Sex with crazy people

[VanessaVixen]

I think a lot of people have stories of crazy exes or fuckbuddies. I certainly do. Several times I've stuck around after the initial realisation that the other person was batshit insane, and the reason has almost exclusively been that the sex was very good.

So, is this a self-destructive tendency in me personally, or are crazy people actually more likely to be reallllly good at sex? I guess it could also be that crazy people are more likely to be kinky.

What's your take on this? Have you ever stayed with crazy because the sex was good? Do you think there's a correlation there, or is it all in my head?



(I hope I didn't post this in the wrong place. I wasn't sure, so I just guessed.)

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I think you might be onto something.

But it depends what you mean by crazy. You said "batshit insane", but I don't think someone has to be certifiable, just more prepared than most to do wild and "crazy" things. Or is that not what you mean at all?

 

[VanessaVixen]

But it depends what you mean by crazy. You said "batshit insane", but I don't think someone has to be certifiable, just more prepared than most to do wild and "crazy" things. Or is that not what you mean at all?

Oh, I mean crazy in a nonsexual way. An example: my latest had a persecution complex, really dysfunctional relationships with his family, and delusions of grandeur. But he was absolutely awesome in the sack. I'm wondering if being crazy out of bed has any correlation with being crazy good in bed.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Oh, I mean crazy in a nonsexual way. An example: my latest had a persecution complex, really dysfunctional relationships with his family, and delusions of grandeur. But he was absolutely awesome in the sack. I'm wondering if being crazy out of bed has any correlation with being crazy good in bed.

Ah, I see. This is an unsatisfactory answer, but all I can say is, not in my experience.

 

[fgarvb1]

Kind of a painful subject with me...

The pressure of getting married (third wife)was enough to bring all the bat-shit craziness that was her world to the surface.

I'm still not sure just how many personalities she had, however two or three of them loved sex for damned sure!

I can't stand crazy people now no matter how good the sex is.

 

[wnt2cumnu]

I understand I think,
There are a lot of crazy, insane, fucked up people in the world.
I once had a g/f, we were on & off then back on for about 6 years.
I kept going back, just for the sex. The sex was great, but she was
CRAZY, it has now been 4 years since we were together, I still see
Her & talk to her (not by choice) but I could have her back right now
If I wanted, only because she's crazy,
I have also had Bad sex with crazy people. I have had great sex
With normal people. Just my opinion, but I think for one the # of crazy
People is far more than the # of sane people, and two, when the sex
Is that great, it's kinda like a drug, the orgasm is the high, then you
Come down off the high, and you notice every little defect in the person.
And moving on from my opinion, so called crazy people or people
With issues, are more likely to be on drugs. Perscription or non.
Either way certin drugs can certinally improve the sexuall craving
Of a person.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Oh, I mean crazy in a nonsexual way. An example: my latest had a persecution complex, really dysfunctional relationships with his family, and delusions of grandeur. But he was absolutely awesome in the sack. I'm wondering if being crazy out of bed has any correlation with being crazy good in bed.

Ah, I see. This is an unsatisfactory answer, but all I can say is, not in my experience.

Not in my experience either, I've had a couple that were certifiable, card carrying members of the Guano Psychotic Society and the sex wasn't all that great. I will say that my first was more of a pledge and the sex was ok with her, but with the full on GPS member sex was horrible.

 

[JKayle]

I've only been with one crazy girl; which I suppose is lucky compared to several stories I hear from friends. The relationship didn't last long, for obvious reasons, and as far as the sex went; it could've been great, but I think I was still a little young and inexperienced to take her up on many of her suggestions.

Hell, if I could relive that week, I'd have crossed quite a few things off my bucket list. Sex is wasted on the young, lol

 

[culloden]

I had a multi-year relationship with a girl who slipped into bi-polar disorder during our time together. It was one of the hardest, most painful times of my life. It's still hard to talk about 25 years later.

 

[IrishEyes80]

I have been with one person I would call CRAZY....he was my first ever, i was in high school....and if I had based my love of sex on sex with him I would never have had sex again....it was not good at all....i was with him for a year....once i finally moved on he told a mutual friend he had AIDS so the friend would come to school and pass the info on to me....the friend had no clue he was lying so naturally I freaked out....that was by far the worst time of my life....even if the sex had been good it wouldn't have been worth it!

 

[sunandshadow]

I think crazy people are more likely to be single than sane ones, and most people who have spent months or years being unwillingly single are willing to go the extra mile in bed. But I don't think crazy = good at sex. Many kinds of crazy would in fact be a big handicap for any kind of intimacy or activities requiring trust.

