Anonymous Secrets Thread

[Aquagal]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

 

[QuantumJumping]

I am a trained Hospice Volunteer and I would recommend calling a Prayer Line. There are kind helpful souls there that will talk and pray with you.

 

[PutMeInCoach12]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

(((Hugs)))

 

[pfflyerhot]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

I think it'll be helpful... in some way, at least, for you to have revealed your secret.. Releasing what is hidden in your mind and heart can be very healing... door-opening... clarifying. Going thru the process of writing down what's going on inside you and sending it to this thread... that's a great way to organize your thoughts... Which could help. Good luck.

 

[Thandi]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

I hope that by writing this, it at least has taken some of the burden off your shoulders. By keeping such pain in and not sharing it with your loved ones, you are doing them a disservice. Let someone you love in. Let them help you carry this heavy load.
I send you much strength!

 

[Lily13]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

As we all go through our own trials and tribulations, we feel as though no one else will understand or care because they are living in their own story. It is soooo difficult to confide in those around us, but sometimes easier with a stranger.

If you ever need an ear for any reason whatsoever, you can talk to this soul.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

I hope that whomever you are you can find someone to talk to. I, too, spent years shouldering my own burdens. I still do to an extent. There comes a point though that you have to talk. To someone you love. If that is too painful then a counselor. Don't let yourself crush under the weight of the world because of your own stubbornness. (Yes stubbornness. I say this because I am the same.) You think you are saving others from your burdens, but you are only suffocating yourself. Those who love you would want you to not be alone.

I hope you find someone you can talk to. Best wishes from one weight of the world carrier to another.

I am a trained Hospice Volunteer and I would recommend calling a Prayer Line. There are kind helpful souls there that will talk and pray with you.

(((Hugs)))

I think it'll be helpful... in some way, at least, for you to have revealed your secret.. Releasing what is hidden in your mind and heart can be very healing... door-opening... clarifying. Going thru the process of writing down what's going on inside you and sending it to this thread... that's a great way to organize your thoughts... Which could help. Good luck.

I hope that by writing this, it at least has taken some of the burden off your shoulders. By keeping such pain in and not sharing it with your loved ones, you are doing them a disservice. Let someone you love in. Let them help you carry this heavy load.
I send you much strength!

As we all go through our own trials and tribulations, we feel as though no one else will understand or care because they are living in their own story. It is soooo difficult to confide in those around us, but sometimes easier with a stranger.

If you ever need an ear for any reason whatsoever, you can talk to this soul.

I came for Eros, and I found Agape...

To the original secret poster. Reach out to someone here. I have found that that people here are wonderful to talk to and help with the burdens we face in life. Please know that people love you and care for you. And, people at Lit are here for you.

 

[blulilacgrl]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

This. I felt like this for a long time and still struggle with it. But the thing that I feel you need to remember is that when you withhold your emotions and pain, you deprive the other person of the chance to care for you. It is in our struggles and adversities that we show ourselves and allow others to show themselves as well. I know it sounds weird but when you talk with people about your troubles you are allowing them to care for you. You are allowing them to show the best part of themselves.

Good luck sweetie.

 

[Kat73]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

Hugs...

 

[Jett_73]

I came for Eros, and I found Agape...

To the original secret poster. Reach out to someone here. I have found that that people here are wonderful to talk to and help with the burdens we face in life. Please know that people love you and care for you. And, people at Lit are here for you.

To the OP of that secret, I hope all the posts above of support and encouragement give you the confidence to reach out when you need it. There's some really good advice there from very genuine, caring people.

 

[NotHisLady]

o one would ever think that I would be writing this post. I am fairly well known here on the Playground. I bottle things up inside me and it has become very harmful and detrimental to my well being. I take on all burdens and choose to handle things myself in private. Some friends know I am dealing with some things right now, but have no idea the extent and the heaviness in my heart.

It is so overwhelming right now and I have such deep conflict and pain. The conflict is that I am a woman of deep faith, yet I have prayed recently for God to take me home. ( so of course that is a huge conflict ) No one would believe this about me, and no I am not suicidal and would never take my own life. This is not a cry for help, as I know it will seem as such.

