Submitting

[Feelfreetotouch]

It's always on my mind but not in the way you'd think. I don't wish to be topped by my wife and or any women I know personally. But for the last few months, I don't care where I am, if I see a pretty woman (who I don't know) all I can think about is being topped. I'm naturally a dom, and have been my entire life, that is, until I met my online Mistress. I started submitting to her as a form of release/excitement only to begin to crave it. I only submitted to her, and retained my dom mindset in my RL for the first few years. Then one day, the sub in me became the dominant side of my sexual personality. But again, not with my wife or when thinking fantasizing about women I know personally. Guess I know they could never top me. Or do I just want to be taken by a stranger?

Who knows.

 

[subbie_333]

It's always on my mind but not in the way you'd think. I don't wish to be topped by my wife and or any women I know personally. But for the last few months, I don't care where I am, if I see a pretty woman (who I don't know) all I can think about is being topped. I'm naturally a dom, and have been my entire life, that is, until I met my online Mistress. I started submitting to her as a form of release/excitement only to begin to crave it. I only submitted to her, and retained my dom mindset in my RL for the first few years. Then one day, the sub in me became the dominant side of my sexual personality. But again, not with my wife or when thinking fantasizing about women I know personally. Guess I know they could never top me. Or do I just want to be taken by a stranger?

Who knows.

You could be a switch. If so, there are some who think you would be better off killing yourself. But, that would be silly.

Go with it. Find out where it goes. Then, report back. And, answer your own questions.

 

[ataxia.girl]

You could be a switch. If so, there are some who think you would be better off killing yourself. But, that would be silly.

Go with it. Find out where it goes. Then, report back. And, answer your own questions.

My very Dominant Bastard Daddy had submissive fantasies. When i first found out i was extremely upset, like i'd had the rug pulled out from under me. Here i am, a strong, intelligent, successful woman and i have submitted ALMOST COMPLETELY to a man who wanted to be a sub to another woman. No no no, i can only submit to the very strongest D and all that shit was going through my mind.

He was very candid with me, told me it had nothing to do with my relationship with him and he wasn't going to apologize for his fantasies. i was over it within the hour and continued to submit to him. When he was on his game he was still the best D i've been with.

i have little doubt that his submissive fantasies made him a better, more in tune, Dominant.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

My very Dominant Bastard Daddy had submissive fantasies. When i first found out i was extremely upset, like i'd had the rug pulled out from under me. Here i am, a strong, intelligent, successful woman and i have submitted ALMOST COMPLETELY to a man who wanted to be a sub to another woman. No no no, i can only submit to the very strongest D and all that shit was going through my mind.

He was very candid with me, told me it had nothing to do with my relationship with him and he wasn't going to apologize for his fantasies. i was over it within the hour and continued to submit to him. When he was on his game he was still the best D i've been with.

i have little doubt that his submissive fantasies made him a better, more in tune, Dominant.

It has been very useful in all aspects of my life. I'm glad I found my sub side, thats for sure.

 

[Netzach]

Hm.

Sounds more like you have concrete bottom fantasies you want fulfilled. When you know a woman well you'll have to submit to boring Target runs and cat vet visits and life stuff in addition to hot things she does to you that you didn't think of.

Hey, I'm a complicated animal too in that regard, but as an FDom when I hear "oh I can't see my wife/friend/etc" that way it kind of tells me that the familiar and the real threaten the erotic and the compartmentalized.

ag, you're like my second ultimate fantasy. I always wanted to commit the worst possible sadism on another woman by nothing I do to her directly but by owning her master and thus she has to deal with all that means to her. Yum.

 

[ataxia.girl]

Hey, I'm a complicated animal too in that regard, but as an FDom when I hear "oh I can't see my wife/friend/etc" that way it kind of tells me that the familiar and the real threaten the erotic and the compartmentalized.

That was what actually made BD's submission fantasies more threatening. He fantasized about submitting to his main SO who he lived with. i was just a toy on the side.

ag, you're like my second ultimate fantasy. I always wanted to commit the worst possible sadism on another woman by nothing I do to her directly but by owning her master and thus she has to deal with all that means to her. Yum.

There was a thread awhile back about an evil step mommy. In that thread a Daddy\lg couple was looking for a mommy sub but yeah its hotter if the mommy is actually Mommy.

Jealousy is an underrated emotion. i find i like to play with those "he loves me best because he fucks me at 3am and its a special secret just between us" feelings. i know She is really on the top but i pretend he is and he likes me best. Fun fun fun.

i also like the idea of living in a household where the pecking order is randomly switched around on you. One moment i am the bratty little girl ordering the house boy to take care of my epilating needs and the next i am being ordered to suck off same house boy by terrible wicked step Mother and daddy takes her side.

 

[Essene]

You could be a switch. If so, there are some who think you would be better off killing yourself. But, that would be silly.

Go with it. Find out where it goes. Then, report back. And, answer your own questions.

SUBBIE!!!! That's terrible. *laugh*

I was going to say he could be a switch as well.

I think it would be good to explore your feelings, and please don't feel guilty about them.

Best of luck.

 

[oneguy4fun]

Every once in awhile it's nice just to let go of all that control and let someone else take over. It can be very relaxing and de-stressing

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

Hm.

