"daddy" why do I desire to be treated like a ...???

[angel4daddy2use]

Is this normal? My hubby is older than me and I want it more intense, but I know I am his "princess" and he isn't able to do it. I crave to be used hard and to feel pain... Am I alone???

 

[eroticawithyou]

Maybe you need to get some videos of "school girls" being used hard and set your hubby down and watch them with him. It could provide a forum for you both to discuss your wants and needs. I empathize with your situation...

 

[Stella_Omega]

I don't think "School girls" has much to do with this woman's situation.

When you say that you are his "Princess" does that mean that he pays attention to your desires, as far as you let him know what they are? Because I have written a lot of posts about being the top (dom, probably, to you) and getting bottoming (sub) pleasure from my partners...

There may be ways that you can approach this with him.

 

[nowgirl]

i don't think it has anything to do with his age, either. it's the dynamic of your relationship.

i was with someone who could use other women more forcefully but because he cared for and loved me, he had a hard time giving me the intensity i enjoyed.

as much as i dislike role-playing, i found that he enjoyed it when i played the "bad" princess... i'd say daddy, all the boys got to see my panties at school today and one thing would lead to hair pulling, spanking. as he saw how turned on i got with this, he'd ramp up the intensity.

i like heavy impact play. he didn't. as we got to know each other, we learned to compromise. when i realized he didn't have his heart (or his cock or his arm) in to, say, belt spanking, it didn't really turn me on. when i realized he like to slap me across the face and put his hands around my neck, well - win-win.

it was fun experimenting.

 

[YourCaptor]

because you are a ...!

 

[Etoile]

i don't think it has anything to do with his age, either. it's the dynamic of your relationship.

Sometimes it can, though. I was 19 when I first got into BDSM, and I was a very naive 19. My dominant was 39 at the time. For us, using the "Daddy" dynamic was a way to acknowledge that I needed to be guided and educated in a lot of ways. So while it is about the dynamic, the use of the dynamic can stem from age difference or simply chronological age.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Ahhh!

I've had this situation early on in my relationship with Master/Daddy.

I simply told him one day, smiling over the coffee at him at Starbucks..."Don't let your love for me keep you from giving me pain and control that you desire to give. I do have a safeword..." and winked.

Seemed to do the trick

 

[tenderpussy4U]

you are definitely not alone....I like to be taken rough till I'm raw!

 

[CurvAppeal]

He loves you, plain and simple. He adores you and wants to please you. What may work for you may not work for him. Maybe he is into light bondage, not heavy bondage.

Maybe he doesn't want to spank you till your red, choke you, etc etc . . . .

Ask him what he is willing to try with you, and find a happy medium that way. Don't hold back on what you want, you may be surprised. =)