I have no one I can talk to or vent about this, as I could never fathom burdening another soul. I just needed to say this out loud once. Not sure it will help, but I need the immense pain to dissipate or I wont be able to carry on.

When you share your pain it isn't a burden on a person who cares. It's a chance for them to do what we are all truly here to do. We were put here to lift each other up.
There are people here who want to be there to lift you up, just look around at the posts.
So often when we pray we don't get what we asked for, we get what He wants us to have.
Could all these people who care for you be part of that answer?

 

[Que]

Male 34 married


I sometimes wish that my wife's libido was a little higher and that she had more interest in the wilder side to sex. But then I realize that I am a lucky man and it's not my wife who is undersexed, just myself who is oversexed. It's at these times, that I wish I could take a pill to lower my sex drive, as I do feel a bit of a sex pest for her.

I love her with all my heart and do wish I could stop myself being obsessed with sex. I've even made a mini diary of my sexual thoughts and shocked myself at the number of times I'll try to glance up a skirt or look down a top of a random lady in the street, a work colleague or a customer.

It's all a bit sad really. So sorry to all those unsuspecting women out there whom I have perved on and am probably likely to perve on again, as I just don't have it in me to stop. I have tried.

lack-a-nookie is a symptom of a problem not the problem itself...and whatever it is it is a big problem...so you have some work to do...

On yourself, not on your wife...

this could go one of two ways, although I suspect you could benefit from both.

Cliff Notes in advance:

Either the help is to increase your attractiveness to your wife, or if your self-assessment is correct bring your perception of your libido in line with reality and figure out what it is you are using your sexual obsession as a substitute for.

Lets assume for the sake of discussion that you are wrong and you are NOT over-sexed. Then the only problem is your wife is ambivalent with the idea of having sex with YOU. We know this is so because she isn't doing it apparently all that often.

Yes you "won" her hand in marriage...you did something "right" in wooing her, clearly....but somewhere along the line you went with the more flowers and love and tenderness and chocolates route and I (also and an incurable romantic wish it wasn't so) can tell you definitively that that has never gotten anyone laid. ever. I mean women don't turn down chocolate, they just don't fuck you for it.


Romance novels don't go "so the handsome prince brought her chocolate and told her her hair was lovely so they fucked lovingly and firmly, the end."

pretend your wife is a girl. That you don't know. But think is hot. And you want to get in her pants..(yes, I know after a chaste dating period a long engagement and a wedding night deflowering...but go with me here OK?)

You are aware that there are guys that DO meet and fuck women the night they first encounter them...the so-called "one-night stand?" Contrary to popular cultural belief those are not "bad girls" or "loose women" they ordinary women who are/have been/or will be someone's wife. The guy did or said something that was arousing to those girls and it was probably a little dirty, slightly underhanded and FUN.

If you keep in the vein you are on neither you nor your wife are going to be having enough FUN to last. All the love and flowers in the world isn't going to make two roommate live happily ever after.

When a couple is not having regular life-affirming oxytocin producing genital to genital contact one (or both) of them is vulnerable to an affair. There are no saints, everyone can succumb if they are alienated enough from their spouse and have the opportunity. You my friend are probably not the one that is going to have the affair because, no offense but if you are having trouble getting the woman you love who LIVES with you to fuck you, you are a little rusty in the arts implicit in the "ruse de guerre de sexual."

(I am touching just BIT here on option two that the problem is ALL you, ~unlikely but possible~) Lets forget her fault your fault both of your fault in assessing WHY you find yourself obsessing about other women...this is dangerous. Notice I italicized obsessing. One you might (unlikely) get lucky and give of the right pheromones to the right little home-wrecker, but more likely you will do/say/get caught doing or saying something that will wound your wife. Chat history, and email, a lascivious look at a leg across a restaurant. This is both hurtful to her (and clearly you are worried about that) and it is also the sort of thing that justifies in her mind bad behavior on her part...this is lose-lose stuff, and not something to fuck around about.

