No Compliments

[warrior queen]

Really compliments don't validate you....then how do you know your man is happy to be with you because you are a great woman?

Simple. I know I am.
I don't need him to tell me, he shows me in a myriad of ways.
Haven't you read anything I wrote?

Mind you.... on further thought.... maybe YOU are one who NEEDS to hear it?
That's cool. If it works for you, great.

I thought you would be interested to hear other views on the subject you brought up.

 

[blobfish]

Lmao @fool?

You have no choice....are you stuck in the matrix? Lol

You could say that. Until the sweet sting of death lands upon my tired brow, I will be stuck here.

 

[sweepthefloor]

He doesn't have to say anything. When he slaps my bottom every time I walk past him, I understand.

 

[EroticApology]

no, you said looks deserve compliments, not that genuine desires deserve expression. so, if compliment giving does not come naturally to a person, you feel your looks should obligate them to force an unnatural behaviour in order to pander to your desires.

totally different thing.

Yes. I think you think I'm saying its only beneficial to the receiver of the compliment, but the one expressing it is also reflecting self. Why hold it back?

 

[bronzeage]

He doesn't have to say anything. When he slaps my bottom every time I walk past him, I understand.

A man never slaps a unattractive bottom.

 

[dolf]

dear, you sound like you'd be a whining pain in the arse to date!

my advice? if you're the sort of person who requires compliments and validation then, rather than trying to make out that those who don't flatter or depend upon flattery are in the wrong, simply find yourself a partner who is naturally inclined towards frequent compliments.

compatibility. it's a genius idea.

 

[dolf]

Yes. I think you think I'm saying its only beneficial to the receiver of the compliment, but the one expressing it is also reflecting self. Why hold it back?

and you are imposing your standards on all. it is not a natural, comfortable action to some. why force it?

 

[blobfish]

My mirror joke was funny, but nobody complimented me for it.

 

[warrior queen]

He doesn't have to say anything. When he slaps my bottom every time I walk past him, I understand.

This, I understand!

Not so long ago, we were moving sheep from one paddock to the next, when my man suddenly stopped everything. He came striding (yep, STRIDING) purposefully over to where I was with this hugely determined look on his face - I thought something was wrong - and when he got to me, he just grabbed my head and gave me knee-weakening, breath-taking, deep kiss.
Then he smiled, and walked back to go round up sheep.

THAT was a compliment, if ever there was one.

 

[Aquagal]

My mirror joke was funny, but nobody complimented me for it.

I laughed inside.

 

[sweepthefloor]

A man never slaps a unattractive bottom.

He can slap me around any day.

This, I understand!

It's a universal language.

 

[sweepthefloor]

He put his dick in my mouth, and I said in my head: You are handsome.
He understood.

 

[pete]

He put his dick in my mouth, and I said in my head: You are handsome.
He understood.

next time, hum it. trust me on this

 

[EroticApology]

and you are imposing your standards on all. it is not a natural, comfortable action to some. why force it?

If I ask why doesn't a person express self...which is in fact their feelings how am I imposing my standards upon them? Lol

 

[EroticApology]

Simple. I know I am.
I don't need him to tell me, he shows me in a myriad of ways.
Haven't you read anything I wrote?

Mind you.... on further thought.... maybe YOU are one who NEEDS to hear it?
That's cool. If it works for you, great.

I thought you would be interested to hear other views on the subject you brought up.

Oh...so let me get this straight. You don't need or want verbal compliments instead you want or need compliments that a physical. If he's physically doing things to show you how he feels isn't he complimenting you...and validating you?


Lol...this question isn't personal. Just conversation. Lol. If you want to know about me why not ask. If you assume you will not reach anywhere concrete.

 

[pete]

... If you want to know about me why not ask. If you assume you will not reach anywhere concrete.

i want to know what your breasts look like.
and in keeping with my previous sentiments... don't tell me, show me.

 

[EroticApology]

dear, you sound like you'd be a whining pain in the arse to date!

my advice? if you're the sort of person who requires compliments and validation then, rather than trying to make out that those who don't flatter or depend upon flattery are in the wrong, simply find yourself a partner who is naturally inclined towards frequent compliments.

compatibility. it's a genius idea.

Was this advice for moi?

 

[EroticApology]

i want to know what your breasts look like.
and in keeping with my previous sentiments... don't tell me, show me.

I only show my intimate body parts to those I'm in relations with or want to have relations with...*wink*

 

[dolf]

If I ask why doesn't a person express self...which is in fact their feelings how am I imposing my standards upon them? Lol

lol? oh dear... you have no subtlety of tone and your tells are blatant.

why should a person outwardly express every feeling they have? would you want them to be as free with their criticisms as you expect them to be with their praise? if, instead of telling you how pretty you look, he pointed out that your lipstick was a shade too dark and your dress accentuated your chubby thighs, would you still argue that he should express himself?

 

[pete]

I only show my intimate body parts to those I'm in relations with or want to have relations with...*wink*

did i mention there's quite possibly a genuine compliment at stake?

 

[warrior queen]

Oh...so let me get this straight. You don't need or want verbal compliments instead you want or need compliments that a physical. If he's physically doing things to show you how he feels isn't he complimenting you...and validating you?


Lol...this question isn't personal. Just conversation. Lol. If you want to know about me why not ask. If you assume you will not reach anywhere concrete.

You really don't get my point of view, do you?!
My point is, I neither ask for, nor expect, any compliments either verbal or physical.
If he chooses to compliment me, fine.
But I don't need him to do that.

And truthfully, I don't particularly want to know anything about you personally.
You are just another fly-by on this board. If you make the distance, I might get a little curious. Might.

 

[EroticApology]

lol? oh dear... you have no subtlety of tone and your tells are blatant.

why should a person outwardly express every feeling they have? would you want them to be as free with their criticisms as you expect them to be with their praise? if, instead of telling you how pretty you look, he pointed out that your lipstick was a shade too dark and your dress accentuated your chubby thighs, would you still argue that he should express himself?

I'm not being extreme. I'm not suggesting a person express every feeling. That would be nauseating. I'm being reasonable...some not all feelings is what I speak of.

 

[EroticApology]

did i mention there's quite possibly a genuine compliment at stake?

Doesn't matter...I'm not interested in sharing my body with you.

 

[pete]

Doesn't matter...I'm not interested in sharing my body with you.

don't you seek genuine validation and praise? or have i missed your entire point of this thread, wondering whether people (i.e. people in YOUR life) were genuine in their praise of us (i.e. YOU) ?

 

[dolf]

I'm not being extreme. I'm not suggesting a person express every feeling. That would be nauseating. I'm being reasonable...some not all feelings is what I speak of.

they should express to you all and only those feelings you want to hear? that does not sound like a desire for them to express themselves freely. that sounds like a whine for more flattery.