I'm planning my first threesome...

[qrayze]

...And I just had to "tell somebody", lol. I'm so excited! This is literally a dream come true.

It's an mfm threesome. (or it could be mmf if they decide to go that way, lol) Both guys are coming in from out of town next week and I can't wait. My daughter is going with the ex for about a week when he visits his family, and I am going to have some SERIOUS play time!

We are going to be safe, condoms all around; I'm even thinking of buying some female condoms too as I think that would be a good idea.

I would've loved to post this on my facebook, lol, but I'm pretty sure I would've given about 60 people heart attacks. Of course, about 10 others would be all, "Hell yeah! you go girl!".

*insert excited squeal here*

 

[infinity706]

Well, don't use male and female condoms at the same time. Otherwise, you risk them sticking together and tearing.

 

[qrayze]

Well, don't use male and female condoms at the same time. Otherwise, you risk them sticking together and tearing.

thanks for the heads up; I wasn't aware that could happen

I guess I'll only use it if one of the guys has issues with getting a condom on (they're both pretty thick)

 

[NippleMuncher]

Congratulations!

Let us know how it goes, if the experience lives up to the expectations.

 

[SweetErika]

thanks for the heads up; I wasn't aware that could happen

I guess I'll only use it if one of the guys has issues with getting a condom on (they're both pretty thick)

Could you ask them to bring their own, brand new, preferred brand/style of condoms to reduce the risk of that happening? Or better yet, ask what their preferences are now, and go get them yourself, so you're 100% sure they'll be on hand and unexpired.

Female condoms are good in the sense that they cover part of the labia, which reduces the risk of HSV and HPV some, but IIRC, they have a higher failure rate than male condoms. So, maybe a little more research is in order before you go out and buy them, especially since they're more expensive than male condoms. And regardless of what you're going to use, I'd suggest practicing putting it on or in properly before your guests arrive so there's no fumbling around or mistakes made in the heat of the moment. A surprising number of people don't know or remember how to put on condoms properly, believe it or not.

Make sure you have a good lube on hand, too. Between the sizes, condoms and different people, it sounds like silicone could be your best choice, since it's super slick, doesn't dry out or contain anything that could irritate anyone.

I hate to sound like a nervous nellie, but I'd also suggest setting up a safe call with a trusted friend who knows your plan if you don't already know these men really well in person. There are a bunch of ways to do this, but most give the friend the date's (hopefully verified) personal info and set up a time to check in, a discreet emergency word/phrase, as well as a plan in case the safe call isn't made (e.g. "call my local police if you can't reach me by 3pm tomorrow).

You probably already know all of this, but some people don't (or forget), so I figure it doesn't hurt to put it out there. In the midst of such excitement and planning, it's easy to let the small, but very important, details go by the wayside!

Best of luck and enjoy yourself! Threesomes are great fun with the right people, and it's always exciting to be the center of pleasurable attention!

 

[JuanVato]

Sweet...

Yes, SweetErika is wise.
Do what she suggests....then circle back here to dish the event please.

 

[qrayze]

Thanks Erika

I told my fwb about the guys, but that safe call idea is great. You always give really good advice and I appreciate you chiming in here.

I'm gonna ask the guys right now what their condom preferences are and get them today while I'm out.

As soon as I saw the word "lube" in your post, I automatically knew you were gonna suggest the silicone stuff, lol, I'll see if I can pick some up today as well.

 

[nipple jewelry]

I would also leave detailed info on the guys, where you will be (you should know this before you leave the house and stick with it), the guys cell numbers (you should have these before your date too and should have verbally talked to them and not just email), email address and any other info you have, on your kitchen counter.

I hate to say it, but just in case!!

Hubs and I have had many MFM over the last couple years. We still leave all that info on one of our dressers just in case (we have kids at home so we dont leave it on the kitchen counter but where the authorities can easily find it.)

Again, I too do not want to be a nervous nelly but you have to be sure.

And then just lay back and enjoy. Make sure they get you on all fours and attack you at the same time for the front and rear. That is my favorite!!

Good luck and let us know what happens.

V

 

[josephanthony69]

fabulous

Truly fantastic with the right people and precautions!!