So to sum up option one, you need to get Athol Kaye's book and/or read his blog...many, many similar blogs out there with smugly satisfied husbands like "gaming your wife" who have happy, healthy, fulfilled, sexually interested wives.

I ran across this stuff too late and was a bit incredulous about it but believe me when I say your problem is fixable by in essence being LESS solicitous of your wife. Add some romance-novel drama, not romantic gestures.

OK...deep breath option two...

You are a sick fuck in need of help. I doubt it, but the following will absolutely do NO harm. Find a chapter of SAA (sex addicts anonymous) or I'm going out on a limb here and no doubt projecting my own shit, but more likely SLA (sex and love addicts annon) would be a better fit for you. Your presenting behaviors are mild in the acting out realm and heavy in the fantasy realm...so I'd do the latter.

You do NOT have to be necessarily a porn addict, a hooker-junkie, or a serial affair driven cad to be a sex or love addict. It's treatable, and something one can recover to a healthy sexual balance. So good luck if that's where this takes you

Stay away from counselors who have a vested interest in keeping you sick until AFTER have some peer support of some sort in place.

Stay the hell away from marital counselors is my bet, but I don't have any good reason for that bias.

 

[Thandi]

lack-a-nookie is a symptom of a problem not the problem itself...and whatever it is it is a big problem...so you have some work to do...

On yourself, not on your wife...

this could go one of two ways, although I suspect you could benefit from both.

Cliff Notes in advance:

Either the help is to increase your attractiveness to your wife, or if your self-assessment is correct bring your perception of your libido in line with reality and figure out what it is you are using your sexual obsession as a substitute for.

Lets assume for the sake of discussion that you are wrong and you are NOT over-sexed. Then the only problem is your wife is ambivalent with the idea of having sex with YOU. We know this is so because she isn't doing it apparently all that often.

Yes you "won" her hand in marriage...you did something "right" in wooing her, clearly....but somewhere along the line you went with the more flowers and love and tenderness and chocolates route and I (also and an incurable romantic wish it wasn't so) can tell you definitively that that has never gotten anyone laid. ever. I mean women don't turn down chocolate, they just don't fuck you for it.


Romance novels don't go "so the handsome prince brought her chocolate and told her her hair was lovely so they fucked lovingly and firmly, the end."

pretend your wife is a girl. That you don't know. But think is hot. And you want to get in her pants..(yes, I know after a chaste dating period a long engagement and a wedding night deflowering...but go with me here OK?)

You are aware that there are guys that DO meet and fuck women the night they first encounter them...the so-called "one-night stand?" Contrary to popular cultural belief those are not "bad girls" or "loose women" they ordinary women who are/have been/or will be someone's wife. The guy did or said something that was arousing to those girls and it was probably a little dirty, slightly underhanded and FUN.

If you keep in the vein you are on neither you nor your wife are going to be having enough FUN to last. All the love and flowers in the world isn't going to make two roommate live happily ever after.

When a couple is not having regular life-affirming oxytocin producing genital to genital contact one (or both) of them is vulnerable to an affair. There are no saints, everyone can succumb if they are alienated enough from their spouse and have the opportunity. You my friend are probably not the one that is going to have the affair because, no offense but if you are having trouble getting the woman you love who LIVES with you to fuck you, you are a little rusty in the arts implicit in the "ruse de guerre de sexual."

(I am touching just BIT here on option two that the problem is ALL you, ~unlikely but possible~) Lets forget her fault your fault both of your fault in assessing WHY you find yourself obsessing about other women...this is dangerous. Notice I italicized obsessing. One you might (unlikely) get lucky and give of the right pheromones to the right little home-wrecker, but more likely you will do/say/get caught doing or saying something that will wound your wife. Chat history, and email, a lascivious look at a leg across a restaurant. This is both hurtful to her (and clearly you are worried about that) and it is also the sort of thing that justifies in her mind bad behavior on her part...this is lose-lose stuff, and not something to fuck around about.

