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[herfootrest]

New guy here. I would describe myself as too kinky for the vanilla world but too vanilla for much of this crowd. I do however have very intense desires that have haunted me since I first got my hands on a Penthouse. Some of those stories stirred me in a way I can’t even describe.

I say haunted because I have had very little actual experience in the type of power exchange I desire. Not only is it very difficult to find a partner who shares my desires, but I caught on long ago there is no faster way to chase away a girl than showing my submissive side. I will confess though that probably 98% of the times I have masterbated in my life I have been thinking of a Femdom fantasy of some kind. I am also pretty private about such matters.

I thought it might be a good outlet for me to express some of my thoughts on here and see if they resonate with anyone else.

 

[Loverskitten]

In my search for my own foot rest, I can tell you that your feelings, experiences, and need for discretion are completely normal.
Most male submissive types would say exactly what you said above. Maybe you should try Collar Me, or join Fet, and search out Dominant or switch women. No need to feel haunted, get what you desire.

 

[herfootrest]

In my search for my own foot rest, I can tell you that your feelings, experiences, and need for discretion are completely normal.
Most male submissive types would say exactly what you said above. Maybe you should try Collar Me, or join Fet, and search out Dominant or switch women. No need to feel haunted, get what you desire.

Thanks for your advice. Honestly it's too late now, as I'm married. This type of play would not work in our marriage and I believe in monogamy. Sure it's disappointing to know this part of me will never get to be explored but I have enough other things going well in my marriage and life that I can accept that.

It's probably a stupid thing to do but I often look at Collar me and think which one would I try to pursue? Of course the advantage is I can always assume it would work out just as I fantasize.

I also know from when I was single as hard as it is to find the right person in the vanilla world it's even harder in this world.

 

[Loverskitten]

Ok then...
Hopefully, one day your wife will make your fantasy come true, even if just for one night. You should share this desire with her. Maybe you'll come home from work one day and she'll be wearing nothing but thigh high boots, throw a leash on you, force you to your knees, and grab you by the hair as she shoves your face in her crotch. Then delivers a sharp slap for not acting quickly enough.
Good luck darling

 

[oneguy4fun]

It's probably a stupid thing to do but I often look at Collar me and think which one would I try to pursue? Of course the advantage is I can always assume it would work out just as I fantasize.

Ha! I've done that too. A few times I've even responded just to say to the person that I really thought their profile was great. You should share your desires with your wife. You may be pleasantly surprised at her reaction. Maybe bargain with her....'if you give this a try, I'll do whatever you want...'