How do I initiate a lesbian/bi encounter?

[Lolita_Slut]

I have always enjoyed looking at and fantasizing about women.

But I've never even kissed a girl!

How do I initiate a lesbian/bi encounter, especially with a woman whom I know to be bisexual? I have a feeling she's interested; she's very flirty and touchy - whenever we drink together, she always jokes that she's taking me home with her - but i always end up at my own house. =(

How do I let her know I'm interested in starting something with her?

Because I'm desperately curious and terribly attracted to her.

 

[annayarnkitten]

Take a leap.

You are just going to have to take a risk and next time you are out, give her a hug and say "I've been dying to kiss you ".

It is so worth it. she will never know unless you say something.


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[seven_of_nine]

She's obviously flirting with you but if you only respond when you've been drinking she might think that you're not really bi-curious, you're just drunk. It would be better if you responded to her flirting when you're sober.

What you also need to consider here is what she wants out of this. You might just want an encounter, she might want a relationship. Or she might just want some fun and for you it might be more serious. Make sure you're both on the same page so that neither of you gets hurt.

 

[Bramblethorn]

How do I initiate a lesbian/bi encounter, especially with a woman whom I know to be bisexual? I have a feeling she's interested; she's very flirty and touchy - whenever we drink together, she always jokes that she's taking me home with her - but i always end up at my own house. =(

"Hey, when you talk about taking me home, are you serious? Because I'd like that."

I'd guess she's waiting for confirmation of your interest before she says/does anything more definite. Especially with the same-sex aspect, it's not just the risk of rejection that she has to consider. In that situation people often use flirtation as a "deniable" way of expressing interest, so everybody has a face-saving way to back out if their advances aren't welcome.

 

[coatcheckgirl]

You won't regret making a move.

There's just something about kissing a girl...

-ccg

 

[Fatwa_Morgana]

You can always start with a hug. It's less threatening than a kiss, and it puts you close enough to each feel what the other is feeling.

Good luck! Morgana

 

[lilydaresinNYC]

The other posts have touched upon it (no pun intended). Next time you are out together, get a little more into her personal space and see how she responds. if you are sitting together, lean close to her when you are talking. If she's wearing jewelry, play with it (running the back of your fingers along her collarbone as you pick up the necklace, for example). Really, just basic flirting.

This is what I do when I want a girl but either am getting mixed signals or she's shy.

Once you know she's receptive, then you can step it up.

 

[subwannabe]

I think you just need to "man up" and talk to her about it. She's already sent you signals. She's just waiting for a non-joking response. Maybe next time she jokes about taking you home with her don't laugh and say, "Let's go"!

 

[kittenbritches]

Meeting other women

A lady friend told me this 'secret'. I was surprised that it actually worked.

After having tried to meet another woman in a public setting, I've found the simplest way is to stare at her. It may make her nervous, but if she looks back, I'll hold my gaze. If she smiles, I'll approach her or beckon her to approach me. If she turns her head or doesn't smile, I move on to another woman. I've had a fairly good batting average.