Anonymous Secrets Thread

[fed0ra]

The whole thing, MO's experience, is said in the plural. Does that mean this is a kind of game to MO? Playing with men's lives? Did she share the story thinking she will get kudos? I had an experience which cautioned me against sharing any kind of personal information. And that leaves you feeling horrible. Vulnerable. Exposed. And unable to trust.

 

[sunshinegirl05]

^^^^^^
Phew! I'm soooo glad she's not YOU.

I just snorted!!!!!


I still am bothered by this. I think it was asked in here if she was a friend of mine, would she still be even if I found out it was her...the answer is no...she would not be. If she is doing this to someone else...what's not to say that she wouldn't do it to me?!

 

[fungatorgurl101]

I just snorted!!!!!


I still am bothered by this. I think it was asked in here if she was a friend of mine, would she still be even if I found out it was her...the answer is no...she would not be. If she is doing this to someone else...what's not to say that she wouldn't do it to me?!

EXACTLY Speaks to character and you know she says she is a popular female litster but that is wrong there are so many of us on here that have a lot to lose so whose to say that if we piss one person off one individual that its worth it. I don't think any of us want to have to make that type of a decision.

 

[RjThoughts]

EXACTLY Speaks to character and you know she says she is a popular female litster but that is wrong there are so many of us on here that have a lot to lose so whose to say that if we piss one person off one individual that its worth it. I don't think any of us want to have to make that type of a decision.

Is she popular in the literary threads, or the GB threads, or the boob posting threads? Character is a major reason of who I talk with and who I don't. Outer shows me that she's too immature to hold a conversation beyond anything sexual. And that is pushing.

 

[fed0ra]

Is she popular in the literary threads, or the GB threads, or the boob posting threads? Character is a major reason of who I talk with and who I don't. Outer shows me that she's too immature to hold a conversation beyond anything sexual. And that is pushing.

The Kudram's post mentions 'husbands' 'wives'. Wouldn't that suggest she knows people well enough to suggest they share personal details. You don't share details unless you think you know a person really well and trust them. And it seems to have happened more than once.

 

[RjThoughts]

The Kudram's post mentions 'husbands' 'wives'. Wouldn't that suggest she knows people well enough to suggest they share personal details. You don't share details unless you think you know a person really well and trust them. And it seems to have happened more than once.

It shows that I don't know this person, since I've not shared my phone numbers with anyone, yet.

 

[fed0ra]

It shows that I don't know this person, since I've not shared my phone numbers with anyone, yet.

Smart man. Love the hat, btw.

 

[LauraWilling]

I haven't commented on this, but it has really bothered me that someone could be so mean and evil over a cyber "offense." Ruining someone life one does not know is really evil in my book. WOW!

 

[AbsintheFather]

I like to feel that what happens in Lit stays in Lit and that when I share something with someone here that it stays with them. After a few years here, I also feel that I have earned the trust of others in return. In those years, I have seen that people and things are not always as they appear and that trust needs to be earned and information guarded.

That said, if you're married and you play on the internet, or play in real life for that matter, you need to be prepared for the worst. You need to be willing to accept consequences for your actions if it comes to that. Those of us who are married and play here do so at our own risk - and those risks need to be weighed and mitigated as best we can in advance.

 

[LauraWilling]

Well said Absinthefather ,
My husband knows I am on here and what it is all about. For us honesty is the best policy, but I understand others situations and choices and will respect their choices. That is why I find that confession so evil and nasty.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

"Grudges are for those who insist they are owed something. Forgiveness however, is for those substantial enough to move on "

~~Criss Jami ~~

(hugs BC)

This is kind of what I was trying to convey in my response, and of course, I failed to do it as succinctly as your quote, my dear. I did not mean to come off as "forgiving" of the Outer, though, as was pointed out to me in private. My point was that she herself will have to face consequences of her actions be they emotional, spiritual, or social.

 

[BradBigBrain]

Here's what I think....

The MO is actually Kudram123 who made this whole shit up to generate interest in this thread.

 

[AbsintheFather]

Here's what I think....

The MO is actually Kudram123 who made this whole shit up to generate interest in this thread.

This can now be the Secrets/Conspiracy Theories thread.

 

[singledad68]

Here's what I think....

The MO is actually Kudram123 who made this whole shit up to generate interest in this thread.

That's awesome!


Personally, I'm single and what this person is doing scares the crap out of me.