I would also leave detailed info on the guys, where you will be (you should know this before you leave the house and stick with it), the guys cell numbers (you should have these before your date too and should have verbally talked to them and not just email), email address and any other info you have, on your kitchen counter.

I hate to say it, but just in case!!

Hubs and I have had many MFM over the last couple years. We still leave all that info on one of our dressers just in case (we have kids at home so we dont leave it on the kitchen counter but where the authorities can easily find it.)

Again, I too do not want to be a nervous nelly but you have to be sure.

And then just lay back and enjoy. Make sure they get you on all fours and attack you at the same time for the front and rear. That is my favorite!!

Good luck and let us know what happens.

V

 

[qrayze]

I would also leave detailed info on the guys, where you will be (you should know this before you leave the house and stick with it), the guys cell numbers (you should have these before your date too and should have verbally talked to them and not just email), email address and any other info you have, on your kitchen counter.

Very good idea! I will make sure I do that.

I have verbally talked to both on the phone several times, and @erika, I've arranged to go with them when they arrive to get condoms. That way, I know they are new and they guys are getting the kind they prefer.

The one guy is flying in on monday and the other guy is coming on tuesday when the threesome will happen. (I'm kinda wanting one-on-one time with the first guy)

Don't worry all, I shall definitely tell tales of my adventures!

 

[qrayze]

Due to circumstances beyond my control, the threesome is canceled. Majorly bummed right now.

 

[SweetErika]

Due to circumstances beyond my control, the threesome is canceled. Majorly bummed right now.

Is it your conflict, or did one or both guys cancel? I'm thinking if just one of the guys canceled, you could still have fun with the other one.

At any rate, I'm sorry to hear it, because I know how excited you were! The good news is that putting together a threesome with two decent guys isn't nearly the task of finding a lady for a MFF, so your plans shouldn't be on hold for too long.

 

[qrayze]

Is it your conflict, or did one or both guys cancel? I'm thinking if just one of the guys canceled, you could still have fun with the other one.

At any rate, I'm sorry to hear it, because I know how excited you were! The good news is that putting together a threesome with two decent guys isn't nearly the task of finding a lady for a MFF, so your plans shouldn't be on hold for too long.

Thanks Erika

One of they guys had to cancel because his transmission went out on his car and he had to use the two days he was going to take off next week from work this week, so he can't make it. The other guy told me last night that he wasn't sure if he could make it (the one who would have to fly here) because of a couple reasons he might not want posted here, (he's a member of lit) so even if he does make it, it still wouldn't be a threesome. Plus, I doubt he'd buy an expensive plane ticket for just one-on-one.

So now, it's 10 days, no daughter, and nothing to do to keep my mind off the fact that she's not with me...

 

[SweetErika]

So now, it's 10 days, no daughter, and nothing to do to keep my mind off the fact that she's not with me...

I'm not dying for 10 completely child-free days, but it'd be absolutely fantastic to have a break, be able to get together with friends and date w/o kidlet(s) in tow, sleep in, have a few drinks, go to adult events and venues, read for hours, shop without any restrictions, get some projects around the house done, and generally just do what I want when I want with no worries or interruptions.

So, if nothing else, go have 10 amazing days packed with whatever you enjoy in honor of those of us who seriously need a break. As long as your daughter is safe and happy, you might as well make it into a real vacation, right?

 

[nipple jewelry]

So now, it's 10 days, no daughter, and nothing to do...

Have you tried a local swingers club. as a single female, you will be able to pick and choose whatever you want!

Good luck

V

 

[Lust Engine]

Due to circumstances beyond my control, the threesome is canceled. Majorly bummed right now.

Damn. As I was reading down this thread I was hoping to hear about how wonderfully hot it was only to be met by this. Oh well... at least you know you have the bravery to do it and almost had it in the bag. It sounded wonderfully and erotically charged.

Please keep us updated if anything changes. I'd love to see this come to a conclusion of some sort.

 

[qrayze]

I'm not dying for 10 completely child-free days, but it'd be absolutely fantastic to have a break, be able to get together with friends and date w/o kidlet(s) in tow, sleep in, have a few drinks, go to adult events and venues, read for hours, shop without any restrictions, get some projects around the house done, and generally just do what I want when I want with no worries or interruptions.

