Sticking a toe in the water....

[mlynn1202]

Long story short - I have accepted the fact that I am submissive and I'm not damaged, fucked-up, etc because of it. I would like to start looking for a top, but I want to read as much as I can on the lifestyle first.

Can anyone recommend some non-fiction books or guides for me?

Thanks.

 

[JustaSCOUNDREL]

The BDSM Library is the second sticky when you open this board. It seems to be full of information. Since it is free and right here I'd recommend you start there.

Good luck in your search for information and for someone in your life.

Here's a link. http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=266656

Mike

 

[suckmytitties]

Another resource

Also try FetLife...it's like Facebook for us kinksters...

 

[midwestyankee]

Also try FetLife...it's like Facebook for us kinksters...

Do bear in mind, though, that like Facebook, posts at Literotica and FetLife are produced by thousands of ordinary people. You will find conflicting opinions and sometimes even conflicting "facts" presented in the posts. Just as you would be careful when buying something expensive, let the reader beware.

This is not a knock on anyone here or at FetLife, by the way. I am a pretty regular contributor at both sites and have found hundreds of truly valuable posts over the years. But you will find differences of opinion in both places and you'll have to figure out for yourself whose opinions are worth the most. That said, because the population of regulars here at Lit is smaller, it's easier here to identify the solid contributors.

 

[leglicker]

worried

randy here i am worried is everything ok----please pm me for suckmytitties

 

[subwannabe]

Lots of info on the subject but I'm going to give you different advice. Too many people jump into this from the wrong end of the pool. Although this is not always the case I recommend dating regular people who you think might have an interest in what you want, rather than limiting your beginning search to sites, etc providing this lifestyle. Feel your dates out to see if they may be interested or not and move on quickly if it doesn't look like it is going to pan out. You would be surprised on how many "regular folks" are either already into this or would like to be into this lifestyle. Too many people think they have to choose between a cake or eating it when they don't realize it is possible to have your cake and eat it to. By this I mean you may find a meaningful long term marriage type relationship in the lifestyle you want as opposed to finding a master, in ending at some point, and then finding another master - never finding your true love who can provide both.

 

[Primalex]

I'm not damaged, fucked-up, etc because of it..

How do you know?

 

[kingem125]

read the answer i have gotten here there is one link you might wanna look at/visit.....

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/i...LjCUXZXty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20120701012841AALdc7T

 

[efier698]

I am a pretty regular contributor at both sites and have found hundreds of truly valuable posts over the years.
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