 

[RNJAG]

I think we've given Mo' Douche Bag enough air time and fame. How 'bout some more titalating secrets. I'll start....

Of course it's written in invisible ink,


Now y'all know my secret.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I think we've given Mo' Douche Bag enough air time and fame. How 'bout some more titalating secrets. I'll start....

Of course it's written in invisible ink,


Now y'all know my secret.

 

[Thandi]

I think we've given Mo' Douche Bag enough air time and fame. How 'bout some more titalating secrets. I'll start....

Of course it's written in invisible ink,


Now y'all know my secret.

You got it!!
Ooooh, that's dirty!!!!!!!

 

[BlackCashmere]

(hugs BC)

This is kind of what I was trying to convey in my response, and of course, I failed to do it as succinctly as your quote, my dear. I did not mean to come off as "forgiving" of the Outer, though, as was pointed out to me in private. My point was that she herself will have to face consequences of her actions be they emotional, spiritual, or social.

You always come across beautifully and well meaning...I love your heart and always feel you and I think so much the same about things, people and situations...You have such a warm heart...

I love everything you have said...and agree about this post 100%...

I also had 2 grandmothers that were like yours... Two rights do not make a wrong...

Awwww, how I miss my Grannies...

HUGS...

 

[BeachMomma]

The Mystery Outer - F - I do not expose the husband's because they lie to their wives. I expose them once they betray me. They have all given me phone numbers or full names and cities in which they live. Many of them also give me the name's of their wives. I am not to blame for the state of their marriage, as they are the ones choosing to stay married and yet betray their wives. If you knew who I am you would be flabbergasted, as I am well liked in the Literotica community.

If you do not want to be caught, do not betray your wife, or perhaps more importantly, don't betray your mistress. Trading in one woman for another without the kindness of a private message or email is in bad taste. Going as far as finding a new woman and then leaving Literotica without a good-bye is heartless. Be careful who you betray; not everybody chooses to turn the other cheek and be treated like trash.

I understand the idea of hate the one who exposes, love the cheater. Nobody wants to pay for their sins.

MO, I don't know if you're a friend or not, but I've learned that the need to be heard is a basic human need. Most of us have a hard time with your "secret" because we're looking at the big picture. We aren't just looking at a man who's betrayed not only his wife, but also his lover (cyber or real-life). We're looking at a family that could very well be torn apart. Kids that could grow up without their father's influence in their lives. Girls who could grow up to expect men to leave or betray them. Girls who grow up craving a man's love so much that they're willing to have sex with anyone who shows even the slightest interest in them. Boys that could grow up without any inkling of what real love, a real marriage is supposed to look like. It's a ripple effect. It doesn't just affect the man; it can and probably will affect the family for generations to come.

We all know the statistics. Kids who grow up without a father in the home are more likely to be alcoholics, drug users, promiscuous, high school drop outs, unemployed, and abusive. While the cheating husband may deserve to be taught a lesson for his part, does this act of vengeance really give you enough satisfaction to make it worth ruining kids' lives?

As I said before, domestic violence isn't just limited to women. Worst case scenario, the wife could choose to wreak her own form of vengeance. Do you really want that on your conscience?

You're the one who has to look yourself in the mirror. You have to live with yourself every day. This might seem like a satisfying way to bring justice to these men now, but time tends to dull emotions and allow more objectivity. Will it be worth it to know your vendetta ruined entire families when your pain dulls?

I'm asking you to take the high road. Sure, it would be more respectful and courteous to at least say goodbye before disappearing, but simple courtesies are becoming extinct. You can't control what anybody else does; you can only control what you do - control your reactions. I'm asking you to think of more than your own hurt and his betrayal. I'm asking you to think of the bystanders who will undoubtedly be hurt far worse than the hurt you feel from his betrayal.

My response won't be the most popular on this thread, but that's ok. I hear you. You're hurting. You want the other person to hurt as much as you do. You have my sympathy, but in the long run, your actions won't make you feel any better. Cry, vent to a trusted friend, and have enough integrity to be the friend to others that you claim to be. Instead of tearing somebody else down, build yourself up. I really do wish you well, and I hope you can find happiness.

