No Compliments

[sweepthefloor]

How does one apologize erotically? Hand job?
I am sorry I don't want you inside of me. Can I just jerk you off instead?

 

[EroticApology]

You really don't get my point of view, do you?!
My point is, I neither ask for, nor expect, any compliments either verbal or physical.
If he chooses to compliment me, fine.
But I don't need him to do that.

And truthfully, I don't particularly want to know anything about you personally.
You are just another fly-by on this board. If you make the distance, I might get a little curious. Might.

Please understand that if I continue to question how you reasoned this question out doesn't mean I can't comprehend. I understand you perfectly...I saw a contradiction in your answer. If he's showing you that he loves you isn't that a complimenting you and validating you? I'm just teying ti understand.

 

[warrior queen]

lol? oh dear... you have no subtlety of tone and your tells are blatant.

why should a person outwardly express every feeling they have? would you want them to be as free with their criticisms as you expect them to be with their praise? if, instead of telling you how pretty you look, he pointed out that your lipstick was a shade too dark and your dress accentuated your chubby thighs, would you still argue that he should express himself?

You know, I actually like the fact that my man will tell me plainly if he doesn't like something.
He's not nasty about it... but he will say something like 'I don't particularly like that colour on you. I love this one though.'
I don't have a problem with that sort of thing.
Many of my women friends would go absolutely mental if their guy said something like that!

 

[Byron In Exile]

I'm not being extreme. I'm not suggesting a person express every feeling. That would be nauseating. I'm being reasonable...some not all feelings is what I speak of.

So, you're seeking to be manipulated?

 

[pete]

How does one apologize erotically? Hand job?
I am sorry I don't want you inside of me. Can I just jerk you off instead?

i find this completely offensive!

you owe me an apology
*drops my pants*

 

[warrior queen]

Please understand that if I continue to question how you reasoned this question out doesn't mean I can't comprehend. I understand you perfectly...I saw a contradiction in your answer. If he's showing you that he loves you isn't that a complimenting you and validating you? I'm just teying ti understand.

I don't need him to do anything to validate me.
The fact that he is with me, he is faithful and loyal to me, is enough.
Anything over and above that is just icing.

 

[EroticApology]

don't you seek genuine validation and praise? or have i missed your entire point of this thread, wondering whether people (i.e. people in YOUR life) were genuine in their praise of us (i.e. YOU) ?

I never said I don't want validation or praise. I was never asked. In addition I don't seek validationand admiration from those that I don't hold in high regards. Lol

 

[pete]

I never said I don't want validation or praise. I was never asked. In addition I don't seek validationand admiration from those that I don't hold in high regards. Lol

well, aren't you the polite one

 

[dolf]

I never said I don't want validation or praise. I was never asked. In addition I don't seek validationand admiration from those that I don't hold in high regards. Lol

tell.

 

[pete]

tell.

word.

i smell garden variety self-esteem sufferer

 

[warrior queen]

word.

i smell garden variety self-esteem sufferer

You picked that too?!

I had a conversation with my daughter just yesterday about self-esteem and how one achieves peace with oneself.
I did not tell her to base her personal worth on what others say.

 

[warrior queen]

I never said I don't want validation or praise. I was never asked. In addition I don't seek validationand admiration from those that I don't hold in high regards. Lol

So, you only want compliments from people you deem 'worthy' of giving them to you?

 

[pete]

You picked that too?!

I had a conversation with my daughter just yesterday about self-esteem and how one achieves peace with oneself.
I did not tell her to base her personal worth on what others say.

the fact that she starts a thread about the value of compliments was the first clue.

who does that?

 

[pete]

So, you only want compliments from people you deem 'worthy' of giving them to you?

this is another typical symptom, elevating ones self esteem by adopting a lofty, superficial air of superiority

[deep belly laugh] hahaha i can't be bothered by your puny issues [/deep belly laugh]

 

[warrior queen]

the fact that she starts a thread about the value of compliments was the first clue.

who does that?

I'm kinda curious about the value thing.
Is a 'nice dress' worth $2 or $3?
How about 'God, I love your tits'? That's gotta be worth quite a bit more, doncha think?

 

[pete]

I'm kinda curious about the value thing.
Is a 'nice dress' worth $2 or $3?
How about 'God, I love your tits'? That's gotta be worth quite a bit more, doncha think?

i'd say so. and extra points for drool

 

[dolf]

word.

i smell garden variety self-esteem sufferer

i'm hoping this is a teenager.

free (or forced) expression of feelings should happen when it is something she wants to hear said by someone she wants to hear it from.

 

[themilf]

I really hate when the local taxidermist says that to me.

Freaking hilarious! Thank you for the brilliant response! That was just what I needed, a good laugh!

 

[pete]

i'm hoping this is a teenager.

free (or forced) expression of feelings should happen when it is something she wants to hear said by someone she wants to hear it from.

hard to tell from her writing. i had a fleeting thought that english wasn't her first language but pretty sure that was a bad assumption.

no i think she's an adult with mild to moderate self esteem issues who was looking for validation in the form of a detached informal poll of helpful strangers. the fact that she recoiled when i mentioned boobs tells me she's protective and shy, but feigned confidence.

 

[pete]

Freaking hilarious! Thank you for the brilliant response! That was just what I needed, a good laugh!

holy shit
l o n g e s t profile bio, ever!

 

[warrior queen]

i'd say so. and extra points for drool

Drool is a little outside what I expected to pay for

Disclaimer: the post with dollar values is intented as an example only. You may wish to pay for your compliments in other ways - cooking a nice meal, for example. Or with bj's.

 

[warrior queen]

Oh, and just a thought.....
Given how important receiving compliments seems to be, I have to wonder how many she gives out?

 

[JohnnySavage]

I'd rather have a nice tiramisu than a hand job.

 

[pete]

Drool is a little outside what I expected to pay for

Disclaimer: the post with dollar values is intented as an example only. You may wish to pay for your compliments in other ways - cooking a nice meal, for example. Or with bj's.

i've found that a healthy ass-slap during doggy style is tantamount to complimenting her haircut

but i'm old fashioned. i'm sure the kids these days do things differently

 

[pete]

Oh, and just a thought.....
Given how important receiving compliments seems to be, I have to wonder how many she gives out?

if i had to guess, i'd say very few. ditto with 'please' and 'thank you'.