Can I have my Sex back, Please?

[Stella_Omega]

I think these are the easiest to write.

yeah, reading what I just wrote I have to agree it's pretty simplistic. So, why is it so hard for me?

But when I think about it more-- the challenge often involves setting aside one's preconceptions about one's fundamental identity. That's not so easy.

In fact there are some stories that I haven't written-- because the concepts intersect aspects of my own identity and I don't want to deal with them yet...

The other stuff I'm not writing I have to find some other excuse for that.

 

[ms.read]

yeah, reading what I just wrote I have to agree it's pretty simplistic. So, why is it so hard for me?

But when I think about it more-- the challenge often involves setting aside one's preconceptions about one's fundamental identity. That's not so easy.

In fact there are some stories that I haven't written-- because the concepts intersect aspects of my own identity and I don't want to deal with them yet...

The other stuff I'm not writing I have to find some other excuse for that.

I hate writing using a formula, the stuff that I write, I identify with too much, and how could I put that on public display.

I challenge myself by writing something that would broaden the horizons of both myself and my readers. Something on the edge of "Would I try this if nobody knew?"
and "Oh my god, I can't believe I just did that. Let's do it again!!"

 

[Stella_Omega]

I hate writing using a formula, the stuff that I write, I identify with too much, and how could I put that on public display.

I challenge myself by writing something that would broaden the horizons of both myself and my readers. Something on the edge of "Would I try this if nobody knew?"
and "Oh my god, I can't believe I just did that. Let's do it again!!"

Isn't that another way of saying what I just said?

 

[Handley_Page]

Isn't that another way of saying what I just said?

Well this reader may have trouble here:

In fact there are some stories that I haven't written-- because the concepts intersect aspects of my own identity and I don't want to deal with them yet...


Apart from a confusing multiplicity of plurals (I think), I'm not actually sure of what you mean.
Now, please remember, I'm English and this sort of management-speak is something I left behind a good while ago, when I retired.
I mean it as no criticism, you understand; I'm simply baffled.

After giving it some thought:
Do I understand it to be:
In fact there are some stories that I haven't written-- because the concepts intersect with aspects of my own identity and I don't want to deal with them yet...

 

[ms.read]

Isn't that another way of saying what I just said?

Yes! so I guess we're on the same page. You are more eloquent though.

 

[ms.read]

An easy one is 'is he gay?' A character has a crush but doesn't know if he is 'available' or not.

I usually don't have 'sex' conflicts per se. I have story conflicts. Although right now I'm dealing with a man who has taken two homeless boys under his wing. He has to deal with his attraction to them, even though he took them in out of the goodness of his heart, and he doesn't want to be a scumbag.

They're attracted to him, too. But I'm still having troubles writing the scene. It's my first threesome.

I can see where you are having trouble. Maybe the wording "Young Men" Would help, instead of calling them boys. The man maybe having trouble because he thinks they're too young. when he uses the word "boys" in his head. flesh out the young men's background a little more. maybe they took two years of college?

 

[sirhugs]

most of my stories demand that I write them.

words?

has anybody said "quim" or "man meat" yet?

 

[TxRad]

most of my stories demand that I write them.

words?

has anybody said "quim" or "man meat" yet?

Demands? Mine sometimes get to the point of death threats.

 

[ms.read]

most of my stories demand that I write them.

words?

has anybody said "quim" or "man meat" yet?

Mmm, Man meat!

 

[sirhugs]

Mmm, Man meat!

with a side of slaw

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well this reader may have trouble here:

In fact there are some stories that I haven't written-- because the concepts intersect aspects of my own identity and I don't want to deal with them yet...


Apart from a confusing multiplicity of plurals (I think), I'm not actually sure of what you mean.
Now, please remember, I'm English and this sort of management-speak is something I left behind a good while ago, when I retired.
I mean it as no criticism, you understand; I'm simply baffled.

After giving it some thought:
Do I understand it to be:
In fact there are some stories that I haven't written-- because the concepts intersect with aspects of my own identity and I don't want to deal with them yet...

You are quite correct, that missing word would have made a lot of difference.

Yes! so I guess we're on the same page. You are more eloquent though.

ah no, it seems my eloquence has holes in it...

 

[Handley_Page]

Mmm, Man meat!

pork sword ?

 

[ms.read]

pork sword ?

implies slimy nonhygenic man. Turn off.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Mmm, Man meat!

Heh. I've always hated those kinds of names. Including "meat curtains" for pussy-- until the first time I watched a lady ride my harnessed dildo-- suddenly, it made perfect sense.

Still hate it, though.

 

[ms.read]

Heh. I've always hated those kinds of names. Including "meat curtains" for pussy-- until the first time I watched a lady ride my harnessed dildo-- suddenly, it made perfect sense.

Still hate it, though.

read my first erotic novel a few years back and it was a british writer, and I kept asking myself, what the heck is a quim? I read a little further and the Aha! Moment came.

I still think its one of the funniest words for a vagina, Right after Grey's Anatomy's Dr. Baily shouting at George "Don't look at my Va Jay Jay!!! (she was giving birth)

 

[Stella_Omega]

read my first erotic novel a few years back and it was a british writer, and I kept asking myself, what the heck is a quim? I read a little further and the Aha! Moment came.

I still think its one of the funniest words for a vagina, Right after Grey's Anatomy's Dr. Baily shouting at George "Don't look at my Va Jay Jay!!! (she was giving birth)

"Fe Fe" is a good one too. I don't remember who used the phrase "Getting sand all up in their Fe Fe's" to mean baffled irritation but it always makes me laugh...

I like to say "her little whatsit" with a meaningful leer.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Heh. I've always hated those kinds of names. Including "meat curtains" for pussy-- until the first time I watched a lady ride my harnessed dildo-- suddenly, it made perfect sense.

Still hate it, though.

My favourite awful metaphor is "Parking the Purple Pajero in the Vulvic Cul-De-Sac".

(The Mitsubishi Pajero is a SUV; I think it was marketed as the "Montero" in the USA and some other places, because 'pajero' has unfortunate connotations in Spanish.)

 

[oggbashan]

Despite this thread, I'm still going to write stories with implied or off-stage sex and enter them as 'erotic'.

Erotic stories work, if they work at all, through the mind...

 

[ms.read]

Despite this thread, I'm still going to write stories with implied or off-stage sex and enter them as 'erotic'.

Erotic stories work, if they work at all, through the mind...

yep... but don't you like to flesh it out a little *holds the minimum amount of space between finger and thumb*

The Beginning.
Maurice and Maureen Met.
THE Middle
They found true love, but unfortunately... He was blind and she was deaf.

They found the solution through communication with thier hands...The END.


...Oh my goodness that was the shortest story I ever wrote!

 

[sr71plt]

Despite this thread, I'm still going to write stories with implied or off-stage sex and enter them as 'erotic'.

Erotic stories work, if they work at all, through the mind...

Erotica can be written with no actual physical sexual act at all, can't it?

 

[ms.read]

Erotica can be written with no actual physical sexual act at all, can't it?

Yes, if the author describes the main characters sexual fantasies of the intended target of those fantasies in the book.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I like this handy dandy guide which I am positive I've posted here before;
http://autostraddle.wpengine.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/lesbian-sex-flowchart1.jpg

 

[ms.read]

Stella that is hilarious!

 

[Handley_Page]

Stella that is hilarious!

I'm in full accord with that.
I'd simply write YES, but it's too few letters. . .