The need to be used...

[SlaveTrainer]

Do you think this a common fantasy among the female population? Do you ever just think about letting go, and letting your partner do whatever it is that he wants to do to you? Does the thought of turning him on, turn you on, or is it always a give-take situation for you...?

 

[switchbitch]

I don't know how common it is, but being used is the most arousing thing for me.

Being undressed, taken gently or forcefully with no consideration on the part of my partner, with no apparent thought for my satisfaction gets me there quicker than any other way.

I have no idea why but the cave man approach just works, in fact the more selfish the better.

This seems to go against the popular idea of a considerate, modern man unfortunately, since finding a partner willing to behave like this is challenging. Currently they seem to be rarer than rocking horse droppings.

Where are you?

what she said!

 

[BiBunny]

I'm sure it's a common fantasy among the submissive female population and probably among the submissive population in general.

 

[Lilac_Sky]

Do you think this a common fantasy among the female population? Do you ever just think about letting go, and letting your partner do whatever it is that he wants to do to you? Does the thought of turning him on, turn you on, or is it always a give-take situation for you...?

I can only speak for myself but I love that Mistress uses me for her own pleasure. Being of service to her, giving her pleasure, being used for her enjoyment drives me wild. So for us it is a give-take situation I give and she takes .... and I have never been happier or so well cared for.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sure, once in a while, for the right person.

Who probably won't be a "him."

 

[HottieMama]

Once in a blue moon, and like Stella said, it's usually not a "him." Mainly, I fantasize about someone who, after hearing specifically what I like and what I want, actually takes the time to fucking do it instead of making me feel like I am just talking to my damn self.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Once in a blue moon, and like Stella said, it's usually not a "him." Mainly, I fantasize about someone who, after hearing specifically what I like and what I want, actually takes the time to fucking do it instead of making me feel like I am just talking to my damn self.

For some reason this made me chuckle

 

[HottieMama]

For some reason this made me chuckle

It's makes me chuckle too...in that sad, ironic, truthful..."I need to laugh, cause I'll cry otherwise type of way..."

 

[bhndblueyes88]

It's makes me chuckle too...in that sad, ironic, truthful..."I need to laugh, cause I'll cry otherwise type of way..."

*pat pat*

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well, gawd dammit then!

 

[submissiveatheart]

Being used is a huge turn on. The thought of being the one that could satisfy His need satisfies me.

 

[Chiara_searches]

Being used is a huge turn on. The thought of being the one that could satisfy His need satisfies me.

But what is one to do when she has a need to satisfy him...and he says he's most satisfied when she is completely satisfied. That's my current, um, challenge. While it's very fulfilling on the one hand, sometimes the need to just be used is alluring.

 

[Cold_Eyes]

According to the studies cited in this article (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...s-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean), it's common to the tune of somewhere between 31-57%. Don't forget men, either -- some of us like to be used as well.

 

[DeathAndTaxes]

Being used is one of my favorite escapes. In fact, I had a long discussion with hubby on this topic on the way home from some errands today. We could not put the groceries away fast enough. I love the idea of being a pleasure object, an experiment, a play toy. A receptacle for c*ck.

 

[redhead84]

According to the studies cited in this article (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...s-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean), it's common to the tune of somewhere between 31-57%. Don't forget men, either -- some of us like to be used as well.

Thank you for that link - interesting! I am definitely one who enjoys that feeling of just being used. I can't say I have rape fantasies, but nearly all my fantasies include force or physical roughness.

 

[Lilac_Sky]

According to the studies cited in this article (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...s-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean), it's common to the tune of somewhere between 31-57%. Don't forget men, either -- some of us like to be used as well.

Wow .... very interesting article! Thanks for sharing.

It is interesting ..... "bodice rippers" are such best selling books .... and so many romance novels include some form of coercion .... and at the same time society tells women that relationships should be equal contracts ... and that makes it easy for women to be confused about who they are, what arouses them, what they actually want in real life, and makes many judge themselves harshly for their fantasies.