So to sum up option one, you need to get Athol Kaye's book and/or read his blog...many, many similar blogs out there with smugly satisfied husbands like "gaming your wife" who have happy, healthy, fulfilled, sexually interested wives.

I ran across this stuff too late and was a bit incredulous about it but believe me when I say your problem is fixable by in essence being LESS solicitous of your wife. Add some romance-novel drama, not romantic gestures.

OK...deep breath option two...

You are a sick fuck in need of help. I doubt it, but the following will absolutely do NO harm. Find a chapter of SAA (sex addicts anonymous) or I'm going out on a limb here and no doubt projecting my own shit, but more likely SLA (sex and love addicts annon) would be a better fit for you. Your presenting behaviors are mild in the acting out realm and heavy in the fantasy realm...so I'd do the latter.

You do NOT have to be necessarily a porn addict, a hooker-junkie, or a serial affair driven cad to be a sex or love addict. It's treatable, and something one can recover to a healthy sexual balance. So good luck if that's where this takes you

Stay away from counselors who have a vested interest in keeping you sick until AFTER have some peer support of some sort in place.

Stay the hell away from marital counselors is my bet, but I don't have any good reason for that bias.

Wow...one of the most interesting things I've read all day!

 

[lexieredefined]

lack-a-nookie is a symptom of a problem not the problem itself...and whatever it is it is a big problem...so you have some work to do...

On yourself, not on your wife...

this could go one of two ways, although I suspect you could benefit from both.

Cliff Notes in advance:

Either the help is to increase your attractiveness to your wife, or if your self-assessment is correct bring your perception of your libido in line with reality and figure out what it is you are using your sexual obsession as a substitute for.

Lets assume for the sake of discussion that you are wrong and you are NOT over-sexed. Then the only problem is your wife is ambivalent with the idea of having sex with YOU. We know this is so because she isn't doing it apparently all that often.

Yes you "won" her hand in marriage...you did something "right" in wooing her, clearly....but somewhere along the line you went with the more flowers and love and tenderness and chocolates route and I (also and an incurable romantic wish it wasn't so) can tell you definitively that that has never gotten anyone laid. ever. I mean women don't turn down chocolate, they just don't fuck you for it.


Romance novels don't go "so the handsome prince brought her chocolate and told her her hair was lovely so they fucked lovingly and firmly, the end."

pretend your wife is a girl. That you don't know. But think is hot. And you want to get in her pants..(yes, I know after a chaste dating period a long engagement and a wedding night deflowering...but go with me here OK?)

You are aware that there are guys that DO meet and fuck women the night they first encounter them...the so-called "one-night stand?" Contrary to popular cultural belief those are not "bad girls" or "loose women" they ordinary women who are/have been/or will be someone's wife. The guy did or said something that was arousing to those girls and it was probably a little dirty, slightly underhanded and FUN.

If you keep in the vein you are on neither you nor your wife are going to be having enough FUN to last. All the love and flowers in the world isn't going to make two roommate live happily ever after.

When a couple is not having regular life-affirming oxytocin producing genital to genital contact one (or both) of them is vulnerable to an affair. There are no saints, everyone can succumb if they are alienated enough from their spouse and have the opportunity. You my friend are probably not the one that is going to have the affair because, no offense but if you are having trouble getting the woman you love who LIVES with you to fuck you, you are a little rusty in the arts implicit in the "ruse de guerre de sexual."

(I am touching just BIT here on option two that the problem is ALL you, ~unlikely but possible~) Lets forget her fault your fault both of your fault in assessing WHY you find yourself obsessing about other women...this is dangerous. Notice I italicized obsessing. One you might (unlikely) get lucky and give of the right pheromones to the right little home-wrecker, but more likely you will do/say/get caught doing or saying something that will wound your wife. Chat history, and email, a lascivious look at a leg across a restaurant. This is both hurtful to her (and clearly you are worried about that) and it is also the sort of thing that justifies in her mind bad behavior on her part...this is lose-lose stuff, and not something to fuck around about.

