The Other Side of the Coin...

boytoyblue

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Not sure how to start this so I am going to jump in.

I have been requested to post the following by my Mistress.

I met my Mistress under the pretense of showing her the ropes of being a Domme. "Pretense" from her point of view. From mine, I was helping another interested in D/s and answering questions. While she hasn't said, I get the feeling what has unfolded has been according to her plan.

I am a Dom. I have accepted and know of my kink for a few years. Reading all the post by the bright people of Lit helped a lot. I have had, and currently have, a few subs. I get tremendous enjoyment out of being a Dom and connecting with a sub. It is a very rewarding experience. Then about six months ago, I was asked to mentor a budding Domme. She was curious about the life style and had a ton of questions. I am comfortable in a teaching role so the relationship was rewarding for both of us.

[Edit - In the beginning, this budding Domme, requested to be my sub. I accepted her as my sub. Looking back now, I believe it was part of Mistresses plan but it also could be Mistress wanted to find out what type of Dom I was. Either way, Mistress was a most enthusiastic sub and was very eager to please and serve me.]

[side note - I am not an expert on D/s and have never claimed to be. In all "teaching' roles, I always advise to read and talk to others - and that my comments are based on my experience (no need to flame here I am just trying to set the scene).]

All was going well. She was experimenting with a few subs and I was giving her pointers and suggestions, and she was performing tasks for me.

Then one weekend, I started sensing something in her that touched something in me.

Her tone had changed. She was more insistent. Her questions became requests.

My tone and the way I reacted to her new tone also changed. I responded in a less than dominate nature. In addition, I liked responding to her in this new way.

To say I fought this new feeling is a massive understatement. I didn't know what these thoughts and urges meant. I got scared. I am always in control. I feel comfortable in control.

But the emails we exchanged since that weekend took on an interesting tone. Rereading them now, you would think the roles were reversed. I, the usual Dom, had the tone of passivity, of meekness, of a submissive nature. She, the usual timid and unsure one, had the tone of aggressiveness, of power, of a dominate nature. As the emails progressed, so did our roles into these new positions.

And because Mistress has requested honesty here, I must say the sub-ness she caused me to feel was intoxicating. I would get lost in the lust.

I opened a part of me I usually didn't open.

I suppose most of you are mentality beaming the term "switch" at the computer monitor in front of you. Its obvious now. But for a person living it and knowing only one side of the D/s coin, the concept felt like part of me was getting lost. I fought it. Hard.

Mistress then requested a phone session. That first time we talked in our new roles was like a drug for us both. I never felt anything like it. There was no turning back.

However, I still fought it. I tried to end the entire relationship once. I was honestly scared.

How could I be a sub?




Fast forward a few months - I have since stopped fighting, and have let Mistress own my submissive self.

The pleasure I feel under her influence and control is just too strong to resist.

It has been an interesting experience and one, at the beginning, I would not have asked for. But from where I kneel now, I am happy and I believe I am pleasing Mistress as only I can.

The Dom still peaks out from time to time. But he turns around, shakes his head, and retreats to another room.

btb
 
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Thank you for sharing. Are you still a Dom in any other relationships?
 
Yes i can relate. I have a sub and i experinced the same thing for yrs. She was a loyal sub, then she wanted to try the dom side.
 
Thank you for sharing. Are you still a Dom in any other relationships?

Yes - I have a sub who I met before I started talking with Mistress.

My sub knows nothing of my switch tendencies. I think it would be a shock to her.


brothertime - did you welcome your sub's "trying the dom side"? After she tried it, assuming it was successful, did she go back to being your sub?


mark36ny - it is. I would have never guessed this development but I am finding it rewarding to let this side of me out for Mistress.

btb
 
Dom, sub, switch, it's about what completes you.
We're all born with a different sense of what it is that makes us whole.
This is a great illustration of coming to terms with that. Glad you shared.
 
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It's good that it seems that you can finally be honest with yourself, and others here for that matter. When do you think it will be time to be honest with your submissive?
 
