Crimes of Passion

[HOW_DUMB_R_U]

Speaking of false accusations and mud slinging..

I can give him time to catch up or I can write off someone else to play with.

But I'm not starting all over. I do have some work to do and the trash to get out on time.

You're talking to yourself again.

So not only are you a kiddie fiddler you are wacko which may mitigate your crime. NOT!!!

Do you have children? Are they safe?

 

[PaulCummings]

Child molesters rarely stop at one child. I wonder how many children she hit up for sex. Recidiva has been married numerous times. Methinks her husbands became aware and dumped her criminal ass. Recidiva admits to being a gamer. Great place to meet victims. Recidiva is a predator.

 

[Squibbs]

Child molesters rarely stop at one child. I wonder how many children she hit up for sex. Recidiva has been married numerous times. Methinks her husbands became aware and dumped her criminal ass. Recidiva admits to being a gamer. Great place to meet victims. Recidiva is a predator.

You can't call someone else a predator with that username.

 

[Noor]

You can't call someone else a predator with that username.

He can but it would be a hypocritical.

 

[MsFilippovna]

shitty thread.

 

[girlsmiley]

Is there anything I could say to anybody to make myself seem like a better person

Not really, no.

This is happening in real time for you guys, it is extraordinarily old news to me.

So we shouldn't care, right? So it's all good then, right?

Why are you such a moron?

Remorse for...doing stuff I didn't do that is criminal

Hang on a minute. You were cyberfucking a kid. And then you met him. And then you hugged him.

You should have been thrown in jail.


People should know about you.

...with the upright citizens that have done no wrong

You are a joke.

 

[girlsmiley]

If you had learned those lessons 20 years ago, I don't believe you would or could have written about what happened the way you did. You were flippant and almost grandstanding when you told your story. "Oh. Yeah, I thought I hadn't. Carnal involvement with a minor, I imagine, in my case."

I think you still don't get it.

She's fucked in the head.

 

[evesdream]

This is a spot on summary.

I don't understand the rationalizations being made or how people can reconcile two completely contrary statements made by the same person, "it was a crime" and "i did nothing wrong or illegal".

Nor do I understand the reasoning, "He was a 14 year old boy who'd been doing it for years so therefore this showed that he was healthy and well-adjusted and therefore I was only doing him a favor by perpetuating and engaging in that behavior with him."

And I find most disappointing - and disturbing - the people who defend the behavior. The ones who say, "How can we judge, we're on a porn board!" Or the ones that say, "Well it happened 20 years ago."

You know, people make mistakes. They definitely do. And if the confession made had been followed with, "I made a huge mistake and it was completely unjustified and at the time I just didn't consider what my actions might potentially do to this child. And while I hope he didn't get hurt I realise I could have hurt him and I will never do it again," as opposed to "I actually did him some good and he was totally not your average 14 year old" I don't think there'd have been this much of a backlash. Because people make mistakes and you can't go back in time to undo them.

But what's been displayed has not been that, I think what's been displayed is an utter and total lack of regret and seems to indicate that, were she placed in the exact same situation again, she'd just do it again.

And that people think that is OK is awful.

I think we can all agree that it's not okay for adults to cyber with children, but it was okay when Recidiva did it. Because rehabilitation.

How many adults who cyber with kids have the integrity to meet the earnest and sincere teen in person, behind the child's parent's back in order seal their ... break up and explain adult rules? Fooling around with the kid at THAT point was of course not confusing at all, because the boy who proposed marriage based on online conversations is obviously more mature and level-headed than others his age. There's nothing strange or manipulative about any of this at all.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I think all the righteous people here are closet pedos. That's how it usually shakes out.

The ragheads say: TOSS A ROCK INTO A PACK OF DOGS AND THE ONE THAT GETS HIT IS THE ONE THAT HOWLS.

 

[Recidiva]

I think all the righteous people here are closet pedos. That's how it usually shakes out.

The ragheads say: TOSS A ROCK INTO A PACK OF DOGS AND THE ONE THAT GETS HIT IS THE ONE THAT HOWLS.

I think there's a lot going on. Yeah, there are people that are just vile-minded and that's not a surprise. To me it's like that horror movie where the call is coming from inside the house. It's their own brain manufacturing stuff and throwing it at me. I wouldn't want to live in their brain. It's the embodiment of "resentment is drinking poison and thinking someone else is going to die."

There are others who are making choices according to their own experiences and worries and if someone thinks I'd be/have been someone to harm their child or nephew and they despise me because of that, I can get that. That's not necessarily fair to me, but I'm not their concern, their loved ones are. That's not wrong, that's just thinking I should never, ever bring the subject up and certainly never, ever be flippant about something so serious. That's okay.

I don't necessarily think that exploring the issue on the basis of an anecdote is harmful. It reminds people of terribly harmful things, though, and if they equate the two or conflate the anecdote, it's probably better than genuinely thinking that I groomed a child and had sex with them and that I'm continuing to do it today, and that that's just fine.

It's oddly endearing to see so much concern, and although it might look like I've taken a serious beating in the process, once again appearances are deceiving. It is an important conversation to have, about law, about justice, about appearance, about reality. At the risk of more outrage at being just fine after something apparently horrible happened, I'd probably do it again for the conversation, but I wouldn't do it again because it was against site rules and distressed good-hearted people.

