What catagory am I in now?

[Fmature2play]

I have begun to realize over the last several months that I really don't want a relationship with a man again. I have dated several women the last couple of years and one very seriously to the point that I simply have no desire to be romantically involved with men anymore. Problem is I still enjoy sex with men. Sometimes I find myself wanting that more than same sex. Does not happen a lot but it does happen. The question I posed was rhetorical really but I do sometimes wonder how it is I could want sex from a man and not be the least bit interested in anything more. My vib would take care of that urge if that is all it is.

 

[Stella_Omega]

because we all want what we want... Sometimes I think it isn't the cock at all-- but the pheromones that men give off... is the thing I still like about men.

 

[Fmature2play]

You may have something there. It isn't something that keeps me up at night but it has made me wonder at times. Men are just so........dunno but there is still a sexual attraction for me but nothing emotional anymore. I can still cry like a baby after an intense O from a g/f but haven't had anything other than a physical reaction with a man in years. Guess it is just like that worn out cliche. It is what it is.

 

[Seamen]

Men are just so........dunno

I am sorry, but have you really been with all the men in the world? There are literally as many type of men out there as there are men out there. Surely you can't generalize about all men from your few (or a lot, I don't know you well, so) experiences. Maybe the men you've been with were lousy lovers; maybe they were good lovers but they didn't understand what you liked. Maybe you were uncomfortable and self-conscious and so therefore couldn't enjoy yourself; there are good men out there. There are some happily married straight couples out there, so surely some men are good enough to keep around, yeah?

I don't know about you, but I refuse to label people; it is not logical. I mean, yeah, hate people by all means. I do it too. But hate ought to be based on factors that are more subjective and valid; intellectual ability, social affinity, these kind of things.

Men and women aren't that different, really. Its more a matter of personal preference.

 

[MOral4couple]

Sounds like you are in the "disgusted with the whole relationship thing" category that often comes after a break up, although I am not assuming anything about you. Why ask why? You don't have to label yourself or defend your sexual choices to anyone. And there is nothing wrong with looking at men as sex objects, if that pleases you, just don't hurt anybody. As for me, I wouldn't want a relationship with a man, don't want to kiss men, want to kiss women. Still, I do get a thrill out of sucking a big, hard cock. Go figure.

 

[Stella_Omega]

What fmature says doesn't sound anything like "I hate men" or ""I'm disgusted with relationships."

It sounds like "I now prefer relationships with women."

This happens. We all change, one way or another-- or in several ways at once-- assuming we live long enough. Looks like you have lived long enough, congratulations!

 

[girlsmiley]

I am sorry, but have you really been with all the men in the world? There are literally as many type of men out there as there are men out there.

Take your medicine.

Btw, your username makes me want to puke.

 

[BestBi]

I have Lesbian friends that occasionally invite men into their bed, because they enjoy men once in a while. Their relationship seems solid and this is just a little fun that they indulge in together.

 

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[Fmature2play]

I asked this question more in a thinking out loud kind of way. I do not hate men. For a while there I did not care at all for one in particular, but I still dated and still DO enjoy the company of men but somewhere along the way things changed. I am going to be honest here and prolly make a few gals upset with me but that isn't my intention. There are times, out of frustration I suppose, that I wish I could turn off my desires to be with other women and go back to the hetero life I knew for most of my life. I say this because these changes in my life have made it more difficult to find a lover. There are men out there - if male companionship is what I wanted. Rocket science it isn't. An honest to goodness real (and not cyber wannabe or posing as bi woman) bi sexual or lesbian woman is not easy to come by and even harder to develop a relationship with. I live in a city of over a million people but still there are many obstacles to overcome and some of them are of my own doing. I was just curious why I still enjoy the sex with a man sometimes but have no desire at all to get involved with one again. Just struck me as odd. I am staring down 40 candles in a coupla months and these things pop in and out of my mind sometimes. As for labels, there are far too many other things for me to lie awake at night being concerned with to bother with that.

