Ladies, what sexy, subtle things do you do to get the attention of someone you want?

[CountCunninglvr]

This was inspired by another persons post about something they did to subtly make men think about something in an elevator and it made me think of how crafty women sometimes are when it comes to "signaling" of sorts.

So my main question is, what are some of the things women do to either try to subtley gain the attention of of someone they are sexually interested in? Do you simply leave a few buttons of your work shirt undone? Do you prefer to "accidently" drop things in front of them a lot? What senses do you favor stimulating in the object of your desire in such early stages of interaction? If there are stages to the interactions, what are they for you?

I want to hear your preferences and your stories. How do/have you gotten someone you want/wanted sexually into bed that you weren't even intitially on talking terms with? I expect all your answers will be as insightful as they will be entertaining.

On a side note... I understand that some women sometimes just like toying with all men this way at once, I would be especially interested in your take on this as well seeing as how you are undoubtedly the most refined at it.

 

[just31]

I'm not a woman feel free to delete this but the ones who have caught my attention did it with key words (oooooh and yesss) and sounds (mmmmm this is good coffee) or putting their hand on my arm or shoulder. Even a small brush of a hip or ass even a breast on me worked twice. When you work around the public and a lot of other people they tend to notice a woman constantly dropping things if discretion isn't an issue then drop away. My favorite is watching one of them put on lipstick that gets me hard and she knows it.

 

[touche]

I used to take suckers (lollipops) to work with me...candy canes at Christmas time were a favorite!

 

[elsaparker]

I stick my ass out to the side and put my hand around my wait. Sometimes I slap the side of my ass. Works wonders!

 

[Saucyminx]

I used to take suckers (lollipops) to work with me...candy canes at Christmas time were a favorite!

Blow pops and candy canes have always been a favorite of mine too.

Putting on lipstick in front of the objects of my desire has always been effective and a favorite, also looking up at the from under my lashes, but over the tops of my glasses. Lots of cleavage never hurts either.

 

[CountCunninglvr]

Ok, most of these I expected to be here. So far, every technique is some form of visual cue that draws attention to whatever body part the woman wants their target to look at or indicating skill at oral pleasing. I'm not trying to downgrade anybody's methods, I just want to learn what they are in order to identify them if they are ever used on me.

As for Just31's worries about not being a guy and posting here, don't worry about it. I would like to hear from women MORE than men seeing as how it's their mindset I'm trying to understand, but I'm not trying to come off as if men shouldn't post here.

I used to take suckers (lollipops) to work with me...candy canes at Christmas time were a favorite!

I'm curious do you do this to people you mean to bed or just for the fun of teasing?

I stick my ass out to the side and put my hand around my wait. Sometimes I slap the side of my ass. Works wonders!

You sound pretty straightforward, about these things, do you tend to be a relatively confident woman?

Blow pops and candy canes have always been a favorite of mine too.

Putting on lipstick in front of the objects of my desire has always been effective and a favorite, also looking up at the from under my lashes, but over the tops of my glasses. Lots of cleavage never hurts either.
Yesterday 12:24 PM

Ok, so the technique of drawing attention to the mouth and possibly suggesting fellatio with candy has occured twice, so what is your mindset while employing this to get someone's attention? I've reacted to the lashes thing in the past, but was never aware of it. Now I am. Thank you. I like that you've been willing to open up about multiple different techniques.

Again all the techniques noted here have utilized the visual sense in some way. I'm not remotely uninterested in hearing more about those methods. By all means post more. However, I am still interested in some methods of sexualized attention getting that make use of the object of your attraction's other senses such as smell, taste, and touch. Bear in mind this should be some subtle thing you do during casual conversation/flirtation stages with someone.

Most interesting would be cases of something entirely mental like using an object with some memory associated with it for the intended lover to pass by and see so that they react by remembering what you want them to. This last one can get complicated and would likely only ever occur between longtime friends. So I understand if I never hear anything about this.

Ladies thank you for whatever you decide to post. Your information could help me to perceive what I might otherwise miss and as such is greatly appreciated.

 

[pixxie91]

I "stretch"--sticking one leg out and arching my foot, lifting my arms above my head, arching my back and pushing out my chest. I pretend that it's because I'm my feet at work all day or that I visited the gym or somehting like that. It seems to work.

 

[Eroticchatter]

That would work with me!!!

 

[Rayona]

slowly tracing my tongue over my lips/biting my lower lip, accidentally bump into the guy, dropping something, taking time to pick it up

 

[marriedpervs]

I slowly run my fingers up and down my glass as I am sipping through a straw, making eye contact....works a charm.

 

[CountCunninglvr]

Loving the fast response...

I "stretch"--sticking one leg out and arching my foot, lifting my arms above my head, arching my back and pushing out my chest. I pretend that it's because I'm my feet at work all day or that I visited the gym or somehting like that. It seems to work.

