Battle sex

[switchbitch]

Most of you know by now and the name will tell you if you didn't that I am a switch and on rare occasionsI get to play with other switches.One of the things that I find particularly enthralling and exciting is battle sex: the battle of wills and bodies to define which direction the dynamic is going to roll on each occasion.
The rush when I overcome my play pal excites my dominant side to the point where I get prickles all the way up my spine. And the sublime feeling of being overpowered heightens my submission and turns me to a puddle of goo.
On occasion I have played this game with those who were as a rule completely dominant or with those who are very submissive and they seem to have thoroughly enjoyed it as well even though it was not their natural state if they happened to "Lose".
It makes me think that perhaps many more of us have a touch of the switch than we think(and after reading the BDSM scores many of them seem to)or perhaps that we just want to see what it's like from the other side.
What do you guys think and do you enjoy battle sex?

 

[Loverskitten]

I know I am switch. Watching my ex wince pleased me so. We'd play and I'd tease quite a bit. He called me a Sadist more than a few times. I knew his sensitive parts and his weaknesses, and used them.
In fact I have such a dominant personality a friend actually said "you'd be a terrible bottom"
However a Man who can handle me turns me on more than I ever thought possible.
"battle sex" huh? Never heard the term but, yes I love it.

 

[switchbitch]

I know I am switch. Watching my ex wince pleased me so. We'd play and I'd tease quite a bit. He called me a Sadist more than a few times. I knew his sensitive parts and his weaknesses, and used them.
In fact I have such a dominant personality a friend actually said "you'd be a terrible bottom"
However a Man who can handle me turns me on more than I ever thought possible.
"battle sex" huh? Never heard the term but, yes I love it.

Chuckling, it would be difficult for you to have heard it since I coined it to describe what I like. It just seemed like an apt term. It sounds like you enjoy both sides of the coin too.a Man who can handle medoes carry that wonderful feeling of being taken over. Thank you for the feedback.

 

[Loverskitten]

Haha ok. Well I have had to look up more than one term I saw on these boards *blushes*
"Battle sex" makes me think of "Battle Bots" *giggle*

 

[switchbitch]

Haha ok. Well I have had to look up more than one term I saw on these boards *blushes*
"Battle sex" makes me think of "Battle Bots" *giggle*

I had to google battle bots lol

 

[AdamHaigh13]

I had to google battle bots lol

I feel i am a bit of both aswell as i may start of as submissive then turn out dominant. it sepends on the atmosphere and person.i feel myself getting aroused during these battles

 

[just4friends]

battle for sex?

Bring it on "beotch"!! Let's see who's willing to switch.

I'm confident that I can make winning or losing look good, depending on whether I'm feeling like subbing or domming, but I have a little nervous tingle in my stomach that says if I get into this you might have a few hidden tricks that might make this a match go your way. I'm guessing there are no rules, and therefore, as a man, I will have certain disadvantages that you will use to your advantage.

So if I say yes, obviously I'm in the mood to have you in control, but I'm going to put up a reasonable fight to let you have the upper hand....

Then again, if we get into it and you aren't playing dirty, then I guess you don't really want to win....

Who wouldn't want to start playing with a battle to determine what's really on your mind? Granted other times you could make it quite clear what you wanted without first wasting all that energy.

I could use the extra exercise.

Make your move!

 

[StrayKat]

do you enjoy battle sex?

*nods*

Immensely. That is just about the best part of sex for me.
I cant seem to be able to find many partners who would enjoy it just as much though.

 

[AdamHaigh13]

<------ here lol...the gentle build of the battle

 

[FurryFury]

Sounds fun. I can see the reality show version in my head. LOL

We sometimes do wrestling sex. Probably about the same thing.

I've also heard it called resistance play when there is much physical tussling between two.

 

[Keroin]

Battle!

Sorry, couldn't help it.