 

[Safe_Bet]

I have Lesbian friends that occasionally invite men into their bed, because they enjoy men once in a while. Their relationship seems solid and this is just a little fun that they indulge in together.

No you don't.

You have BI friends who occasionally invite a man into their bed. If they still "occasionally" like dick then they certainly can't be lesbians no matter WHAT they or you try to call them. FGI!

(and yeah it DOES piss me off when bi chicks lie about their true orientation.)

 

[BestBi]

No you don't.

You have BI friends who occasionally invite a man into their bed. If they still "occasionally" like dick then they certainly can't be lesbians no matter WHAT they or you try to call them. FGI!

(and yeah it DOES piss me off when bi chicks lie about their true orientation.)

Yeah, whatever....

 

[girlsmiley]

Yeah, whatever....

Since when do LESBIANS occasionally like cock?

 

[BestBi]

Since when do LESBIANS occasionally like cock?

ok ok....I concede that they're bisexual not lesbian.....

 

[girlsmiley]

ok ok....I concede that they're bisexual not lesbian.....

For fucks sake.

 

[BestBi]

For fucks sake.

Girls....I meant no offense and I totally understand your feelings about truth in categorization of orientation. Please forgive me if I insulted any of you.

~liz

 

[girlsmiley]

Girls....I meant no offense and I totally understand your feelings about truth in categorization of orientation. Please forgive me if I insulted any of you.

~liz

Yeah, whatever....

 

[Seamen]

Take your medicine.

That time of the month again?

Btw, your username makes me want to puke.

It's clever ! You see, it means something completely different from what it sounds like. Come on, its funny! It is - no matter how much you it will still be funny. Yeah.

Now, not withstanding your misandry, you really have no reason to hate me. Yet, I mean. If you knew me, you'd probably hate me, but then at least you'd have a reason for doing so; know what I mean. To reiterate from my earlier post, be you a lesbian / bi / straight or something else entirely, generalizing a prejudice on the basis of gender is more or less the same as stereotyping on the basis of class, race or other similar things. You do that too, do you? Didn't think so. So you didn't have an orgasm; no need to hate mankind for it

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well there went the neighborhood.

 

[HottieMama]

I was just curious why I still enjoy the sex with a man sometimes but have no desire at all to get involved with one again. Just struck me as odd. I am staring down 40 candles in a coupla months and these things pop in and out of my mind sometimes. As for labels, there are far too many other things for me to lie awake at night being concerned with to bother with that.

I am the same way, and quite frankly I have stopped wondering why. I like what I like. It really is just as simple as that.

the only time I seem to run into issues is when having to explain that to other people....

 

[Safe_Bet]

Now, not withstanding your misandry, you really have no reason to hate me. Yet, I mean. If you knew me, you'd probably hate me, but then at least you'd have a reason for doing so; know what I mean. To reiterate from my earlier post, be you a lesbian / bi / straight or something else entirely, generalizing a prejudice on the basis of gender is more or less the same as stereotyping on the basis of class, race or other similar things. You do that too, do you? Didn't think so. So you didn't have an orgasm; no need to hate mankind for it

Wow. Just wow.

Your fragile, sorry ass sense of "man-ness" just can't deal with a woman who has no interest in it, can it? Your little pea "man brain" just can't comprehend that there are some women who want nothing to do with any man.

Let me clue you in Bucky... My, and any other woman's, not wanting to be around you and CERTAINLY not having interest in fucking you doesn't give you the right to say we hate all men and call us misandric. Hell, there are even me I greatly respect like Warren Buffet and Al Frankin. That doesn't mean I want to be anywhere near them for any extended period of time. That's because, based upon my experiences, every hetero or bi male I've ever encountered seems to think they have a god given right to try to have sex with every female they meet.

So in other words, if the first hundred thousand dogs I've met are rabid and stink, don't you dare give me or anybody else shit about "labeling" when we automatically hold our noses and avoid the hundred thousand and one dog.