Of course if you throw a rock into a bunch of dogs, one of them is going to howl. Rocks hurt. That's a dumb saying.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I think there's a lot going on. Yeah, there are people that are just vile-minded and that's not a surprise. To me it's like that horror movie where the call is coming from inside the house. It's their own brain manufacturing stuff and throwing it at me. I wouldn't want to live in their brain. It's the embodiment of "resentment is drinking poison and thinking someone else is going to die."

There are others who are making choices according to their own experiences and worries and if someone thinks I'd be/have been someone to harm their child or nephew and they despise me because of that, I can get that. That's not necessarily fair to me, but I'm not their concern, their loved ones are. That's not wrong, that's just thinking I should never, ever bring the subject up and certainly never, ever be flippant about something so serious. That's okay.

I don't necessarily think that exploring the issue on the basis of an anecdote is harmful. It reminds people of terribly harmful things, though, and if they equate the two or conflate the anecdote, it's probably better than genuinely thinking that I groomed a child and had sex with them and that I'm continuing to do it today, and that that's just fine.

It's oddly endearing to see so much concern, and although it might look like I've taken a serious beating in the process, once again appearances are deceiving. It is an important conversation to have, about law, about justice, about appearance, about reality. At the risk of more outrage at being just fine after something apparently horrible happened, I'd probably do it again for the conversation, but I wouldn't do it again because it was against site rules and distressed good-hearted people.

Of course if you throw a rock into a bunch of dogs, one of them is going to howl. Rocks hurt. That's a dumb saying.

Your thinking is where mine was 40 years ago.

However they wanna rationalize it, your anecdote gives them a guilt-free lynching (they think). I mean, we're not discussing the merits or wisdom of cultivating young friends, we're slapping you around, and I don't like it.

 

[dolf]

a bump to the top of page one, after 9 hours of the thread being ignored. manna, it seems.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I refused to go to my mothers funeral. And I paid dearly for it. In hindsight my action made my subsequent years difficult, because I offended everyone. What I did was none of their business but plenty used it to be punitively righteous.

 

[Saint Peter]

Let the dead bury the dead.

 

[Recidiva]

Your thinking is where mine was 40 years ago.

However they wanna rationalize it, your anecdote gives them a guilt-free lynching (they think). I mean, we're not discussing the merits or wisdom of cultivating young friends, we're slapping you around, and I don't like it.

Well, again appearance isn't reality. They tried. They probably think they've succeeded and I'm miserable and covering and desperate to skate by.

The fact that I'm okay just pisses them off more, and as I've suggested in another thread, that makes it win-win.

 

[Saint Peter]

Let the miserable bury the miserable.

 

[Recidiva]

I refused to go to my mothers funeral. And I paid dearly for it. In hindsight my action made my subsequent years difficult, because I offended everyone. What I did was none of their business but plenty used it to be punitively righteous.

I didn't want my brother at my wedding to Ulaven, nobody came.

Yeah, I was right for so many reasons, but if I get married again (waits for it...)
I'd ask him. It was "true" but it was also "childish."

This thread was "true" but it was also childish and I'm sorry for stirring up the hornet's nest, though it gave me the opportunity to categorize and analyze and tag each and every hornet.

 

[Recidiva]

Let the miserable bury the miserable.

I will throw rocks at them, but not at the funeral. That's tacky.

 

[Saint Peter]

What category did I end up in?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Well, again appearance isn't reality. They tried. They probably think they've succeeded and I'm miserable and covering and desperate to skate by.

The fact that I'm okay just pisses them off more, and as I've suggested in another thread, that makes it win-win.

To my way of thinking they come across as semi-evil opportunists.

I put interactions with teens in the same class of actions I use for soldiers. Kids fuck and soldiers kill and destroy. The morality can get confusing. But horny kids and warriors are with us forever.

 

[Wings]

You know, if I got to the point where I was agreeing with everything JBJ says I'd stop talking.

 

[unregistered]

 

[Recidiva]

What category did I end up in?

Hm. You don't give much and most of your content is humor. I have no idea what you really think.

You might think this is not worth your time to get worked up over one way or the other.

You might think you'd need a real problem if you wanted to "solve" it and that would mean something happening, important, now, and with evidence you could analyze and with a solution you could enact.

You might be planting a bomb under my house for all I know. I doubt it, but you'd be just the guy I'd be scared of. If you were going to do something, you'd do it. You wouldn't talk about it. Just like "The Good, The Bad, And the Ugly."

"If you've got a chance to shoot, shoot. Don't talk."

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

You know, if I got to the point where I was agreeing with everything JBJ says I'd stop talking.

If you got to the point where you agreed with me your life would have meaning and purpose and nobility.

 

[NatashaluvBoris]

Hm. You don't give much and most of your content is humor. I have no idea what you really think.

You might think this is not worth your time to get worked up over one way or the other.

You might think you'd need a real problem if you wanted to "solve" it and that would mean something happening, important, now, and with evidence you could analyze and with a solution you could enact.

You might be planting a bomb under my house for all I know. I doubt it, but you'd be just the guy I'd be scared of. If you were going to do something, you'd do it. You wouldn't talk about it. Just like "The Good, The Bad, And the Ugly."

"If you've got a chance to shoot, shoot. Don't talk."

Great fucking movie! The cemetery scene is awesome! "BLOOOOOONNNNDDDIIEEEE!"