 

[JackVettriano]

When we fight we love

I am very interested in what people have to say here. I find that when we have been apart for a while and we are both very horny, it sometimes gets in the way of relaxing and we argue a lot. Then when we get to grips with each other it gets physical. Depending on how she is feeling and also how my mind is, I can become very dominant and end up fucking her very hard physically. Or other times I just let her take control and she loves to dominate me, but more with feelings than physically dominant she will push me down and suck on me until I almost cum, then stop and push my face into her pussy. I like it when she gets on top and foes for it. Mostly it's me who takes the lead when we are both wanting or need angry sex. I guess I am nit sure where I sit with all this but it's very interesting. Today I am horny and she won't be home for a while. I will need to just get the frustration out of my system when she gets home, and then we can make love and I can be sensitive and look after her desires!

Anyone else feel like this?

 

[TellMeWhatToDo]

I find the dynamic of two switches mentality fighting for dominance or even a single switch over-taking the partner to be very erotic and immensely enjoyable.

There is something almost magical about that moment when both parties know the dynamic has changed.

Usually the one who lost the upper hand starts the discussion afterwords asking how and what tripped the change. Its like they don't want to make the same mistake again.

 

[StrayKat]

Its like they don't want to make the same mistake again.

I dont know, I never felt it like mistake.
I love "winning" and "losing" equally.

 

[TellMeWhatToDo]

I dont know, I never felt it like mistake.
I love "winning" and "losing" equally.

True, but it is still a battle. Each one is fighting for dominance. Pleasure is to be had at both ends but usually each has a desire to flip and pin the other.

 

[StrayKat]

True, but it is still a battle. Each one is fighting for dominance. Pleasure is to be had at both ends but usually each has a desire to flip and pin the other.

Yes, in a way, but not exactly.
If I hate something then its to give in on my own, to let someone actually weaker in some way to overpower me, for whatever reason.
But I truly enjoy being outsmarted, manipulated without my knowledge, bested in any way. Being handled with ease no matter how much I fight it.

I will always fight and if I win over equally strong opponent I feel a joy. But if they prove stronger or "better" then I am in bliss, they feel truly worthy of all my effort and adoration.

Maybe I am not true <something> or maybe I just lack insight to express myself at this point. It is how I feel though.

 

[His_pet_slut]

This is all quite interesting to me. In a previous life, I often worked at provoking 'angry sex' and would sometimes bite hard enough to leave bruises on his shoulder or chest. When that urge to bite came, it was almost impossible to tamp down and ignore. Now, I recognize it for what it was (for me). I needed hard, forceful sex. I craved being taken, dominated. He could not give me that for the most part. I was frustrated. I had to work to reach orgasm. Things were not 'good' in the relationship.

Now, with M~ as well as other dominant lovers I've had, it is different and I no longer have that desire to push (or bite, lol) that I had in the past. Perhaps because he makes sure I know in no uncertain terms who is in charge. He pushes my boundaries...just enough...and I have given over full control.

 

[StrayKat]

This is all quite interesting to me. In a previous life, I often worked at provoking 'angry sex' and would sometimes bite hard enough to leave bruises on his shoulder or chest. When that urge to bite came, it was almost impossible to tamp down and ignore. Now, I recognize it for what it was (for me). I needed hard, forceful sex. I craved being taken, dominated. He could not give me that for the most part. I was frustrated. I had to work to reach orgasm. Things were not 'good' in the relationship.

Now, with M~ as well as other dominant lovers I've had, it is different and I no longer have that desire to push (or bite, lol) that I had in the past. Perhaps because he makes sure I know in no uncertain terms who is in charge. He pushes my boundaries...just enough...and I have given over full control.

Do you ever feel the urge to "test" that control?

 

[His_pet_slut]

Do you ever feel the urge to "test" that control?

hmmm, no, I really don't. We are not 24/7 and do not get a lot of time together, so perhaps that is a factor. *shrugs* Maybe if we were physically together more than a few times a month it would be different? I don't know.

 

[StrayKat]

hmmm, no, I really don't. We are not 24/7 and do not get a lot of time together, so perhaps that is a factor. *shrugs* Maybe if we were physically together more than a few times a month it would be different? I don't know.

You see I am asking because you say you have given away your control. I dont think I am able to do that, if I understood you right.
I want to have my control taken away and I will fight it all the way, not just at that particular moment but later on as well. I would lay in wait and probe and try to find vulnerable spots to punch.