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Hmmm...sounds like you're attempting to attract a man with a specific preference when you do this. It would work wonders as a conversation starter for me.

slowly tracing my tongue over my lips/biting my lower lip, accidentally bump into the guy, dropping something, taking time to pick it up

I like that people have started including ways that tactile sensation is used here. I'm sure all of these work wonders.

slowly run my fingers up and down my glass as I am sipping through a straw, making eye contact....works a charm.

I'm sure it does. You sound rather confident in your skill.

 

[deskuser]

Probably act slightly disdainful and then if I get to know them I make eye contact, over laugh at their jokes and touch their upper arms or forearms.

 

[free_and_easy]

I slowly run my fingers up and down my glass as I am sipping through a straw, making eye contact....works a charm.

It may sound like a cliche, but it works

 

[Rayona]

those work i'm sure

 

[hunnyblonde]

I have only recently noticed that men watch me when I do certain things, so I find myself very much in the middle of experimentation with this exact subject. I'm so intrigued to see that some men are apparently aware of it....

My first discovery was as I touched my lips, sort of sliding my thumb across my bottom lip as if smearing on some lip gloss or something. The first time I noticed I was in a store and it was the man just around the curve in the deli counter, waiting to place his order. As soon as I realized he was staring at my hand....my mouth, I immediately did it again, and he was forced to look away, or risk gawking at me. He did look back though, I might add.

I guess that wasn't truly the first time though... I was 17 when I had a job in a food packaging plant that required all employees to wear hairnets all the time. Everyone would leave them on in the break room, but I hated not having my hair down on my shoulders naturally, and I was also pretty averse to the feeling and fashion statement of the hairnet. So I would pull the netting off, without exception as soon as I entered the break room, which seemed to always gather a good deal of attention, from both sexes. I experimented with it a bit, and I noticed that when I went to work with freshly washed hair and did my usual little "shaking out" routine, the smell was quite strong and seemed intoxicating to certain people I found to be susceptible. I tried not to overuse it...but every once in a while I'd make a point to grab most of my hair and give it a good shake while standing very close to certain people. Hehe... It sounds very devilishly contrived, but it was really harmless, I think. They enjoyed it and they smiled more around me. Who doesn't like smiling men? *little laugh*

So...back to present day... I am currently pregnant, and I don't dare touch my belly unless I want that kind of attention in short order. Most men seem to take notice of a woman's pregnancy the moment she touches herself in a maternal way.

Also, the mouth-touching has evolved into teeth-tapping, which allows me to show my tongue - and a couple of times recently - breathe a hot breath onto my target. *grin* I'm quite enjoying that one. I like to affect a man's sense of touch more than anything else, so that particular technique is very satisfying to me.

Good luck in your search for more details. *smile*

 

[kiwi_submissive]

One of my friends will deep throat a straw when she is at a bar. She definitly gets alot of attention from that.

 

[CountCunninglvr]

I'm learning more everytime ladies...

Probably act slightly disdainful and then if I get to know them I make eye contact, over laugh at their jokes and touch their upper arms or forearms.

I like how you've laid out your sense of stages, very helpful. I'm curious though why start out with a slight sense of fake disdain? Is this a kind of subtle security feature in case they turn out to be nuts? Everything else is very clear. Nice to see an example of tactile sensation usage along with things entirely psychological. You seem very refined.

One of my friends will deep throat a straw when she is at a bar. She definitly gets alot of attention from that.

Ok, it appears that stroking, licking, and fellating phallic objects is a common means for women to get a potential lover's attention and that's probably because it works wonders as a result of the clarity of its message.

HunnyBlonde, you sound as if you have been refining this for years. I like how you took the time to explain the mentallity that drives the techniques you employ. Very informative.

Thank all of you again.

 

[Miles Long]

One of my friends will deep throat a straw when she is at a bar. She definitly gets alot of attention from that.

Is your friend's name siwi_kubmissive?

 

[CountCunninglvr]

My supply of questions may never end...

I am still very much intrigued by all of you. It has come to my attention that some women actually try to compete with one another with this kind of "signaling" being the basis for competition. So whether you're straight, lesbian, or bi how exactly do these kinds of competition play out for you? Are they only for the fun of seeing who can tease someone the most or do you tend to aim to bring someone home when these outings with girlfriends occur? If there is such a concept driving these things, who is the winner? Do these competitions of sorts ever occur between you and women you've never met?

When these competitions occur between friends, have such things ever been the cause of animosity?

There is more I want to understand, but I'll leave you all with this for now. Thanks to everyone who posted anything.

 

[CountCunninglvr]

I'm still interested in how these competitions play out.

 

[1Browneyedguy]

( a guy) It's funny

(on another Board ) I once commented that I like to sit/work out on a recumbent bike because a
row ahead of me were the stair-masters, etc and the TVs hanging from the ceiling.

Of course I could glance from the TV screen to a nice set of legs and a toned ass...

A woman commented back on that Board that she / they knew guys were watching them and sometimes they put on a little bit of a show...

 

[CountCunninglvr]

Seriously, I want to know more about these "signaling" competitions that go on between women.