 

[sereneone4u]

Once in a blue moon, and like Stella said, it's usually not a "him." Mainly, I fantasize about someone who, after hearing specifically what I like and what I want, actually takes the time to fucking do it instead of making me feel like I am just talking to my damn self.

*chuckles*

 

[CandiCame]

According to the studies cited in this article (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...s-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean), it's common to the tune of somewhere between 31-57%. Don't forget men, either -- some of us like to be used as well.

Right on, brother!

I'm a major sub to.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Do you think this a common fantasy among the female population? Do you ever just think about letting go, and letting your partner do whatever it is that he wants to do to you? Does the thought of turning him on, turn you on, or is it always a give-take situation for you...?

Fantasy? I thought it was reality!

 

[TearsAtBedtime]

I love being used and often offer myself to my husband to do with as he wants. He's eager and enthusiastic but not that inspired. That makes me a bit sad.

 

[m0r1arty]

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[Babyslave]

It's more than a fantasy for me, it's a requirement. No matter how much our desires match, or how much I wish to please him, or vice versa. NOTHING happens or can happen until he rips my control from me. Whether the wish is for slow and playful, or fast rough and hard, he needs to force my surrender first. Not an easy task. Someone truly skilled and in tune with me can do it with words or a look alone.

 

[sereneone4u]

According to the studies cited in this article (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...s-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean), it's common to the tune of somewhere between 31-57%. Don't forget men, either -- some of us like to be used as well.

So true, good article.

 

[DVS]

Do you think this a common fantasy among the female population? Do you ever just think about letting go, and letting your partner do whatever it is that he wants to do to you? Does the thought of turning him on, turn you on, or is it always a give-take situation for you...?

I don't know about the female population as a whole, but I'd say there are more than a few that feel that way. Why do women swoon over a man with muscles if they didn't want a powerful lover? Why do women like tall men, taller than they are, if they didn't want someone who could overpower them. When the trust is strong in a relationship, a powerful lover also makes them feel safe.

A lot of the unspoken appeal in the sexual chemistry is the woman wants to be desired. She wants to be wanted. She wants to be the focus of a man's every sexual thought. This makes her feel pretty. This makes her feel sexy.

And if he gets a little overbearing in his lust, she knows that lust is directed at her...it's her body that is fueling his lust. She wants him to ravage her, but she also wants him to be sweet at times, too. She wants to be rode hard and put up wet, but she also needs his sensitive side, too.

I'd say that a lot of women would say they desire a strong willed lover. A woman does want to be attractive for her lover. She want him to have sexual thoughts for her, when he sees her...sexual desires. She wants him to have nasty and kinky thoughts...dirty sexual thoughts, but only about her. But she'll only tell these things to her closest friends.

To everybody else, she'll just say she wants the basic desires in a man. A good provider, a loving husband and if kids ever come, a good father. You have to read between the lines when you hear some things. That's part of the mystic of a woman.

 

[sereneone4u]

I don't know about the female population as a whole, but I'd say there are more than a few that feel that way. Why do women swoon over a man with muscles if they didn't want a powerful lover? Why do women like tall men, taller than they are, if they didn't want someone who could overpower them. When the trust is strong in a relationship, a powerful lover also makes them feel safe.

A lot of the unspoken appeal in the sexual chemistry is the woman wants to be desired. She wants to be wanted. She wants to be the focus of a man's every sexual thought. This makes her feel pretty. This makes her feel sexy.

And if he gets a little overbearing in his lust, she knows that lust is directed at her...it's her body that is fueling his lust. She wants him to ravage her, but she also wants him to be sweet at times, too. She wants to be rode hard and put up wet, but she also needs his sensitive side, too.

I'd say that a lot of women would say they desire a strong willed lover. A woman does want to be attractive for her lover. She want him to have sexual thoughts for her, when he sees her...sexual desires. She wants him to have nasty and kinky thoughts...dirty sexual thoughts, but only about her. But she'll only tell these things to her closest friends.

To everybody else, she'll just say she wants the basic desires in a man. A good provider, a loving husband and if kids ever come, a good father. You have to read between the lines when you hear some things. That's part of the mystic of a woman.

WOW...you so GET it...