centurion1986
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i went to see a dominatrix (paid for).. and shes really damaged/hurt my nipples with the clamps and flogged me with a chain flogger really hard on my chest...
ouchhhhh
ouchhhhh
dom hurt me with a chain flogger :X
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Stella_Omega
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Where did you find her, craigslist?
centurion1986
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just using some antiseptic healing cream. i feel like going back to her, feel so submissive towards her now. should i be feeling like this????
BiBunny
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You obviously weren't hurt too bad, then....
Kojote
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Personally I suspect that his head got hit...
Stella_Omega
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Depends if going back to her is actually life threatening or not.
Did you ask her anything in advance, like;
How long have you been doing this, who trained you, do you like your job?
Any crazy ass bitch can buy a chain flogger and some clamps, and there's always some sucker willing to believe her when she puts an ad out there.
BiBunny
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switchbitch
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Centurion,
did you not have a safe word?I have never met a professional dominatrix who would play with a new submissive without one. And I have a lot of lifestyle friends who are pro-dommes. Or is it that you simply didn't use it?
In which case you actually asked for it. If you asked her to stop and she didn't that's another kettle of fish altogether. Although they may seem like they are able to Dommes/Doms don't read minds and they need feedback when something is too much you know.
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AllTorment
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Pffft. I'm sure there'd be some begging involved first.
Kojote
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Not with me.
In this special case I'd get my bat... err... 'flogger' and he'd never have to complain about anything again...
Stella_Omega
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Dude, really?Not with me.
In this special case I'd get my bat... err... 'flogger' and he'd never have to complain about anything again...
The guy got hurt when he wasn't expecting to. He's processing the experience.
Stella_Omega
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I've seen this kind of thing happen, in real life. There are thousands of women out there looking for income and being a "Domme" sounds so much better than being a prostitute. it's just a matter of hitting up your local adult novelties store and buying whatever looks cute, right? And there are thousands of men desperate for attention. They don't know anything about BDSm either.Stella I love your serious, honest and nurturing nature, I really do.
Makes me want to steal you and keep mine forever
But in this particular case I do suspect you shouldnt believe everything you read on the internet.
Another problem for inexperienced dommes is in assessing a guy's pain reactions. Newbies very often can't tell what level of pain they are experiencing because it's all so wonderful and overwhelming. They don't communicate with their top-- who needs to know how to tell when this is happening, if they are going to take money. That's why I would recommend asking something about the lady's bona fides. BDSM is a little bit more like rocket science than your basic hump is.
And with so many veteran returning home, my domme friends tell me that they are getting men who really refuse to acknowledge pain, even extreme pain. It's pretty important to recognise this when it happens, and that takes some mentorship and training.
StrayKat
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I know my dear, and that is not just an issue for wannabe pro-Dommes I believe. I am being asked for certain things all the time and I refuse point blank until I 1) try them on my own skin 2) talk and learn from much more experienced people.
Makes for some frustrated young men but I rather lose the hasty boytoy than seriously hurt him.
Of course I flatter myself to have a bit more responsibility than lets-make-some-easy-cash "Domme" types.
But my remark was about this particular OP. Seeing his posting history I would say we dont need to be worried about him.
Stella_Omega
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Haha, I see what you mean!
Kojote
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What?
I'm just trying to save him the money...!
*where's this perfect angel smilie again?*
PaulBlart
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Centurion, it's hard to tell from your description whether there was a discussion of limits and do's/don'ts. Any pro will have this discussion and the three I have visited adhered to this, but pushed me just a little past where I had previously thought I was comfortable. Now, I can tell you that, in my experience, I was sore for several days after these sessions. I asked for nipple torture for my sessions and your nipples will be exquisitely tender for several days and may even bleed after a domina works them over. Sometimes there will be bruising and quite frankly my ass was so sore I had a hard time sitting for three days. I loved it, because the pain kept reminding me of the session. That said, I don't know if you are really hurt or just experiencing the after effects of a good beating. If you are truly hurt, don't go back. Find someone else.
PrettyProse
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Honestly, if I was going to make a career out of being a Domme, there would be some talking and questions going on. LOTS of it. You don't take someone's money and then mess up the experience for them. Sheesh...
Lizzie_Borden
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Judging from the OPs other posts, my guess is, the experience wasn't ruined, he loved it.
If it happened.