Can I ask why she wanted you to post this here? Did she want you to seek advice, or...?
 
Can I ask why she wanted you to post this here? Did she want you to seek advice, or...?

I believe (I have not asked) Mistress wanted to push my boundaries in my new role.

She has not requested I seek advice. However, from my point of view, getting advice from others would be nice. This side of my kink, while very new and exciting, is, honestly, still a little scary.
 
I'm a switch, but I am mostly a devoted submissive. It's a release to give yourself over to someone else, they control you and you trust them utterly in that control. I trust no one near my neck, but my mate can take a knife blade and tease it across my throat and I will not flinch, even if bound down and helpless to his will.
 
I am a switch too

I'm a switch, but I am mostly a devoted submissive. It's a release to give yourself over to someone else, they control you and you trust them utterly in that control. I trust no one near my neck, but my mate can take a knife blade and tease it across my throat and I will not flinch, even if bound down and helpless to his will.

I know where you are coming from. There is nothing like giving yourself to someone so completely! The feelings and the emotional space is something that doesn't compare to anything I know. It's my drug of choice! I love having him direct me and he knows how it sends me!:devil::rose::kiss:
 
Exactly, it's such an intoxicating feeling knowing I am his toy or his pet because I know he'll get pleasure from me, and I get endless pleasure from him getting off
 
Exactly, it's such an intoxicating feeling knowing I am his toy or his pet because I know he'll get pleasure from me, and I get endless pleasure from him getting off

It is very interesting following this thread from your perspective. I have always been fascinated by her experience and how to touch the inner pulse of desire in a sub.
 
In general, a submissive lives and breathes to serve and can feed off the pleasure of the one controlling him/her. If you have a good match in a proper Dom then He/She will give the sub everything they need and ensure they get off as well. For myself and my personal view, his arousal at what I'm providing him when I give in to him is the start to the highest pleasure I have achieved so far :)
 
U are so right

In general, a submissive lives and breathes to serve and can feed off the pleasure of the one controlling him/her. If you have a good match in a proper Dom then He/She will give the sub everything they need and ensure they get off as well. For myself and my personal view, his arousal at what I'm providing him when I give in to him is the start to the highest pleasure I have achieved so far :)

I have felt from the beginning with my Dom that he and I were so meant to be! Our relationship had taken me to heights that no one has ever touched on. I hope BTB had that same experience. A good match is so important. It makes the journey so much more incredible! :kiss:
 
I agree with you, it is the best feeling knowing you are connected with someone on such a level that they can know exactly how your body will respond to each caress, touch, nibble or spank xD
 
Yes - I have a sub who I met before I started talking with Mistress.

My sub knows nothing of my switch tendencies. I think it would be a shock to her.


brothertime - did you welcome your sub's "trying the dom side"? After she tried it, assuming it was successful, did she go back to being your sub? =QUOTE]


Yes it was very successful and yes I/we had much fun doing it. I think she is a natural. She went back to her normal sub role but she does like her dom side and I look forward to it when it comes out. Best of both worlds
 
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I am a switch as well

Yes - I have a sub who I met before I started talking with Mistress.

My sub knows nothing of my switch tendencies. I think it would be a shock to her.


brothertime - did you welcome your sub's "trying the dom side"? After she tried it, assuming it was successful, did she go back to being your sub? =QUOTE]


Yes it was very successful and yes I/we had much fun doing it. I think she is a natural. She went back to her normal sub role but she does like her dom side and I look forward to it when it comes out. Best of both worlds

If you ask most switches which side they prefer I believe the sub side beats out the Dom side most times. The lure of the feeling your Dom/domme brings you is so amazing. And if you and your sub have a good connection it's truly a fog like no other! I love it!:rose:
 
If you ask most switches which side they prefer I believe the sub side beats out the Dom side most times. The lure of the feeling your Dom/domme brings you is so amazing. And if you and your sub have a good connection it's truly a fog like no other! I love it!:rose:

Speak for yourself.
More involved I get less appealing I find floating around in servicing mood. That lure is not tasty for me much :rolleyes:
 
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