Groups in BDSM?

[zathras52003]

Okay- odd question. My spouse and I play just the two of us, so this is a BDSM question outside of my experience. Are you turned on my having multiple people around in a BDSM setting?

I have seen some of the BDSM play party photos (candids) and the Training of O/Upper Floor photo series from Kink.com. The women in those photos seem to be enjoying themselves (to the extend possible under the circumstances). Personally, I would be really turned off by having a bunch of dudes around, regardless of their state of dress. Hangup of mine- feel free to interpret as being overly hetero or being insecure in my sexuality.

Anyway- do you get more turned on by having multiple people around whether as play partners, observers, fellow doms/subs, etc.? If so, what is it about the experience?

 

[Stella_Omega]

yeah, I'm just now coming out of a very long period of not wanting dudes around, myself. But the kind of dudes I do not want around are the kind that are turned off by the fact that dudes are in the same room. Just saying.

Anyway, I love playing aound other playing people. I'm a voyeur and exhibitionist, but there's more than that-- I like it when my friends feel like adding their energy to the play, or when I feel welcome to join them for a moment or longer. I get turned on by the synergy.

 

[zathras52003]

yeah, I'm just now coming out of a very long period of not wanting dudes around, myself. But the kind of dudes I do not want around are the kind that are turned off by the fact that dudes are in the same room. Just saying.

Does that mean we want the same thing?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Does that mean we want the same thing?

Not having homophobes around when I play? You could say that...

But about playing in groups, I hope some other people will chime in. I have many feels about this.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Going to my first play event soon, will let you know if I froze or bloomed

 

[zathras52003]

Not having homophobes around when I play? You could say that...

A bit harsh/uncalled for. No problem with homosexuality- everyone should be free to do whatever they want in a consensual environment. I just am not turned on by it. Quite the opposite. There are a lot of kinks (not saying that orientation = kink) that turn me off. Just because I am not into it, doesn't make me a homophobe. I choose not to delve into the details of my gay/lesbian friends' sex lives. Relationship talk? Fine. Bedroom details- not so much.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Good enough! And I didn't expect otherwise, honestly. I was reacting to your specific statement that you don't want to be sexual -- even if with a woman-- in front of men. Carry on.

 

[zathras52003]

Good enough! And I didn't expect otherwise, honestly. I was reacting to your specific statement that you don't want to be sexual -- even if with a woman-- in front of men. Carry on.

[Montgomery Burns] Excellent. [/Montgomery Burns]

 

[ecstaticsub]

I have no interest in public play parties but I do enjoy small private play parties/group sex. I have also enjoyed having sex in front of a couple of people just there to watch in a private setting.

To be honest though...I've never had the opportunity to play in a public space, so maybe I would enjoy it.

 

[luvnmyboys]

our play is just between the two of us and public parties do not interest me. if we had occasion to connect with a similar couple, i think i would be interested in watching someone else. i'm not sure where my comfort level is in having other people watch us.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

I have played and demo bunnied at public events numerous times. I don't have a problem with it at all and barely notice the people around me as I will only play with someone I have a strong connection with so tend to fade out anyone who is watching.

 

[CBM514]

Okay- odd question. My spouse and I play just the two of us, so this is a BDSM question outside of my experience. Are you turned on my having multiple people around in a BDSM setting?

I have seen some of the BDSM play party photos (candids) and the Training of O/Upper Floor photo series from Kink.com. The women in those photos seem to be enjoying themselves (to the extend possible under the circumstances). Personally, I would be really turned off by having a bunch of dudes around, regardless of their state of dress. Hangup of mine- feel free to interpret as being overly hetero or being insecure in my sexuality.

Anyway- do you get more turned on by having multiple people around whether as play partners, observers, fellow doms/subs, etc.? If so, what is it about the experience?

We've had the fantasy of another Domme in with us but not really sure we are or ever would be ready to actually bring another person into that level of intimacy with us...although it does add a lot of possibilities to a situation

 

[knot_sweet]

I get turned on by the idea of a group of men using me to get off, but actual D/s with other people around?

Nope, not going to happen.

I like watching other people play because you can see the very personal relationship and self revelation that happens when two closely connected people let go and do their thing. It's a privilege to be allowed to peek inside someone else's head and heart.

Which is precisely why I don't want to play publicly, or even with a small group of friends.

There's some stuff I keep all locked up and not for show. To anyone. Except the person I hand the keys over to.

Can't even demo bunny, cos there's no way in hell a person is laying a single hand on me just for show. If you touch me in any way (good or bad), you'd better mean it.

Which makes me a tad hypocritical and selfish, but hey...

 

[Ruby_Atom]

It's definitely a fantasy for me! The most I've done is get flogged in front of another couple in a private room. I enjoyed it a lot. I am prepared to go further, but I am also a bit shy about it, though that adds to the enjoyment...

 

[CBM514]

I've said my thought was to show off submissive acts and obedience for Her and be tested in front of another, but that still presents the problem of letting someone a very close look at a part of our life no one knows about...hence fantasy!

 

[desertslave]

I tend to lean towards private play, but there's a definitely part of me that's exhibitionist in the right setting. In the right hands, used in the right ways, the shyness completely evaporates. It's exhilarating to be able to slip my skin in that way. I hadn't realized til I typed that how much I miss that sort of play. Hmm

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I am a presenter and teach Topping/SM skill classes to groups. I have to be able to play in front of others. The fact that I am somewhat of an exhibitionist helps. I don't give a rat's ass about the gender of the audience members. I'm not sticking my dick in any of them (unless Tori is sitting in the audience watching), none of them is going to be sticking a dick in me.

So why would their gender (or orientation) matter? They are there to learn something, I'm there to teach.

When I engage in SM play just for fun, I *like* having an audience. Their energy, in a good scene, feeds me.

On the other hand, a crowd of people who are sucking energy from me and my partner(s) in a scene, or if they are full of negative energy, will cause me to end a scene early, or not play at all.

 

[Kim_Burly]

Recently Sir and I have been playing with two other couples. After some awkwardness and sorting out, things are going swimmingly! I love the hierarchy and the energy of six people is beyond anything I ever imagined.