So, if nothing else, go have 10 amazing days packed with whatever you enjoy in honor of those of us who seriously need a break. As long as your daughter is safe and happy, you might as well make it into a real vacation, right?

If only I had someone to do all those things with! It's basically over between the fwb and me...I think he freaked over the threesome thing. Of course I don't know for sure as he won't tell me anything...just stays silent.

I think I'm gonna bleach my hair tomorrow...oh yeah, risky fun, here I come!

Have you tried a local swingers club. as a single female, you will be able to pick and choose whatever you want!

Good luck

V

So far, in my life, I haven't been able to have sex with total strangers...it's just not me.

Damn. As I was reading down this thread I was hoping to hear about how wonderfully hot it was only to be met by this. Oh well... at least you know you have the bravery to do it and almost had it in the bag. It sounded wonderfully and erotically charged.

Please keep us updated if anything changes. I'd love to see this come to a conclusion of some sort.

Of course I will

The one guy still really wants to do something with me, so *hopefullly* in about a month when my daughter is at her dad's for the weekend, he's gonna drive down here and visit me.

Since the other guy would have to fly to get here, I seriously doubt we'll ever get the chance to be together no matter how much I want to. He did offer to make me a mold of his cock and send it to me, but for me it's like, I'd rather have the person, ya know?


I have another week coming in July where I'll be daughter free, so I'm hoping i can arrange another threesome then. And, Erika, you're right, it is a lot easier to find willing guys!

 

[AdamH12]

If only I had someone to do all those things with! It's basically over between the fwb and me...I think he freaked over the threesome thing. Of course I don't know for sure as he won't tell me anything...just stays silent.

I think I'm gonna bleach my hair tomorrow...oh yeah, risky fun, here I come!



So far, in my life, I haven't been able to have sex with total strangers...it's just not me.



Of course I will

The one guy still really wants to do something with me, so *hopefullly* in about a month when my daughter is at her dad's for the weekend, he's gonna drive down here and visit me.

Since the other guy would have to fly to get here, I seriously doubt we'll ever get the chance to be together no matter how much I want to. He did offer to make me a mold of his cock and send it to me, but for me it's like, I'd rather have the person, ya know?


I have another week coming in July where I'll be daughter free, so I'm hoping i can arrange another threesome then. And, Erika, you're right, it is a lot easier to find willing guys!

oh sorry to hear it never worked out, though am sure in time it will. May i ask where you are from?

 

[qrayze]

oh sorry to hear it never worked out, though am sure in time it will. May i ask where you are from?

Well, I've been told all my life that I'm from my mother, but you know how people lie...

 

[SweetErika]

If only I had someone to do all those things with! It's basically over between the fwb and me...I think he freaked over the threesome thing. Of course I don't know for sure as he won't tell me anything...just stays silent.

I think I'm gonna bleach my hair tomorrow...oh yeah, risky fun, here I come!

I dunno.I really like doing things on my own. I mean, yeah, seeing friends, dates, going out to dinner, etc., require other people, but I'd do everything else I listed and more on my own quite happily. I know a lot of people aren't like that, though.

Are there any places or events in your general area where you could meet people? Have you looked into MeetUp and CL's "Activity Partners" and "Strictly Platonic"sections to maybe find people to do stuff with for the next week?

So far, in my life, I haven't been able to have sex with total strangers...it's just not me.

That's not me, either, but if you meet the right person, you could potentially have a few dates during your vacation. And maybe that could lead to hot sex toward the end of the 10 days or in the future.

Just throwing out a few ideas in hopes of helping you make lemonade.

 

[infinity706]

Is it your conflict, or did one or both guys cancel? I'm thinking if just one of the guys canceled, you could still have fun with the other one.

At any rate, I'm sorry to hear it, because I know how excited you were! The good news is that putting together a threesome with two decent guys isn't nearly the task of finding a lady for a MFF, so your plans shouldn't be on hold for too long.

I've never really had a problem with MFF. I even had 2 sisters take me home once. Of course, with all the experience, the kinkyness, the whole open relationship thing, plus being pansexual, it wipes out a lot of the concerns. It won't wreck their relationship with me and I'll probably be up for any and all fantasies they'd like. Plus, there's no question of whether MMF is on the table. Infact, I've had multiple partners bring in someone I've never met before that day.

