only site I've found where people are so respectful. I haven't blocked anyone yet.

You are right. Oh for sure I want someone to say nice things to me and make me feel good. Who wouldn't?
I feel the need to find out that I can still make someone happy.

I was PMing someone today and admitted that I get a real kick out of the fact that I can help someone get a release just by chatting to them....How much of an ego boost is that?!
And when you have kind of low self esteem it make even more of a difference

 

[KarsynCurious]

I think humans are meant to be social. Some people can be happily married or commited or content, however you want to say it, but still want to feel special. Remember when you were a kid and people would smile at you and say oh he's so cute, he'll be a ladykiller!? It's nice to be have your presence be noted. I think a lot of people get that thru lit ads.

Lit is the only site I've found where people are so respectful. I haven't blocked anyone yet.

Totally agree.

I'm happily married and hubby knows I explore some on Lit. No in-person meet-ups, no other guys; mostly girl flirting and such. This community has been wonderfully receptive.

 

[Jaime_H]

Lit has nothing to do with fidelity.
It is all about self-expression.

 

[freckledvixen]

I only get to really see my man on the weekends, maybe some week nights if I get lucky. That, combined with my insatiable sex drive brings me to lit. It gives me the release I need and I have fun here Plus, the man knows about it, and enjoys the benefits

 

[Jaime_H]

Lit is a great way to safely express ones sexual needs - I guess that's why we are on an erotic forum.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

I can relate. I was unhappily married due to his disinterest in sex, his selfishness, and overall unwillingness to work together to achieve happiness. There was a gaping whole and there was no communication, no intimacy, no respect, or appreciation.

Filing for divorce was my gift to myself, and I'll be damned if I ever get involved w/ a guy who complains about sex, behaves like a spoiled brat, and who acts like the world should revolve around him.

 

[UpwardSpiral]

Just because someone is married, even happily married, doesn't mean they are fulfilled on all levels. And I am sure the motivations vary, and the married personals posters might not even be honest with themselves as to why they are doing it. So the explanations you seek will be highly individual, although with a few common themes here and there.

And same here as many of you, no judgments.

 

[LynetteLovett]

Time to time I read the personal ads. Mainly b/c there is nothing to between private mail. More often than naught the person who placed the ad says they are happily married. This gives me pause and begs to ask the question. Why then post an ad or even be at Lit at all? Keep in mind I'm not judging. Far from it. Really just wondering.

I think people are happy but curios. Or happy and just want somewhere to go where they can just be whatever or whoever they want to be