Dom or Domme

[Boxlicker101]

What is the proper short term for a dominatrix? I am writing a story about a D/s lesbian couple, and I want to use the right terms. I have seen both used, but which is preferred? Are they both pronounced the same?

 

[Stella_Omega]

If the dominant is femme, she might call herself "Domme" or "Mistress"

If she's butch, she might call herself "Dom" or "Daddy."

Yes they are pronounced the same.

A "dominatrix" is a woman who tops for pay. A person who does it for love is a "Dominant."

 

[neci]

Yes they are pronounced the same.

i don't know why, but i'm grinning ear to ear. damn you.

 

[BiBunny]

Yes they are pronounced the same.

Yes, for the love of God, the word is not "dom-may."

/pet peeve

 

[Stella_Omega]

i don't know why, but i'm grinning ear to ear. damn you.

hehehe....

 

[desertslave]

Yes, for the love of God, the word is not "dom-may."

/pet peeve

IF (and only if) one wanted to sound French, one could linger jussst a bit on the "m" sounding, but not like mmmmmmm or you'll just sound stupid.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I thought it was Domm-ee (long e sound)! That way they sound all cute and adorable

 

[Stella_Omega]

I thought it was Domm-ee (long e sound)! That way they sound all cute and adorable

This could go into the "things a sub should never say to their Domm-ee" thread.

 

[Nina327]

I thought it was Domm-ee (long e sound)! That way they sound all cute and adorable

~laughs~

Another person added to the list of people not to read while drinking coffee.

 

[Cipher]

Yes, for the love of God, the word is not "dom-may."

/pet peeve

"Preach it"!

 

[Cattypuss]

A "dominatrix" is a woman who tops for pay. A person who does it for love is a "Dominant."

Hah! I did not know that!

I thought it was just a feminine form (like executor/executrix).

I learned something - on a Saturday! (It is Saturday, right, Stella?!)

 

[Stella_Omega]

Hah! I did not know that!

I thought it was just a feminine form (like executor/executrix).

I learned something - on a Saturday! (It is Saturday, right, Stella?!)

Oh, fuck-- I'm not even sure anymore!

You can tell it's not a feminine form because nobody goes to visit a Dominator.

 

[RjThoughts]

Yes, for the love of God, the word is not "dom-may."

/pet peeve

Without an accent ague, there is no need to use the long A sound.

(Dropping a petite Frencaise on y'all)

 

[Cattypuss]

Without an accent ague, there is no need to use the long A sound.

(Dropping a petite Frencaise on y'all)

Sorry to piss on your chips but it's "accent aigu"

 

[Boxlicker101]

Well, thanks for your input. I won't use the short form at all, but will refer to the one woman as a dominant and the other as a sub. Neither woman will use either word in the dialogue and, when I mention the relationship of the dominant to the sub, I will refer to "her mistress."

I don't know how soon I will finish it, but the name will be "Black Dominant." The name and the story itself will probably piss some people off.

 

[BiBunny]

I know jack shit about French (we do Spanish 'round here, and I know precious little of that), but I do know you don't say "omelet-tay" or "croquet-tay" or "mouss-say," so I can't imagine why you'd pronounce "domme" that way, LOL.

Also, "dom-may" sounds way too much like it's veering in the direction of "dummy" for me to be comfortable with it, even if it were the correct pronunciation!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'mhearing;

"Voulez vous dommez avec moi ce soire

voulez-vous dommez avec moi"

 

[RjThoughts]

Sorry to piss on your chips but it's "accent aigu"

Merci beaucoups

But I was waiting on the red pencil marks LOL