I've also noticed that bi women are far more likely to let a bi guy watch than a straight guy. I've seen lots of women go to town on each other that lied to their partners and told them they're straight. Of course, a lot of them are concerned that their partner would just use them to get into some woman's pants that may never fuck them otherwise.

 

[SweetErika]

I've never really had a problem with MFF. I even had 2 sisters take me home once. Of course, with all the experience, the kinkyness, the whole open relationship thing, plus being pansexual, it wipes out a lot of the concerns. It won't wreck their relationship with me and I'll probably be up for any and all fantasies they'd like. Plus, there's no question of whether MMF is on the table. Infact, I've had multiple partners bring in someone I've never met before that day.

I've also noticed that bi women are far more likely to let a bi guy watch than a straight guy. I've seen lots of women go to town on each other that lied to their partners and told them they're straight. Of course, a lot of them are concerned that their partner would just use them to get into some woman's pants that may never fuck them otherwise.

OK, but I think we've established that you'll do anyone who consents.

For those of us with higher standards, finding women for a threesome usually isn't a piece of cake.

 

[qrayze]

I dunno.I really like doing things on my own. I mean, yeah, seeing friends, dates, going out to dinner, etc., require other people, but I'd do everything else I listed and more on my own quite happily. I know a lot of people aren't like that, though.

Are there any places or events in your general area where you could meet people? Have you looked into MeetUp and CL's "Activity Partners" and "Strictly Platonic"sections to maybe find people to do stuff with for the next week?

That's not me, either, but if you meet the right person, you could potentially have a few dates during your vacation. And maybe that could lead to hot sex toward the end of the 10 days or in the future.

Just throwing out a few ideas in hopes of helping you make lemonade.

I read the personals in CL every day for entertainment, lol.

Every once in a while, I'll respond to an ad either sincerely (strictly platonic-tho they never are... ) or sarcasticly (like when I'm pretty sure the guy is bs'ing around).

So, the other day I see this ad from this guy who's "attached" wanting a female email/texting friend. Strictly platonic, of course. Riiiiiiiiight. So I send him off an email calling him out on it, saying that he's just looking for a lay in the hay, not expecting a reply back. Well, he does reply, with a short, "no really, I'm just looking for a friend". I ignore it, and the next day there's another email from him, "so, where are you from, what do you look like?" Mhhmm...I knew it. So I play his game, get him to send me a pic of himself (g-rated) and he's not half bad. I send him a pic of me and he lets me know that he "would love to explore" my body.

Now, my morals concerning married men are a bit odd. If a guy is married and has never cheated on his wife, there's no way in hell I'm gonna be his first cheat. However, if the dude already has cheated on her, I don't have a problem fucking him. Wierd, right? So, I tell him this and yup, he's definitely done this before and goes on to say, "I think that we should act on what we both want. I'm sure I can make it worth your while."

He's wanting tomorrow and I'm a bit inclined to go for it. I told him hotel room and condoms are a must, but 'ain't nuthin' gonna happen' without some voice verification via phone call first.

I'm still waiting on his next email...

 

[infinity706]

OK, but I think we've established that you'll do anyone who consents.

For those of us with higher standards, finding women for a threesome usually isn't a piece of cake.

Sure, I've never said no, but there's plenty of people I wouldn't fuck. It just happens that none of them have ever come after me.

Honestly, though, there's probably plenty of women in your area that would do it. Your screening process would eliminate just about all of them, though. Every woman I've met that would admit to being up for joining a couple would fuck on a first date. (or skip said date and come to the door in a babydoll) The only cases I've ever heard of someone getting what you want, the woman dates a bi chick that just happens to like the guy, too.

 

[qrayze]

OK, so there must really be some sort of anti-sex cloud around me! I ended up BABYSITTING all day today! and while I love my niece and we had a great time today together, I really just wish some guy was fucking me right now.

oh, and I had to babysit because my bro needed to take my sis-in-law to the doctor...turns out her really bad cough was actually pneumonia. so she's in the hospital right now trying to get better. (she's also VERY pregnant; due any day now)