what am I?

[just_me2011]

So i want to tie up a beautiful woman and do delicious things to her body. I want to spank her cause her pleasureable pain. I want to put her on the edge and deny her till i make her big "O" feel like a bullet train just rocked her world, then do it again. On the other hand i think i want to be taken charge of told hey do this and shut it.... so what am I???

 

[Stella_Omega]

Bravo!

You are a service top.

A service top is someone who takes the active part in sex, where their partner's pleasure is their first concern.

It can be difficult though, to get your intent across to women, who mostly understand their desire for sensation to be "Submissiveness." The concept of a dominant bottom is somewhat unknown in these times. You may have to do some educating, both of yourself and of your Ladies. Fun times ahead...

 

[Jaded_One]

So i want to tie up a beautiful woman and do delicious things to her body. I want to spank her cause her pleasureable pain. I want to put her on the edge and deny her till i make her big "O" feel like a bullet train just rocked her world, then do it again. On the other hand i think i want to be taken charge of told hey do this and shut it.... so what am I???

Would this desire in bold suggest maybe a switch Stella?

 

[DVS]

The opening post reminds me of an old (very old) daytime quiz show called "What's My Line" where someone tried to fool a blindfolded panel and take home cash. The OP is similar to what the secret guest would "sign in" on a black board, with chalk (I told you it was old) for the audience's benefit.

Sorry for the side track. Now you may resume your normal posting practice.

 

[StrayKat]

So i want to tie up a beautiful woman and do delicious things to her body. I want to spank her cause her pleasureable pain. I want to put her on the edge and deny her till i make her big "O" feel like a bullet train just rocked her world, then do it again. On the other hand i think i want to be taken charge of told hey do this and shut it.... so what am I???

I call myself a switch just to have *some* label to explain without too many words. Like "no, sorry, I dont want to be your lifetime Mistress/slave because you see I am a switch".
But I could write down 2 pages long essay about what I feel, when and why and even longer one about what I feel and have no clue why exactly. And all that would again change with another, different person.
I am pretty sure I could carry just about any kind of label in various situations and maybe even a few that havent been invented yet.

You sure sound delicious to me, not matter *what* you are. Do you really want to put yourself in labeled box? What if you decide the shape doesnt fit you some day?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Would this desire in bold suggest maybe a switch Stella?

Not really -- to me-- since I see both desires to be the same side of the same coin-- service oriented. (I can say this with confidence because OP PM'd me thanking me for my suggestion, saying he thought it was accurate)

You sure sound delicious to me, not matter *what* you are. Do you really want to put yourself in labeled box?

You answered your own question;

I call myself a switch just to have *some* label to explain without too many words.

What if you decide the shape doesnt fit you some day?

Then you change it. People do, all the time.

 

[StrayKat]

Then you change it. People do, all the time.

Yes, we do. The problem is sometimes explaining to others that you changed. At least I had a really nasty experience with somebody not accepting I changed and wanted to change me back at any cost. Maybe that is why I am wary of declaring to be something explicit.

Mind, I am not dissing your answer to OP in any way, it is good thing people can have something "written" to identify with.
I am just saying one should take the labels with a little bit of salt just in case they find out the one they picked doesnt exactly describe them, not try to "fit in the box" but be themselves no matter if they fit in any box out there.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I am just saying one should take the labels with a little bit of salt just in case they find out the one they picked doesnt exactly describe them, not try to "fit in the box" but be themselves no matter if they fit in any box out there.

OMG yes, this!

Remember that we all change, all the time. And therefore our labels must change as well, or else be wrong. And yes, it can be hard to explain to other people that we've changed, but what I see more often is people who won't recognise change in themselves.

 

[StrayKat]

And yes, it can be hard to explain to other people that we've changed, but what I see more often is people who won't recognise change in themselves.

Recognize or accept them. It is hard either way. It is hard to see someone you thought you knew like the back of your palm grow into something you hardly recognize. It is hard to accept you are not happy with the way things are anymore and need something different as well.
I believe we all have a different possibilities to change burried deep down inside us from the start, I just dont know what might trigger a certain one. It doesnt seem to make much sense always.

The way I see it, the biggest trap is when you think you can direct the changing, based on something you saw or think you saw in that other person. There is always a big chance you can kiss a Sleeping Beauty and find yourself awakening an Evil Queen instead. Been there, had it done on myself. And he could never understand what made me change the way he never intended. Neither could I for that matter.

 

[Stella_Omega]

In any case, the notion of a service top is something that needs much more acceptance in BDSM communities, in my experience. Not every relationship has to be D/s.

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

I'm a lot like the OP. I do love being in control as a top, but even as I'm hurting and abusing the submissive, I am also equally concerned with her enjoyment of the scene. My submissives often cum at least once during our scenes.

I also have subby tendencies myself. Embrace your switchy nature! It's a wonderful thing to be able to play with anyone who captivates you, regardless of which role they fill.

 

[daddie]

So i want to tie up a beautiful woman and do delicious things to her body. I want to spank her cause her pleasureable pain. I want to put her on the edge and deny her till i make her big "O" feel like a bullet train just rocked her world, then do it again. On the other hand i think i want to be taken charge of told hey do this and shut it....

so what am I???

The average guy?

 

[manyways4u]

So i want to tie up a beautiful woman and do delicious things to her body. I want to spank her cause her pleasureable pain. I want to put her on the edge and deny her till i make her big "O" feel like a bullet train just rocked her world, then do it again. On the other hand i think i want to be taken charge of told hey do this and shut it.... so what am I???

I am the exact same way depending on my mood and the person. I thought that made me a switch.

 

[just_me2011]

wow convo

So I kinda though that I was a switch. I agree with some that I don't want to be labeled per say! I do want to have a wide and varied array of experiences and knowledge. I think it'll depend on partner and mood and all kinda things as to what happens! Service top sounded like me I like to be making her happy and be doing work her pleasure first... so thanks all!!

 

[Kojote]

The opening post reminds me of an old (very old) daytime quiz show called "What's My Line" where someone tried to fool a blindfolded panel and take home cash. The OP is similar to what the secret guest would "sign in" on a black board, with chalk (I told you it was old) for the audience's benefit.

Sorry for the side track. Now you may resume your normal posting practice.

Hey! I know that one!
In Germany there always was a piggybank and it got 5,- DM for every wrong answer in it...
Ohh good old days...