Jiffylube5701
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Being who you are? What stops you? Why not live the live you were meant to live? Personally, I'm in the closet and its hard to live this way.
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Being who you are? What stops you? Why not live the live you were meant to live? Personally, I'm in the closet and its hard to live this way.
I can't speak for others but for me its the acceptance issue. One of my really good friends is very closed minded about homosexuality. I'm also married and although my husband knows I am bi, I don't know what his fairly conservative family will think. I agree it is hard to live this way, and I'm slowly opening up more and more people.
Oh to be able to do just that. To be able to hold hands while we are shopping or a small kiss when she opens the car door for me. I have said before that I admire the women that have the ability to live their lives as they wish and not give in to the scrutiny or social and family pressures. For me I would face a tremendous amount of questioning from family and co workers and even some friends. My two kids know and one is all for it and the other is just as much against it. Seems to be the same in society. Perhaps in my lifetime I will be able to get married to a woman and not have to feel like I have to defend my decision. Oh to be able to do just that.
I know it isn't the same thing but I have to tell you that of all of the people I have told about my cross-dressing not one of them has treated me any differently and most of them where pretty amazed that I was comfortable enough to share that part of me with them.
I am a firm believer in living for yourself and making yourself happy , if your friend has a problem with you being bi that would be her problem not yours , a least in my opinion.
Live life and enjoy it while you can !
T
Im pretty much out to my friends, but I cant come out to my family. Ill lose my grandfather, and for whatever reason, his homophobic ass means alot to me. My father would kill me- literally put me in the ground. This is a man who shot me in the back with a shotgun because I was "getting to big for my britches" the morning of the day I tried to leave for college. It would not go well...
And I just dont see a reason to risk my life like that unless we were getting married or something.
Plus, he probably wouldnt get in trouble for it. This guy I went to highschool with had a crush on another guy and actually had the courage to tell him. The guy acted cool- they even managed to sneak off and fuck. Then word got out. The dude he had liked was on the football team, and I guess couldn't risk his reputation or whatever, so he lured the guy into a situation where he and some of his jock buddies raped him, beat the shit out of him, and left him tied up naked in the football field. He was to scared to talk and his ma wouldn't press charges. No one got in trouble, and they moved out of town. Hate crimes still happen. I'm fucking scared. Aren't you guys scared?
what's this closet you speak of
I think it is the same thing. Its a lifestyle that per society is "not normal". I have always been caught up in what other people think of me and its a hard thing to just ignore. However, the more and more people I let in on my sexuality, the more I feel more comfortable with myself. I am hoping that one day I really won't care how other people feel about me. Like you said, its their problem, not mine. Its just hard to see the disappointment in their eyes.
I agree...sex is fun when you open up and just enjoy but people like to judge and not just enjoy the moment. People freak out. Worry because they are being judged for there pleasure. I am not explaining this well but I guess if people would just take it for what it is..****, sex, pleasure, and connection. Then just went on with your life then we all could explore our passion no matter what it is.
Wow. Spoke just like a bi dude that can run right back to his happy ass str8 life when he's done.
Just to clue you in Slick, for some of us this isn't just a moment, but our lives.
Sorry did not mean to offend...I guess it is ok for you to live your life your way but I can live my life mine...enjoy
Better yet, why not remember that all of our "moments" of freedom of any type have been bought and paid for with the blood and the courage of the incredible men and women that have fought and died for our country for two and a quarter centuries so that we may have the freedoms that we take for granted. When we stop and give a few of these moments to realize that more of these brave souls will likely die today so that we can have the freedom to pursue our own thing, perhaps we could find it within us to be more tolerable of others of which we disagree. When I read of another young man or woman that was a father or mother, brother or sister, daughter or son to someone and they won't be coming home, it makes me realize that my problems pale in comparison. Just a thought.
Because they have ALWAYS been there and because I KNOW you wouldn't dare try to say that LGBT people are any less patriotic then str8 people, how does the military have any bearing on this discussion?
And we should be grateful that they ALWAYS have been there. Why did you feel compelled to try and make it a straight vs glbt issue anyway? Did my post say anything of the sort? The military has bearing in this discussion because they are the ones that have given far more blood and courage than any non military group can fathom. No group - be they gay or straight or political or whatever has ever, nor will they ever give as much blood or show more courage than the incredible men and women in our armed forces. They are the primary reason we have the freedom to chose our sexual orientation. If those that came before us and those that stand to protect freedom today were not there, you and I most likely would not be having this discussion. Our freedom would not exist in the form it does now.
No one here has claimed that the military has not discriminated against gays past or present. Wasn't my point. Your original point was that the freedom gays have was due to the blood and courage spent from gays and lesbians. My point was that without the military winning our freedom and giving their lives for ALL of our nations freedoms, there would be NO gay freedom. Nor would there be the liberty we enjoy in all aspects of our lives. I did not discount the efforts of the glbt community. But again, without the lives lost and the courage shown from our armed forces, we simply could not be having this discussion. So any and all discussions, in my opinion, regarding freedom of any sort, starts with what those in the military have given of themselves toward our way of life. All else comes after.