Sounds more like you have concrete bottom fantasies you want fulfilled. When you know a woman well you'll have to submit to boring Target runs and cat vet visits and life stuff in addition to hot things she does to you that you didn't think of.

Hey, I'm a complicated animal too in that regard, but as an FDom when I hear "oh I can't see my wife/friend/etc" that way it kind of tells me that the familiar and the real threaten the erotic and the compartmentalized.

ag, you're like my second ultimate fantasy. I always wanted to commit the worst possible sadism on another woman by nothing I do to her directly but by owning her master and thus she has to deal with all that means to her. Yum.

True, most of my sub desires are sexual, mainly because I don't have a Domme that uses me for anything other than sex. When my wife tries to order me around, things don't go over very well.

 

[unfoundiamond]

It's always on my mind but not in the way you'd think. I don't wish to be topped by my wife and or any women I know personally. But for the last few months, I don't care where I am, if I see a pretty woman (who I don't know) all I can think about is being topped. I'm naturally a dom, and have been my entire life, that is, until I met my online Mistress. I started submitting to her as a form of release/excitement only to begin to crave it. I only submitted to her, and retained my dom mindset in my RL for the first few years. Then one day, the sub in me became the dominant side of my sexual personality. But again, not with my wife or when thinking fantasizing about women I know personally. Guess I know they could never top me. Or do I just want to be taken by a stranger?

Who knows.

I think some of it is a result of you enjoying the objectification, and approval received.

If the ordering from the wife isn't working its some operator error... because you do take orders rather well, I am assured.

I am glad to see something interesting to post about, well done.

Well done.

**fans herself**

 

[lilylicious]

Domming the Dom

I'm finding that dominants are particularly attracted to me. I'm not sure why. Maybe it's my style or perhaps because I'm not bitchy enough LOL. For whatever reason, they're choosing to submit to me for the first time when they've never submitted before, and yet they've continued to dom.

As a Domme, I can't really understand this line of thinking because I have zero desire to taste the other side. However, I do find it very interesting.

These Doms are by in large a mouthy bunch, which I rather enjoy actually, but are respectful of me, even being pretty new to the scene.

I find it incredibly hot to work with them knowing these men who dominate women submit to only me. Domming the Dom, taming the untameable.

I have a very hot fantasy about watching the one I play with in real life dom and then domming him.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

It's getting easier to give in to the one.

 

[lilylicious]

It's called submission, pet. And it's beautiful.

It's getting easier to give in to the one.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

Finding the right women is hard, but when you do it's amazing. I just wish it could be in person so I could feel the touch and not only hear the voice but feel the breath as she whispers commands in my ear. And finally see those dancer's legs in person.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

It's been a few years now and quenching the thirst is very difficult when it's online only. What to do?

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's been a few years now and quenching the thirst is very difficult when it's online only. What to do?

I can think of a few choices;

1) cheat on your wife.

2) continue to rely on fantasy.

3) communicate with your wife, lose your ingrained reactions regarding her ordering you around, and build a new relationship with her.

None of these are easy things to do.

 

[seela]

4) Talk with your wife about opening your relationship and finding a person to try these things with in real life.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

I can think of a few choices;

1) cheat on your wife.

2) continue to rely on fantasy.

3) communicate with your wife, lose your ingrained reactions regarding her ordering you around, and build a new relationship with her.

None of these are easy things to do.

I'll never cheat.

I will continue to rely on fantasy

I've tried talking to the wife but she is just non-sexual, sans a day or two a month.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

4) Talk with your wife about opening your relationship and finding a person to try these things with in real life.

She'd freak out. She thinks oral sex and anal sex are gross and only for pervy people. An open marriage-- I'd like to see that reaction.

 

[secretlover1]

does this thread only get visited once a year over 4 years??!

 

[Stella_Omega]

does this thread only get visited once a year over 4 years??!

The internet never forgets.

 

[BiBunny]

I can think of a few choices;

1) cheat on your wife.

2) continue to rely on fantasy.

3) communicate with your wife, lose your ingrained reactions regarding her ordering you around, and build a new relationship with her.

None of these are easy things to do.

I'll never cheat.

I will continue to rely on fantasy

I've tried talking to the wife but she is just non-sexual, sans a day or two a month.

4) Talk with your wife about opening your relationship and finding a person to try these things with in real life.

She'd freak out. She thinks oral sex and anal sex are gross and only for pervy people. An open marriage-- I'd like to see that reaction.

5.) Continue to complain about it while doing nothing to change it and denying that you are, in fact, cheating on your wife if you're pursuing these fantasies online and not telling her about it.

 

[YourCaptor]

Man I miss that girl ataxia.

You give her a bit of lead way, cause well, she was special, and then suddenly she is like the clearest girl you will ever talk too. No gray zones, no beating around the bush, no hints, or clues, or any of that shit, it's all just their, and god that is refreshing.

Anyone know if she is still around? Fetlife maybe?

 

[StrayKat]

Man I miss that girl ataxia.

Yeah, one of the rare no-nonsense type of girls under all her complexity.
I cant even talk to an average ordinary female, too much of a drama queening for me

 

[His_pet_slut]

Yeah, one of the rare no-nonsense type of girls under all her complexity.
I cant even talk to an average ordinary female, too much of a drama queening for me

pssst...I'm no drama queen...then again, I like to think I'm not your average ordinary female either.