 

[Thandi]

MO, I don't know if you're a friend or not, but I've learned that the need to be heard is a basic human need. Most of us have a hard time with your "secret" because we're looking at the big picture. We aren't just looking at a man who's betrayed not only his wife, but also his lover (cyber or real-life). We're looking at a family that could very well be torn apart. Kids that could grow up without their father's influence in their lives. Girls who could grow up to expect men to leave or betray them. Girls who grow up craving a man's love so much that they're willing to have sex with anyone who shows even the slightest interest in them. Boys that could grow up without any inkling of what real love, a real marriage is supposed to look like. It's a ripple effect. It doesn't just affect the man; it can and probably will affect the family for generations to come.

We all know the statistics. Kids who grow up without a father in the home are more likely to be alcoholics, drug users, promiscuous, high school drop outs, unemployed, and abusive. While the cheating husband may deserve to be taught a lesson for his part, does this act of vengeance really give you enough satisfaction to make it worth ruining kids' lives?

As I said before, domestic violence isn't just limited to women. Worst case scenario, the wife could choose to wreak her own form of vengeance. Do you really want that on your conscience?

You're the one who has to look yourself in the mirror. You have to live with yourself every day. This might seem like a satisfying way to bring justice to these men now, but time tends to dull emotions and allow more objectivity. Will it be worth it to know your vendetta ruined entire families when your pain dulls?

I'm asking you to take the high road. Sure, it would be more respectful and courteous to at least say goodbye before disappearing, but simple courtesies are becoming extinct. You can't control what anybody else does; you can only control what you do - control your reactions. I'm asking you to think of more than your own hurt and his betrayal. I'm asking you to think of the bystanders who will undoubtedly be hurt far worse than the hurt you feel from his betrayal.

My response won't be the most popular on this thread, but that's ok. I hear you. You're hurting. You want the other person to hurt as much as you do. You have my sympathy, but in the long run, your actions won't make you feel any better. Cry, vent to a trusted friend, and have enough integrity to be the friend to others that you claim to be. Instead of tearing somebody else down, build yourself up. I really do wish you well, and I hope you can find happiness.

I like your response very much!

 

[Offler]

The response is marvellous, but it's a truism that if you swim with sharks, the odd remora or two will inevitably suck up to you.

 

[BeachMomma]

Thanks. I'm a nurse. I can very adeptly separate myself from remora.

 

[Offler]

I was an army medic, so I've never underestimated the skills or resourcefulness of any nurse.

 

[Offler]

..... but I used to be brilliant at ECC.

 

[HoneyBearFarms]

This is very well written an an excellent response to the MO. Thank You for writing it.

MO, I don't know if you're a friend or not, but I've learned that the need to be heard is a basic human need. Most of us have a hard time with your "secret" because we're looking at the big picture. We aren't just looking at a man who's betrayed not only his wife, but also his lover (cyber or real-life). We're looking at a family that could very well be torn apart. Kids that could grow up without their father's influence in their lives. Girls who could grow up to expect men to leave or betray them. Girls who grow up craving a man's love so much that they're willing to have sex with anyone who shows even the slightest interest in them. Boys that could grow up without any inkling of what real love, a real marriage is supposed to look like. It's a ripple effect. It doesn't just affect the man; it can and probably will affect the family for generations to come.

We all know the statistics. Kids who grow up without a father in the home are more likely to be alcoholics, drug users, promiscuous, high school drop outs, unemployed, and abusive. While the cheating husband may deserve to be taught a lesson for his part, does this act of vengeance really give you enough satisfaction to make it worth ruining kids' lives?

As I said before, domestic violence isn't just limited to women. Worst case scenario, the wife could choose to wreak her own form of vengeance. Do you really want that on your conscience?

You're the one who has to look yourself in the mirror. You have to live with yourself every day. This might seem like a satisfying way to bring justice to these men now, but time tends to dull emotions and allow more objectivity. Will it be worth it to know your vendetta ruined entire families when your pain dulls?

I'm asking you to take the high road. Sure, it would be more respectful and courteous to at least say goodbye before disappearing, but simple courtesies are becoming extinct. You can't control what anybody else does; you can only control what you do - control your reactions. I'm asking you to think of more than your own hurt and his betrayal. I'm asking you to think of the bystanders who will undoubtedly be hurt far worse than the hurt you feel from his betrayal.

My response won't be the most popular on this thread, but that's ok. I hear you. You're hurting. You want the other person to hurt as much as you do. You have my sympathy, but in the long run, your actions won't make you feel any better. Cry, vent to a trusted friend, and have enough integrity to be the friend to others that you claim to be. Instead of tearing somebody else down, build yourself up. I really do wish you well, and I hope you can find happiness.