So to sum up option one, you need to get Athol Kaye's book and/or read his blog...many, many similar blogs out there with smugly satisfied husbands like "gaming your wife" who have happy, healthy, fulfilled, sexually interested wives.

I ran across this stuff too late and was a bit incredulous about it but believe me when I say your problem is fixable by in essence being LESS solicitous of your wife. Add some romance-novel drama, not romantic gestures.

OK...deep breath option two...

You are a sick fuck in need of help. I doubt it, but the following will absolutely do NO harm. Find a chapter of SAA (sex addicts anonymous) or I'm going out on a limb here and no doubt projecting my own shit, but more likely SLA (sex and love addicts annon) would be a better fit for you. Your presenting behaviors are mild in the acting out realm and heavy in the fantasy realm...so I'd do the latter.

You do NOT have to be necessarily a porn addict, a hooker-junkie, or a serial affair driven cad to be a sex or love addict. It's treatable, and something one can recover to a healthy sexual balance. So good luck if that's where this takes you

Stay away from counselors who have a vested interest in keeping you sick until AFTER have some peer support of some sort in place.

Stay the hell away from marital counselors is my bet, but I don't have any good reason for that bias.

Thought provoking statement.

 

[Kudram123]

male

I just read a "golden turkey" type sexual confession in another thread.

The story was pretty hot, but the author's use of language was so gloriously inept that I started laughing out loud as I read it.

 

[Que]

Had to look up "golden turkey"

I thought it was a new kink of some sort, I gather just an award for especially bad plot?

 

[Kudram123]

I reckon this thread is about ready for a good old fashion dirty/kinky/sexy confession!

PM or email me at kudram123@gmail.com

Your name shall forever be a secret! I shall take it with me to my grave.

 

[Twlightdreamer]

lack-a-nookie is a symptom of a problem not the problem itself...and whatever it is it is a big problem...so you have some work to do...

On yourself, not on your wife...

this could go one of two ways, although I suspect you could benefit from both.

Cliff Notes in advance:

Either the help is to increase your attractiveness to your wife, or if your self-assessment is correct bring your perception of your libido in line with reality and figure out what it is you are using your sexual obsession as a substitute for.

Lets assume for the sake of discussion that you are wrong and you are NOT over-sexed. Then the only problem is your wife is ambivalent with the idea of having sex with YOU. We know this is so because she isn't doing it apparently all that often.

Yes you "won" her hand in marriage...you did something "right" in wooing her, clearly....but somewhere along the line you went with the more flowers and love and tenderness and chocolates route and I (also and an incurable romantic wish it wasn't so) can tell you definitively that that has never gotten anyone laid. ever. I mean women don't turn down chocolate, they just don't fuck you for it.


Romance novels don't go "so the handsome prince brought her chocolate and told her her hair was lovely so they fucked lovingly and firmly, the end."

pretend your wife is a girl. That you don't know. But think is hot. And you want to get in her pants..(yes, I know after a chaste dating period a long engagement and a wedding night deflowering...but go with me here OK?)

You are aware that there are guys that DO meet and fuck women the night they first encounter them...the so-called "one-night stand?" Contrary to popular cultural belief those are not "bad girls" or "loose women" they ordinary women who are/have been/or will be someone's wife. The guy did or said something that was arousing to those girls and it was probably a little dirty, slightly underhanded and FUN.

If you keep in the vein you are on neither you nor your wife are going to be having enough FUN to last. All the love and flowers in the world isn't going to make two roommate live happily ever after.

When a couple is not having regular life-affirming oxytocin producing genital to genital contact one (or both) of them is vulnerable to an affair. There are no saints, everyone can succumb if they are alienated enough from their spouse and have the opportunity. You my friend are probably not the one that is going to have the affair because, no offense but if you are having trouble getting the woman you love who LIVES with you to fuck you, you are a little rusty in the arts implicit in the "ruse de guerre de sexual."