 

[culloden]

I think crazy people are more likely to be single than sane ones, and most people who have spent months or years being unwillingly single are willing to go the extra mile in bed. But I don't think crazy = good at sex. Many kinds of crazy would in fact be a big handicap for any kind of intimacy or activities requiring trust.

Yes. In my experience, crazy did not translate into "good at sex." In fact, it crippled our sexual relationship. I would only have sex with her when she was level. When she was off to either end of the spectrum, I wouldn't have sex even though she often wanted to - that just didn't seem fully consensual.

 

[VanessaVixen]

I think crazy people are more likely to be single than sane ones, and most people who have spent months or years being unwillingly single are willing to go the extra mile in bed.

This is an explanation I'll happily embrace. Otherwise, since this coincidence doesn't appear to be universal at all, I'll have to accept that I excel at finding emotionally stable partners or sexually exciting ones (but few that are both) due to my own flaws.

On a more serious note, I do empathise with those of you who have suffered from relationships with people who are unstable. It's terrible to watch someone you love struggle with emotional/mental issues, and it's terrible to be at the mercy of the painful rollercoaster that mental illness or emotional instability can be.

When I started this thread I admit I was thinking less of serious mental illness and more of people who make bad decisions for unbelievably stupid reasons. I'm sorry to have brought sad memories to the fore for some of you, and for making a bit light of real problems that have serious effects on the people involved.

 

[yevkassem72]

I think a lot of people have stories of crazy exes or fuckbuddies. I certainly do. Several times I've stuck around after the initial realisation that the other person was batshit insane, and the reason has almost exclusively been that the sex was very good.

So, is this a self-destructive tendency in me personally, or are crazy people actually more likely to be reallllly good at sex? I guess it could also be that crazy people are more likely to be kinky.

What's your take on this? Have you ever stayed with crazy because the sex was good? Do you think there's a correlation there, or is it all in my head?



(I hope I didn't post this in the wrong place. I wasn't sure, so I just guessed.)

God, did I ever? And told my tale of woe to all and sundry. If I had musical talent, I would sing the blues.

But now, as stated elsewhere, I'm completely free of my addiction to Veronica. Took six years and a deportation back to Lebanon to do it, but I'm free of her at last.

 

[Lady Reiha]

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[yevkassem72]

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She must have thought that the snake would spare him out of professional courtesy.

 

[chipcarver]

Have you not seen the series "Fast Times at Ridgemont High" it's the people on the fringe of society that have all the time in the world to think about sex. So when the finely get the chance to act it out it's vavavoom!

 

[culloden]

This is an explanation I'll happily embrace. Otherwise, since this coincidence doesn't appear to be universal at all, I'll have to accept that I excel at finding emotionally stable partners or sexually exciting ones (but few that are both) due to my own flaws.

On a more serious note, I do empathise with those of you who have suffered from relationships with people who are unstable. It's terrible to watch someone you love struggle with emotional/mental issues, and it's terrible to be at the mercy of the painful rollercoaster that mental illness or emotional instability can be.

When I started this thread I admit I was thinking less of serious mental illness and more of people who make bad decisions for unbelievably stupid reasons. I'm sorry to have brought sad memories to the fore for some of you, and for making a bit light of real problems that have serious effects on the people involved.

Oh, well, the people who make bad decisions for unbelievably stupid reasons are an entirely different category. Would have made a lousy thread title, though.

No apology needed. There's no point in regretting or ignoring the past - It made us who we are today.

 

[BongoGal]

I've had good/great sex with a few guys that later turned out to be "crazy". The craziness was a complete turn-off, and there was never any sex again.

 

[lostsouluk79]

i wouldn't say crazy at the time, but afterwards i would say yes.

 

[Maxell46]

I think we've all had one or two. Always interesting

 

[Paul_Chance]

Fringe Crazy

I also sympathize with all the people who have dealt with mental illness in a relationship, that can be devastating.

Sexually, I have never been involved with someone who was mentally ill, in the clinical sense. I have had two relationships with people who I would call "fringe crazy", that is, they lived according to their own drummer - in both cases, the sex was great, in one case, it often reached the specatular level - it was enough for me to put up with a lot of "crazy" stuff, just for the sex.

 

[NomadLady]

Stayed with my ex husband much longer than I should have and he was borderline bi-polar and wouldn't wish that kind of roller coaster ride on my worst enemy. Have been much more careful since then.

 

[NippleMuncher]

But it begs the question ...

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[HoHoBomb]

I'll Have Another