While I do understand it would probably make for completely impossible real life situation, it is still the one I can see myself in knowing myself as far as I do at this point.

So I was wondering if you did have urges to test, how do you deal with them.

 

[Jaded_One]

Battle!

Sorry, couldn't help it.

ROFL!! 6,360 battles... no injuries

 

[Eager2TRYRU]

Most of you know by now and the name will tell you if you didn't that I am a switch and on rare occasionsI get to play with other switches.One of the things that I find particularly enthralling and exciting is battle sex: the battle of wills and bodies to define which direction the dynamic is going to roll on each occasion.
The rush when I overcome my play pal excites my dominant side to the point where I get prickles all the way up my spine. And the sublime feeling of being overpowered heightens my submission and turns me to a puddle of goo.
On occasion I have played this game with those who were as a rule completely dominant or with those who are very submissive and they seem to have thoroughly enjoyed it as well even though it was not their natural state if they happened to "Lose".
It makes me think that perhaps many more of us have a touch of the switch than we think(and after reading the BDSM scores many of them seem to)or perhaps that we just want to see what it's like from the other side.
What do you guys think and do you enjoy battle sex?

Switchbitch you always have interesting posts and threads and this one is no exception. Me personally, Battle Sex is not my favorite description... I prefer something like Dom flipping... but a rose by any other name.

My question for you is... what gets you to flip and become submissive? I've noticed with my wife... the more pleasure she receives the less dominant she is... usually after one or two orgasms she's flipped. In some ways I wish she was harder to flip... in other ways... I enjoy giving her orgasm after orgasm so... I guess it's a win/win.

 

[His_pet_slut]

You see I am asking because you say you have given away your control. I dont think I am able to do that, if I understood you right.
I want to have my control taken away and I will fight it all the way, not just at that particular moment but later on as well. I would lay in wait and probe and try to find vulnerable spots to punch.

While I do understand it would probably make for completely impossible real life situation, it is still the one I can see myself in knowing myself as far as I do at this point.

So I was wondering if you did have urges to test, how do you deal with them.

hmm, interesting. M~ seems to think I do sometimes have urges to test and I express them by say being late in arriving at his condo...or not fully reading the text and missing part of the instructions on what I am to do when I arrive.

I think it is just because I tend to flit around like a hummingbird when I'm excited and happy and miss the details that I don't miss when I am say working.

 

[StrayKat]

hmm, interesting. M~ seems to think I do sometimes have urges to test and I express them by say being late in arriving at his condo...or not fully reading the text and missing part of the instructions on what I am to do when I arrive.

I think it is just because I tend to flit around like a hummingbird when I'm excited and happy and miss the details that I don't miss when I am say working.

I can rely to that. I tend to brush aside whatever seems less important when I am in highly excited state of happiness or even arousal. In the process I sometimes overlook some more important things.

Since I tend to "provoke" just as you described in one of your previous posts, I was wondering if I can relate to your motives as well. I *do* know I am asking for a fight but I am not always certain why. Sometimes it is simply because I want to overpower somebody. Sort of "bring it".

But some other times it is not that simple. Under my very real fight to win (and I do fight to win, no matter what it takes) there is a desire to be beaten by somebody truly stronger in every way. I dont really get that much though, usually I give in to avoid hurt feelings and get frustrated and unhappy about it.

I know, if I ever found that one person that could win over me, I would still try to flip him at any possible moment. And I dont really know how to deal with that knowledge.

 

[His_pet_slut]

I think mine stemmed more from a desire to be overpowered. I honestly don't think I have a lot of 'switch' in me. I truly don't want to overpower someone. Do I get off on pushing him past his level of control of his own orgasms sometimes? Oh hell yeah and I'll own the flush of victory I feel when I make him lose that control. I have enough ego to admit to loving to hear a man groan 'baby girl, where did you learn to do that' when I have his cock in my mouth. But the need to physically overpower or inflict pain I often felt before? It is gone now. I much prefer to have the pain inflicted on me and recognize that is what I was trying to provoke back then.