(I am touching just BIT here on option two that the problem is ALL you, ~unlikely but possible~) Lets forget her fault your fault both of your fault in assessing WHY you find yourself obsessing about other women...this is dangerous. Notice I italicized obsessing. One you might (unlikely) get lucky and give of the right pheromones to the right little home-wrecker, but more likely you will do/say/get caught doing or saying something that will wound your wife. Chat history, and email, a lascivious look at a leg across a restaurant. This is both hurtful to her (and clearly you are worried about that) and it is also the sort of thing that justifies in her mind bad behavior on her part...this is lose-lose stuff, and not something to fuck around about.

So to sum up option one, you need to get Athol Kaye's book and/or read his blog...many, many similar blogs out there with smugly satisfied husbands like "gaming your wife" who have happy, healthy, fulfilled, sexually interested wives.

I ran across this stuff too late and was a bit incredulous about it but believe me when I say your problem is fixable by in essence being LESS solicitous of your wife. Add some romance-novel drama, not romantic gestures.

OK...deep breath option two...

You are a sick fuck in need of help. I doubt it, but the following will absolutely do NO harm. Find a chapter of SAA (sex addicts anonymous) or I'm going out on a limb here and no doubt projecting my own shit, but more likely SLA (sex and love addicts annon) would be a better fit for you. Your presenting behaviors are mild in the acting out realm and heavy in the fantasy realm...so I'd do the latter.

You do NOT have to be necessarily a porn addict, a hooker-junkie, or a serial affair driven cad to be a sex or love addict. It's treatable, and something one can recover to a healthy sexual balance. So good luck if that's where this takes you

Stay away from counselors who have a vested interest in keeping you sick until AFTER have some peer support of some sort in place.

Stay the hell away from marital counselors is my bet, but I don't have any good reason for that bias.

Wow...... That was blunt, well written, and highly helpful.

 

[Kudram123]

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[Kudram123]

Couple F33 M34

Before we were married, for a time the Mrs lived in a shared house with friends.
We would often fuck and we were not always the quietest in the house. Some times we would roleplay, but not as doctors and nurses, but as the friends. So Mrs would fuck Mr, pretending he was one of his friends. Mrs would fuck Mr, pretending to be one of her friends.

We do wonder whether any of our friends heard our sexual escapades and whether they were revolted, turned on or freaked out at being included in our little sex games.

Especially when we would describe what our friends looked like from times when we had seen them naked.

 

[Kudram123]

I would like to let everyone know, the thread is still open to lighter, or kinkier secrets too

You don't have to write a "novel" either. You secret can be short and to the point

Let us see if we can can cause some smiles and perhaps a few shocks with kinky confessions!

 

[Kudram123]

exactly what i hoped for

F

If I didn't think I'd feel like a whore, I'd set up a pay site where guys could pay to see me naked. I'd masturbate for them, too.

 

[coffeelover5]

I am confused,

Or just misunderstand that the Kurdam that posts such wonderful gifts is a couple?

 

[BeachMomma]

I am confused,

Or just misunderstand that the Kurdam that posts such wonderful gifts is a couple?

If we want to tell a secret, we send it to Kudram. He posts it but leaves out identifying information. He won't tell who sent in the secret. Period.

 

[Kudram123]

I am confused,

Or just misunderstand that the Kurdam that posts such wonderful gifts is a couple?

If we want to tell a secret, we send it to Kudram. He posts it but leaves out identifying information. He won't tell who sent in the secret. Period.

BeachMomma is correct!


The Idea is a fellow litster sends me a msg,
Either via PM (can be a new account, or the main account if the person has faith in me) or via Email (again I have seen anything from anonymous email systems to untraceable and burner emails).

That message, is something I post for the person in question on this thread.
Any attempt made by anyone to find out who posted what via me will be ignored.

This way you can share a secret, get it off your chest.
Some will get a reaction, I know from personal experience it is wonderful to read those

It can really be anything, we have had heartwarming, heart tearing, kinky and downright outrageous secrets.

I post them without edit or judgement (as long as it remains within legal bounds).