Ughhh

[BobbingForApple]

Fuck my fucking life!
I'm a 20 year old with a massive crush on an older woman who I work with - we flirt here and there, I'm crushing so damn bad - so I make a move, ask her out to coffee and NOTHING.
I'm not ugly at all and she reciprocated our playful banter AND she's single....I'm so bummed out haha.

Definitely embodying a little puppy dog right now.

 

[gagginforit]

Maybe she's just not gay. You may have misconstrued the playful banter as romantic interest. But I guess you'd be a better judge of when a womans flirting and when she's just being friendly.

But give yourself a pat on the back for taking the plunge and asking her out.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Fuck my fucking life!
I'm a 20 year old with a massive crush on an older woman who I work with - we flirt here and there, I'm crushing so damn bad - so I make a move, ask her out to coffee and NOTHING.
I'm not ugly at all and she reciprocated our playful banter AND she's single....I'm so bummed out haha.

Definitely embodying a little puppy dog right now.

Are you sure she's really into chicks? (or at least experimenting???)

Did you ask her?

 

[Stella_Omega]

You may have to try more than once-- the way men do...

That was a hard lesson to learn...

 

[louisa25ha]

Oh my.. dont be too down on yourself.. These things take time. There are wonderful things just around the corner.

I have been there, and it's a hard place.. Just trust in the good folk on Lit and we'll help

I am often a poor judge, although i have got better at spotting the signs .. And dealing with the rejection.. and the desire for the other party to comply, but their hang-ups coming into play!

Try for a 'Round two'

Wishing you all the best, and here for you if you need achat

Lou x

 

[girlsmiley]

Fuck my fucking life!
I'm a 20 year old with a massive crush on an older woman who I work with - we flirt here and there, I'm crushing so damn bad - so I make a move, ask her out to coffee and NOTHING.
I'm not ugly at all and she reciprocated our playful banter AND she's single....I'm so bummed out haha.

Definitely embodying a little puppy dog right now.

What do you mean nothing?

I need more information lol



gagginforit's right. Give yourself a pat on the back for plucking up the courage. Confidence is hot

 

[Fmature2play]

My guess is the fantasy was one thing (i.e. office playing) and real encounters was something entirely different. Could be a classic case of cold feet or perhaps she has thought about possible ramifications of dating someone she works with. It is against our company policy where I work for a supervisor to date a subordinate and really frowned upon for two people of equal status to even date. I bet if you tried it again and just got a really nice conversation started and let it get around to the subject it might have better results.

 

[Safe_Bet]

My guess is the fantasy was one thing (i.e. office playing) and real encounters was something entirely different. Could be a classic case of cold feet or perhaps she has thought about possible ramifications of dating someone she works with. It is against our company policy where I work for a supervisor to date a subordinate and really frowned upon for two people of equal status to even date. I bet if you tried it again and just got a really nice conversation started and let it get around to the subject it might have better results.

Or you walk up at the end of work, slap her hard on the ass and say,

"You. Me. Coffee. Now! Get that nice rear in gear, Toots!"

At least if you get turned down again you went out with some style!

 

[Fmature2play]

slap me on the butt please

 

[Etoile]

Am I the only one who thinks screwing somebody you work with is a bad idea?

 

[ficklefun]

Am I the only one who thinks screwing somebody you work with is a bad idea?

No you're not. I totally agree.

 

[ttm_mtt]

Maybe she doesn't like coffee.

Try a happy hour get together instead, with a few other workmates.

Not as personal, but conversation outside the office can't hurt.

 

[Safe_Bet]

Am I the only one who thinks screwing somebody you work with is a bad idea?

You never crushed on somebody you weren't 'spose to?

 

[Etoile]

You never crushed on somebody you weren't 'spose to?

Oh I fantasize about a lot of people I shouldn't! But I wouldn't actually try to ask them out.

 

[Fmature2play]

yup yup fantasy doesn't always equal reality.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Am I the only one who thinks screwing somebody you work with is a bad idea?

It's possible that her coworker thinks so too...

 

[gagginforit]

Am I the only one who thinks screwing somebody you work with is a bad idea?

Probably, but don't you think sometimes you just have to say what the hell and go for it?

 

[Etoile]

Probably, but don't you think sometimes you just have to say what the hell and go for it?

Well, sure. That's why I'm planning to move to Japan in about 8 months. But I wouldn't try to pick up a co-worker, ever.

 

[CuriousLeesa]

slap me on the butt please

*slaaaaaaap*

 

[Safe_Bet]

Well, sure. That's why I'm planning to move to Japan in about 8 months. But I wouldn't try to pick up a co-worker, ever.

Are you going to mod in Kanji then? That would be SO cool!

 

[Fmature2play]

I have been approached by both a co worker and a supervisor and I just can't let myself do it despite the intense attraction. Just isn't a good idea and even if it isn't against company policey if it goes sideways on you it will get awkward in a hurry.

 

[BobbingForApple]

Maybe she doesn't like coffee.

Try a happy hour get together instead, with a few other workmates.

Not as personal, but conversation outside the office can't hurt.

I would, and that's probably the best route here but...I'm not 21 quite yet haha

 

[BobbingForApple]

Probably, but don't you think sometimes you just have to say what the hell and go for it?

YES.
We work in the same office, but we're not employed by the same people. She's only in my office a few days out of the week anyway, and I don't work directly with her - if that makes this any better.

 

[WetBiMoose]

Lunch hour is a good icebreaker...

If you and a few other coworkers go out to a place at lunch and you sit next to her there are plenty of opportunities for gentle caresses and playful hand touching that might lead to more. If you put your hand down beside her on the seat and she doesn't shift away but towards or onto it you are in the gold!

 

[Etoile]

YES.
We work in the same office, but we're not employed by the same people. She's only in my office a few days out of the week anyway, and I don't work directly with her - if that makes this any better.

I'm not sure "better" is the right word, but "more sense" is definitely the case. I figured this was somebody you worked with regularly. I'm still not sure I would do it, but I understand better now why you're going for it.