Do you prefer to be dominated by someone you know or a stranger?

[Craig52]

Of course it has to be a control environment where you can call it quits at anytime but do you prefer being sexually dominated by a friend/boyfriend/girfriend/spouse or a stranger?

 

[satindesire]

Of course it has to be a control environment where you can call it quits at anytime but do you prefer being sexually dominated by a friend/boyfriend/girfriend/spouse or a stranger?

The only people I trust to play with me safely and from a good place in their mind are the people I know well enough to care about.

 

[Skaoi]

I definitely have to have some form of relationship with them first. It's all about the trust issue for me. Trust, to turn my body/mind over to them and know deep down that in the end I will be ok. Not saying trust can't be broken or compromised with someone you know, but to put myself in that situation they have to be a known entity.

If I was in a scene with a complete stranger I don't think I would be able to "let myself go". I would be worried about protecting not only my body but mind.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I don't do "domination" with strangers. I do sex with strangers once in a while, and I've done topping and bottoming with strangers-- or at least, with people whom I know from the scene but don't know intimately.

Once the scene is done-- I can probably say they are no longer strangers to me.

 

[switchbitch]

Playing with a stranger can be exciting but being dominated by someone you don't have a real connection with is not as satisfying for me. While I 'can' submit to a dominant stranger it takes time to develop that 'need' to serve that satisfies me so much.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Neither!

 

[ImOnIt]

Stranger is not happening. I can top FOR someone I have recently met, I find that interesting.

I couldn't relax/give up autonomy in good faith for most people. That would be people who have proven themselves only.

 

[KoPilot]

I have zero interest in doing anything with anyone other than my SO. Especially since I'm finding out more and more that very little of this is about sex with me (not even the sex most of the time!), and about being myself and being happy and having a safe place to clear my head. And I just don't have it in me to do that with someone I'm not in love with. Shutting that part of me off is preferable.

It doesn't help that everyone I know is inept at everything they do, though, and that I'm the den mother of the bunch. It double also doesn't help that none of them have so much as held hands with a girl that wasn't their sister, and that they probably have no kink proclivities. These experiences might or might not have colored my interpersonal behavior over the past few years.

 

[sweepthefloor]

Since I have not had experience, I can’t have a true preference. Believe it or not though, I have entertained the idea of paying a man sex worker with experience to try it out. It all leads back to trust. I figure if I am paying for it, I don’t have to worry about him coming after me later. He will just be doing his job. I would not have intercourse with him, just other stuff. I know, it might sound crazy, but it makes sense too. Surely it would lack the emotional aspect, but my imagination is so great I could believe I loved him for an hour.

 

[kimuk]

Every Dom's a stranger until you get to know him isn't he?

 

[seela]

Every Dom's a stranger until you get to know him isn't he?

Well, sure, but he won't be dominating me until I get to know him.

And to answer the OP's question: I can't get my buttons pushed by random strangers. There are many dark nooks in my mind that only someone, who knows me really well, is able to use for their advantage.

Also, people other than my bf rarely, if ever, spark my interest in D/s or sexual way thesedays. Lately this has become quite a problem for me actually.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Every Dom's a stranger until you get to know him isn't he?

men, go figure.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Well, sure, but he won't be dominating me until I get to know him.

And to answer the OP's question: I can't get my buttons pushed by random strangers. There are many dark nooks in my mind that only someone, who knows me really well, is able to use for their advantage.

Also, people other than my bf rarely, if ever, spark my interest in D/s or sexual way thesedays. Lately this has become quite a problem for me actually.

This.

 

[sweetstrwbrry08]

Hmm....

Lalala lala lala

 

[Fmature2play]

I would prefer it to be someone I know but more importantly I would prefer it to be another woman. Not enough women into being stronger and more dominant tho.