Oh, before I forget... Do you realize how stupid you sound whining about misandry while at the same time your ignorant retort to another poster is to ask her if it's her time of the month? I mean seriously? Misogynistic much, asshole?



BTW, names like yours stopped being "clever" after the third grade, dude. Grow the fuck up, K

 

[Seamen]

Let me clue you in Bucky... My, and any other woman's, not wanting to be around you and CERTAINLY not having interest in fucking you

But I never implied that in the first place.

doesn't give you the right to say we hate all men and call us misandric.

No, I deduced that from

Men are just so........dunno

Hell, there are even me I greatly respect like Warren Buffet and Al Frankin.

Who?

That's because, based upon my experiences, every hetero or bi male I've ever encountered seems to think they have a god given right to try to have sex with every female they meet.

I think we have a breakthrough here. If I may reiterate

That's because, based upon my experiences, every hetero or bi male I've ever encountered seems to think they have a god given right to try to have sex with every female they meet.

There it is! If I may repeat myself here

generalizing a prejudice on the basis of gender is more or less the same as stereotyping on the basis of class, race or other similar things

So in other words, if the first hundred thousand dogs I've met are rabid and stink, don't you dare give me or anybody else shit about "labeling" when we automatically hold our noses and avoid the hundred thousand and one dog.

There are 8 billion people in the world. If say in that 8 billion there are 5 billion men (on account of female foeticide, domestic violence etc.), that is still a lot more than a thousand. Then there are cultural and social aspects to consider. Education and economic conditions have a role to play. If you've met a thousand dogs, well, lady, maybe you're just plain unlucky, or maybe you need to move to a nicer neighborhood. You might find this shocking, but there are some men who don't want to have sex with every woman they meet. I know it is hard to believe, but it is true. I can make a list of a bunch of people if you want.

Oh, before I forget... Do you realize how stupid you sound whining about misandry while at the same time your ignorant retort to another poster is to ask her if it's her time of the month?

Because she said

Take your medicine.

Now some people might find that very offensive, much more than what I said, although I meant it in a lighter vein.

I mean seriously? Misogynistic much,

But I swear I

asshole?

You know, I have to say, I have been called that once before by a woman too. Such a bad situation; And I'll tell you what I told her

BTW, names like yours stopped being "clever" after the third grade, dude.

I can quote recent critically acclaimed TV shows here which have used this in the recent past. TV is the biggest judge of everything that is funny and everything that is not.

Grow the fuck up, K

Man, you really did a number on me you did; feel better now? Yeah? You, uh, you a feminist? You gonna say to yourself in bed at night "I showed him, bastard son a bitch!". Yeah? You feel better there? Calm? Relaxed? You think I'm some kind of pervert who gets his jollies from being yelled at? Well, I might be, you never know. If you wanna yell some more, you are most welcome. Do you want me to tell you something about me so that you can mock it and the words hurt more? Hmm, I'm unemployed. Mock that. Say I'm a worthless dog. I have weak eyesight. Say I'm a blind worthless piece of trash. Ahh yeah! More? Hmm, insult my manhood - yeah, do that. I'm blind, worthless, and not even a man! And I stink too; no, not that. I smell wonderful. But the other stuff .. yeah ... mock that. Happy now? Feel better about yourself? Yeah? You get your self esteem from showing other people down? Yeah? Well, you showed me. Serves me right to grapple with somebody like you. Didn't even know what hit me. Yeah. I don't have feelings; probably I'm like this pervert who secretly watches women undress. Yeah, that's probably right. Serves me right to try and express my opinion. You go girl.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It's wolfman's brother!


Back to the actual topic-- my personal theory as to why SOME women, including you, fmature, and I, SOMETIMES like to fuck men EVEN THOUGH we don't mostly need them in our lives-- is because of the yummy pheromones they emit.

Has nothing to do with having a dick, or intelligence, or money, or looks or likeability. Some guys just smell good, and give you a chemical boost into the brains through the sinuses.

That's what I think.

 

[girlsmiley]

That time of the month again?
It's clever ! You see, it means something completely different from what it sounds like.

Moron.